I am beginning something I haven't tried before and I want some advice from the serious mongers on here, not the Fruit Loops crowd. I took a chance on a posting in Craig's list that looks like a real person. We have exchanged several E-mails and she is quite knowledgeable about my local area. She writes well and claims to be educated. She(?) has euphemistically indicated a "mutually satisfying" relationship. I assume this is pay for play or Sugar Daddy stuff. She(?) claims to be 23. We have arranged to meet ,in a public place, next Thursday. I guess I know I can handle my business but I wonder if there is anything I have missed? What are the odds she(?) is a guy? What are the odds she is a pig? Does anyone care to hear how it turns out? I have not asked for a picture or a description as that could all be faked. I figure a two hour lunch meeting with an escape clause (work) should be sufficient to suss this out. If not please let me know.
Personally I would insist on a photo before meeting.
I can't tell you how many times back in the day I'd talk to someone on AM, hit it off really well then finally get a photo and be so disappointed I wouldnt even respond.
Not always the case but a lot of times if a woman doesn't want to show her photo she's ugly. I did meet three total smoking hot babes that were very reluctant to show their photos, BUT I always had a photo before we met. I probably talked to over 30 that turned out to be hideous, not just "meh okay" but hideous. So I guess I was running about 10% hot girls.
In my serious monger, non-fruit loop opinion, there are about a million ways that this can go wrong. Individually the risk of each particular nightmare scenario is low but collectively the risk is much greater. I don't understand why somebody would take all of these risks when it's pretty easy to fuck a stripper in a relationship that is far less risky. Even if you get lucky and this works out for you, I still think it was a stupid risk to take.
I appreciate that John. My reasoning went that way as well. I get a stripper to blow me for my time and money and there is no complication. I get that. It works every time. I guess I was looking for something a little more complex. I have read some the stories on here about involvement and its discontents but I still want to give it a ,possibly one time, shot., Appreciate the heads up gentlemen.
I get pretty bored at times traveling for work and I've downloaded so many apps on my phone to kill time... and craigslist was one of them at a time. I used to browse the ads in different towns looking for something that I collect. Of course I'd browse the personals too and man people on there were fucking creepy.
One time I was in a small rural town and someone described me to a "T" in the missed connections section. There were two gorgeous girls working at this same store so I actually reponded out of curiosity, only time I ever reponded to a personal on there. Turns out it wasn't either of the girls I thought were hot and I wasn't the guy either. The girl described what area of the store she worked in and I even snuck in a week later to catch a glimpse - she was butt ugly. Oh well - I had hoped it was the 20 year old that was a 10 working at the check out counter! Lol
This was in the "Women looking for Men" section. The other sections are either creepy or fake as far as I know. There is a chance of misrepresentation here as well but she is probably more interested in my money then I am in her. I figure that since I have the strip club option I am not exactly a desperately horny idiot.
Anything is possible including she being hot and it working out, only one way to find out, although the more info the better meaning a photo would help - let us know how it went
The Craigslist casual encounters w4m section is the one that is most filled with fakes, scams, spammers and setups. You're far more likely to be dealing with something that is not what it claims that with something that is real.
*Always* get a pic. Have her hold up some number of fingers, or a recognizable magazine cover, or something else not easily photoshopped.
I have successfully engaged from CL, but it's a rare thing to have it turn out to be all on the up and up.
Only contact I ever had was when I was going on a long bike trip alone. I was looking for a lady in the area where I was headed that might ride around with me. Everything went well, up till the time we were to meet. At that point she became evasive and wouldn't meet at any public place that wasn't her only choice. Wouldn't even state HER second choice. Made me wonder what was so "special" about her place. I figured it might be a set up, so no more contact.
The place we are meeting is a busy restaurant in the middle of town. Is she gets evasive next week I would bail . My Spidey sense is still on full alert and ,since I don't know if she is hot, the little head is still asleep.
You're asking for trouble. As swingers we meet strangers all the time, but this is our process: Chat; email; view pics; telephone chat between the 2 males halves of the cpl; telephone chat by the two female halves of the couple. Meet in a public place after texting each other we have arrived. I am guessing you must have sent her/him a pic or how would you know who you're looking for .....
Great advice from every one (thanks SkiBum) . I just got a picture from her and unfortunately I am not a color barrier crosser. Not exactly Alt-Right but not interested. I went Black and I came back so it is not like I do not know.
Do you live in a small or large town? I'm guessing smaller town has less likely of something fishy/crazy.
That's the case where small town women just don't have access much to the outside world other than the grocery store so they have to resort to online options like Craigslist or match.com for an encounter.
In a large cities women and men have a ton of things at their disposal to socialize. Therefore the serial killers pretty on Craigslist for a vulnerable retard. Okay maybe not the severe but you get he idea.
I've never done craigslist. I've checked it out a few times. But most of the times I just assumed it wasn't what was claimed and sometimes if they did provide a picture with the ad, most were just butt ugly anyways (maybe those were the real ones).
Never did escorts either. That always seemed sketchy to me also.
Anyways, this is why I've always preferred the strip club. I got to see what the girl looked like before any VIP action. If you like it, then you can always try for the OTC action after sampling the girl's wares.
To me, clubbing is the only real way to go to know what you are getting and is the safest route, IMO.
Meeting someone for lunch who is almost forty years younger and a different race is not a discrete move in a city of less than 200,000 people. I might be open to other races in the club but not on the street.
"Meeting someone for lunch who is almost forty years younger and a different race is not a discrete move in a city of less than 200,000 people. I might be open to other races in the club but not on the street."
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LOL!
First of all it's "discreet", not "discrete," and we all share your concern that you might be seen with a black person!!! And with only 200,000 people? LOL.
Glad we don't have any "Fruit Loops" in this thread !!!!!
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I can't tell you how many times back in the day I'd talk to someone on AM, hit it off really well then finally get a photo and be so disappointed I wouldnt even respond.
Not always the case but a lot of times if a woman doesn't want to show her photo she's ugly. I did meet three total smoking hot babes that were very reluctant to show their photos, BUT I always had a photo before we met. I probably talked to over 30 that turned out to be hideous, not just "meh okay" but hideous. So I guess I was running about 10% hot girls.
I get pretty bored at times traveling for work and I've downloaded so many apps on my phone to kill time... and craigslist was one of them at a time. I used to browse the ads in different towns looking for something that I collect. Of course I'd browse the personals too and man people on there were fucking creepy.
One time I was in a small rural town and someone described me to a "T" in the missed connections section. There were two gorgeous girls working at this same store so I actually reponded out of curiosity, only time I ever reponded to a personal on there. Turns out it wasn't either of the girls I thought were hot and I wasn't the guy either. The girl described what area of the store she worked in and I even snuck in a week later to catch a glimpse - she was butt ugly. Oh well - I had hoped it was the 20 year old that was a 10 working at the check out counter! Lol
*Always* get a pic. Have her hold up some number of fingers, or a recognizable magazine cover, or something else not easily photoshopped.
I have successfully engaged from CL, but it's a rare thing to have it turn out to be all on the up and up.
That's the case where small town women just don't have access much to the outside world other than the grocery store so they have to resort to online options like Craigslist or match.com for an encounter.
In a large cities women and men have a ton of things at their disposal to socialize. Therefore the serial killers pretty on Craigslist for a vulnerable retard. Okay maybe not the severe but you get he idea.
Never did escorts either. That always seemed sketchy to me also.
Anyways, this is why I've always preferred the strip club. I got to see what the girl looked like before any VIP action. If you like it, then you can always try for the OTC action after sampling the girl's wares.
To me, clubbing is the only real way to go to know what you are getting and is the safest route, IMO.
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LOL!
First of all it's "discreet", not "discrete," and we all share your concern that you might be seen with a black person!!! And with only 200,000 people? LOL.
Glad we don't have any "Fruit Loops" in this thread !!!!!
SJG