SC with a Female Friend
Ch3ll
Arizona
I guess I kind of surprised her by asking, but she jokingly said oh you want to go to the strip club. I could tell she wasn't offended, but later I learned despite her being down to go she didn't necessarily want to go with what she had on.
So we go to the nearest strip club after I asked the question and I'll just say it was chill. The atmosphere really wasn't to live and the girls weren't to great so neither of us were very interested, but we had half our beers watched a couple stage sets and left. All and all a good visit being it was my first with someone who may be a possible girlfriend.
Any of you guys ever went with a girlfriend or wife? How was it? I know one of the guys on here is married and mentioned they go, but I can't recall his name right now.
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She had had enough after just 10 minutes. She was the only female customer. So neither one of us had a good time and she never brought it up again.
The whole trip is about her. you have to watch her reaction. The second she's no longer "fine" you need to either adjust the situation ITC so she can get back to enjoying herself, or realize it's heading south, and bag the trip for the night. Things can go south in a hurry with a women who's lost security or confidence, etc.
Personally, I would have bailed the second it was apparent she was not okay with what she was wearing. IMO, this is not surprising. How women feel about herself and about her appearance is part of her self esteem and self confidence. This is not new. It's really not fair to take a (most, many?) women out like that without letting her "get ready" or "get dressed" for the evening.
I also find civvie women don't like to stay out ITC for long. Often 40-60 minutes is enough for most of them. So, IME, don't *Wait* to find the right girl for dances or VIP. She'll be real into it for the first 1/2 of the visit, then she starts to lose interest. Get your private dances during that second half, but keep an eye on her or keep her close by. Watch her reaction. Once it's clear she's not fine, or she and a catty dancer get into, intervene, then bail.
The 2nd half of my trips, usually involves the civvie and the dancers either eating something from the kitchen, talking, and watching me get dances, or she'll sit by the tip rail with another dancer, with singles, waiting for me to get back.
Basically, unlike some on here, I don't sit with her the entire time, but I do keep an eye on her. Most of the girls I've gone with 'get off on' letting me 'go off' with another dancer to enjoy myself. But each woman is different and unique. So keep an eye on her, communicate, and be mindful of how she's reacting at any given point.
I hope this helps.
In general idea stick to low mileage clubs and stage tipping until you get a better feel if she's actually bi.
Now, although she's an open minded freak, she said she would go to a club if I wanted to, but wasn't on the top of her list. I'd say most other open minded girls share her views.
Chances are no matter how hot a girl you have, there's going to be hotter girls working in the club. Your girl is sitting in the corner with regular clothes on and there's a beautiful girl naked on stage that everyone is glorifying. It'll make your girl feel inferior and no girl likes to feel that way.
Some girls are cool with that, but most aren't.
I'm sure it'll be a repeat if we stay cool with each other but at a better club. This particular club Id been to 2 times already and never enjoyed it or got a lap dance, but like in my original post it was the closest.
My ATF and I have gone a couple times. She loves it.