The Reluctant Dancer
goosman
On A Booty Hunt
Sunday, December 18, 2016 7:38 PM
My thought is that if a dancer ain't out there trying to hustle, even if you want a dance w/her, if you are the one pressing the issue, it probably wont be a good dance. However, at a club i frequent, there is a dancer who absolutely enthralls me. She is guaranteed to get some money out of me on the stage, she is a great dancer (ass popping really), with a hell of an ass and beautiful face. However, this is a club where the girls circle for dollars, particularly after a stage dance. Her on the other hand, is not into that, and after her stage time, she usually goes right back to what she was doing. I would love a spin with her, as she seems to have all the right attributes for a hell of a dance. However, If I have to approach her like I'm crossing the gym at the middle school dance, am i wasting my time
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I too prefer for them to approach me. But sometimes the ones you want don't come up to you, so you've gotta give them a signal or approach them. Can't tell you how many times I would have missed out on getting dances from gorgeous Latinas, if I hadn't approached them
Okay, beyond that, I do think it can be a bad sign when a girl isn't approaching you, or maybe isn't approaching anyone. That said, there really can be a lot of reasons they do that, and not all of them are signs of an impending bad dance. With a couple of my all-time favorite girls, it may be hard to believe but -- the girls were incredibly shy (ya, shy strippers, whoda thunk it), needed to up their courage in order to circulate, and if they got turned down more than a couple of times, needed to go take a little break before they tried again. Sounds silly, but it was really like that. They are, nevertheless, some of my favorite girls ever, and I'm glad I didn't write them off. Here's the kicker, though: shy and insecure strippers often cover that up with a defensive mechanism that makes them seem aloof, bitchy, or like they have GPS. That's how it seems looking at them, but then you talk to them and it melts away fast.
Anyway, if there's 5 other girls at the club who are just as hot, who are all approaching you, don't be doofy and fixate on the one girl who isn't. But if that one girl who isn't approaching you is the one girl you want, I'd say go approach her... you can always back out if she actually has GPS, instead of just appearing like she does
by not dancing for me after she said she would. She turned out to be a real bitch. I am glad I didn't waste my money on her.
Don't feel shy to approach dancers. Many dancers are also shy to approach customers. Make eye contact or go and talk to them.
Take advantage of it, its rare that I run into a dancer that catches my attention like that very often. I'd say once every 4-5 months.
I just had a feeling that she would give terrific dances and asked her back. On the way she apologized because "I've just started and I don't think it will be much good". "Oh, well", I thought, "I'll man up and do one with her". Pretty serious underselling!
As it happened, her dances were better than 70% of the dances I had ever had to that point. Luckily, she was very coachable. I told her what turned me on, how to evaluate and approach PLs, and what, within the boundaries of her club, would turn them on.
She sold four more dances that afternoon on the day shift. Her dances quickly became some of the best I ever had and I had earned her trust.
Ask the girl! Give her a chance and if she is just shy, you will be rewarded many times over. On the other hand, if she's just a sourpuss, she needs to find a new profession anyway. It won't cost much to find out.
Risk/Reward
Worst scenario is that you pay for a lap dance that is subpar.
It's possible you can find another to add to your favorites list, maybe your ATF.
Somewhat related: there was a girl Sunday who I had an eye on. Walked up to her, initiated conversation and everything. Stood there trying to talk to her for four songs. Eventually I was about to give up when she said "I need to look for some dances"...rather than point out her alarming idiocy, I just said she didn't have to look far. Three dances later, we were both pretty cool with each other. Sometimes they're just that dense.
SJG