Have a Few Questions About Strip Clubbing

Been clubbing for years but some things I have just never been able to get a grasp on and wanted to see what you all do in these situations.
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A stripper sits on my lap but I want a dance from another girl. I always end up getting a dance from her because I don't want to say no after we had a conversation. I lose money that I want to spend on a different girl. Often times the girl sitting on my lap is a girl I have had several dances from already which is why I want someone else. I think this particular girl is trying to take me for everything I have.
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What's a good way to get a girl to stop asking if I want VIP? I don't want to go to the VIP because I don't want to spend more than 200 on the night but I also don't want the girl to think I'm poor and not give me a good dance.
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Do you all stay at the club until you get off? I always do! If I have to go a bit above budget I will but there are rare occasions where I just give up on getting off because I don't want to keep blowing cash.
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Do the strippers automatically think everyone sitting in perverts row is broke since they are sitting close to the stage but not close enough to tip every girl?
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What is you drink and type of girl of choice? I love to get a bucket of Heineken to drink over the course of the night, my female preference is white, thin to average, I don't have a preference on height or hair color. Btw I'm white, brown hair, late twenties, tall and thin.
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Strip Clubs are a big part of my life as I find happiness there but not many other places, what about you all?
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last comment1 - Ask her to go away? I've taken a number of approaches, from telling her I didn't plan on getting any dances and didn't want to waste her time, to telling her I'm looking for a little variety today & I'll catch her next time, or anything in between. Just sack up up ask for what you want. She probably thinks you want her there, and she definitely wants to sell some dances.
2 - I don't have a good answer here. Tell her you don't want to do VIP? She'll probably keep asking, I don't see why its a problem. If she's hounding about it, tell her you'll ask her if you want to, otherwise fuck off.
3 - No, I rarely "finish" at a club.
4 - No idea, if you're sitting there watching a girl on stage closely & don't tip, she'll think you're cheap and don't like her, assuming its slow enough for her to notice.
5 - My drink varies. I drink beer some days/places, Whiskey/Scotch/Bourbon other days/places. I go for the slim/athletic types with flat stomachs & firm tits/ass. Height doesn't matter within reason, but I don't touch the big girls so weight does. I couldn't care less about color, hair, eyes, or skin. Tattoo's and piercings don't draw me in or scare me off.
6 - I spend a lot of time in SC's, but they are far from the only place I find happiness.
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Dolfan, thanks for the response! I always enjoy reading what the veterans have to say. 30 clubs is impressive btw.
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I don't have the reviews of Dolfan but.........I have a little experience
If I called her over or if we prearranged us meeting at the club I would probably go with the flow. If not however I would be honest and tell her I am looking for variety.
Not interested plain and simple and no amount of her asking is going to change my mind. Normally I sit at the bar and I tip the manager and the bartender decently.....they tend to look after you a bit more if someone is becoming a pest.
Never did in my first go round with clubs, haven't yet since I started back up a few months ago.
Not sure what perverts row is exactly but I am more of a sitting at the end of the bar type of person so it doesn't enter the picture. I do get up and tip the girls I feel like tipping.
Lately beer the last two times I went to a club they have a microbrewery bar set up that also doubles as a scotch and bourbon bar. Second stage is right off the bar and a go-go dancer stage is actually behind the bar.....bit different of a set up.....normally with warmer weather I'm a gin and tonic person.
Flat stomach is a must.....long legs and a bubble but are second and third on the list.......I'm not bit on Tattoo's but one or two small ones are fine.
I'm just as happy at a sporting event or a concert......something.....I get bored easily and I travel...sitting in a hotel room unless I have a lot of work to do isn't going to cut it.
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1 and 2. Get up and tell her you have to take a shit.
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Per your questions it seems to me you need to be more assertive and proactive in strip-clubs - it seems too many inexperienced and/or young custies don't consciously see that there is a marked difference b/w strip-clubs and the "real world" thus they go to strip-clubs unprepared or w/o the proper mindset - strippers' mindset in strip-clubs is all about the $$$/business but many PLs treat the SC like a singles-bar and thus often get taken or get pennies on the dollar; and this "singles bar" mentality is often manifested w/ the "what do/will dancers think of me" as if the dancers were sizing you up as a potential BF instead of the reality of sizing you up for how much they can get from you; they basically think of you as a walking ATM but many PLs get all emotionally tied up w/ these sex workers - strip clubs is business and you are the one w/ the $$$ and should be the one to call the shots - strippers are there to please you not you please them; that is why one is spending $$$ on them - but many PLs are still hardwired to never say no to a woman and to always try to please them and in a strip club this will often lead to a PL often spending all his $$$ and never getting what he wants - the strip club is about YOU - not the them - if you don't realize this you will often get short-changed - dancers are there to make $$$ and 99% of them wanna make the most $$$ and do the least; if you don't take control of the situation the will and they will do it in a fashion that's best for them, not you; their motivations and desires are not the same as yours and often diametrically opposed.
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If a girls starts talking to me or sits on my lap, and I know that I'm not going to get dances from her, then I'll pretty quickly tell her "I'm not going to get dances and I don't want to waste your time, etc., etc." At a certain point, if she's just refusing to to take the hind, I'll get around to: "You just have to go." What you're doing is bad not just because you've made yourself an easy mark for her the next time you go in, the other dancers will also know that you can be pressured into spending money if they're just pushy enough.
"I'm just her for lap dances." "I like variety." Or, "No." Hate to say it, but questions 1 and 2 will both be solved with a bit of nerve and not giving a fuck.
Not sure if you've heard, but paying for ejaculation services is a chumps game...
Seriously, sometimes that happens; sometimes it doesn't. I just like to let the night unfold.
Every stripper has different opinions of customers, where they choose to root themselves, and how they choose to spend their money. Don't sweat stuff like that. Sit where you want.
Bourbon. Type of girl? Yeah... I'm all over the place really.
A strip club is one of many places where I'm happy. For me, it's a hobby (though an expensive one...). If all the strip clubs went away due to some Twilight Zone-type zaniness, I'd be bummed but I'd have other 'happy places'.
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Learn to say no to strippers in a gentle but firm way. You're in charge. And what's in your wallet is your business.
I club sober. I've learned I waste money if I drink.
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1 & 2, I usually just stop talking to the girl or tell her I need to use the restroom if I want her to fuck off. The mentality that I always use is this "these girls are nothing more than my sex toys and my entertainment. Nothing more and nothing less and they think of me as a walking ATM." this mentality really helps out when deciding on wether to be a dick or not.
Not really lol but I do stay until I feel fully satisfied. Also, to avoid going over my budget I just bring my I.D and a money clip with the money I'm willing to spend, my wallet stays in the car lol.
That's a pretty good question, I'm pretty tough to get money from. I'm very picky with my girls, but I never stand by the stage lol.
My choice of drink is "blue Long Island." However, if I pre gamed I usually get a couple of "heinikens" so I don't pass out.
I don't feel happy in strip clubs. Mainly because I always go with close friends and we always seem to have a good time and we tend to bond more. I'm sure that 40-50 years from now I'm going to be looking back at these days and call it some of my best times of my life... even though I always left broke
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Thank you all for the responses. Advice is always appreciated!
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To echo the others, don't be afraid to say no and be clear with what you want.
I usually say "not right now" when a girl attempts to sit with me and I'm not interested. Sometimes after enough girls see this none will come over. Fine with me, I have no problem approaching strippers or getting a waitress to notify a possibly busy one I want. I know they'll be up for taking my money. That's the hard part for them, finding an ATM.
I don't do VIP.
Usually yes. I have time constraints and cannot go whenever I want so when I do go I attempt to get satisfied. I try to stay under budget but have a hard max spend where I'll leave even if unable to attain satisfaction.
Dunno. I may be one of those dudes for all I know. I rarely stage tip and sometimes sit "close" to the stage. When I want a girl on stage I'll ask her to come see me when her set is done. I tip because everyone going up there tips.
Water. Alcohol makes my dick feel numb.
Attractive girls acting like they want nothing more than to please me. Of course I'm happy there. But I try to remember it's fantasy and not go "too often" to keep it fresh.
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