OTC spat
jaredlucas
Arizona
Took a new dancer friend out to brunch over memorial day weekend and she had a bit too much to drink. This is the second time has become drunk with me.
While at the bar after brunch She recognizes another PL from her club and begins to order him a drink on my tab.
I stop the order and advise if she wants to send someone else a drink who I don't know that she will need to pay for it out of her personal funds. She is genuinely shocked and says Its only $5 why not?
I advise that I won't pay for drinks for someone who I don't know especially if it for another PL while I am out with her. I don't care if it is only $5 or $500 it won't happen on my dime.
She gets pouty and says he has money and wanted to talk to him about investing in a business opportunity which she could not articulate. I stand my ground and tell her that she can do that on her own time. Not mine
She orders herself another shot after and the bartender cuts her off. She gets indignant and Starts creating a scene so I decide to close the tab and take her home- ending the date. Just drove her home her home and dropped her off - No sex.
Had intended to write her off but today she calls and starts bitching about How I just dropped her off and did not even kiss or hug her goodbye. I told her she was embarrasingly drunk and I had no Interest in babysitting her drunkeness. I also advised That I have no tolerance for her chasing down other guys while I'm with her.
She apologizes and asks to go out again. I agree but advise that we will need to limit her drinks. We agree to try another date tomorrow but after two drunken experiences with her I'm thinking that I should cancel. Sex is ok but not mind blowing
Thoughts?
While at the bar after brunch She recognizes another PL from her club and begins to order him a drink on my tab.
I stop the order and advise if she wants to send someone else a drink who I don't know that she will need to pay for it out of her personal funds. She is genuinely shocked and says Its only $5 why not?
I advise that I won't pay for drinks for someone who I don't know especially if it for another PL while I am out with her. I don't care if it is only $5 or $500 it won't happen on my dime.
She gets pouty and says he has money and wanted to talk to him about investing in a business opportunity which she could not articulate. I stand my ground and tell her that she can do that on her own time. Not mine
She orders herself another shot after and the bartender cuts her off. She gets indignant and Starts creating a scene so I decide to close the tab and take her home- ending the date. Just drove her home her home and dropped her off - No sex.
Had intended to write her off but today she calls and starts bitching about How I just dropped her off and did not even kiss or hug her goodbye. I told her she was embarrasingly drunk and I had no Interest in babysitting her drunkeness. I also advised That I have no tolerance for her chasing down other guys while I'm with her.
She apologizes and asks to go out again. I agree but advise that we will need to limit her drinks. We agree to try another date tomorrow but after two drunken experiences with her I'm thinking that I should cancel. Sex is ok but not mind blowing
Thoughts?
33 comments
That was great! I wish I had called out some dancers that way.
Skip the bar before if you do see her. Bring a bottle of wine to the room if alcohol is a must for the date.
Assuming you have money, she said the other PL has money, so she probably thinks both of you are "big shots." By her ordering a drink for that guy, it could have made her feel like a "big shot" too. - Not that she was justified in doing that (no way!!!) but that could be her thought process.
Not sure I would give her another chance, unless your options on finding a replacement are limited. I just wouldn't give her another chance so quickly. I'd wait a week or two.
Her complaining to you, shows she thinks she did nothing wrong.
So, over-the-top drunk, and unacceptably ordering another guy a drink on your tab, likely go hand-in-glove. But it's not like DS 1 getting another guys phone number, while totally sober, right in front of JS, while on a vacation he paid for. Your girl is sober, no way she's doing that, is my guess. So, here's what I'd do:
- If I"m so disgusted it's spoiled the fantasy and harshed my buzz, she's fired
- If I have other easy OTCs lined up already anyway, no reason to see her again, she's fired
- If neither of the above two apply, I might take her OTC with an pre-agreement that she's not to drink so much, and I'd enforce that ... once I see she's had 3 in her, we're heading to the hotel.
The problem with the third option, of course, is that with strippers, I've found that the girls who get sloppy drunk, do it a lot and have trouble controlling it. So even if you pull off the third option once -- cut her off after 3 and head to the room -- if you keep OTCing with her eventually she'll get drunk and obnoxious and disrespectful and entitled again, and probably sooner rather than later
Thanks for your inputs. It has fueled my rational thought process absent of emotion. As I have two other OTC ladies I'm kicking this one to the curb.
Ironically, she just texted me early this Morning to confirm we are on for dinner.
Won't reply until much later to advise that won't be making it tonite or any other Nite. Pity though as She is smoking hot.
Thanks!
Jared
In particular if this is a P4P situation; I don't expect anything less than her kissing my ass - why the f*** am I gonna pay to get disrespected - f' that - most of us are too old to be dealing with drama - if I'm gonna pay I'm gonna pay for a good time; not to be putting up w/ SS.
She isn't P4P just fun OTC. Funny that she is the only OTC gal I see that does NOT say she loves me.
, Yet pursues me for OTC fun. My Other OTC ladies don't typically initiate any fun OTC.
Because she doesn't love me I might let give me a couple more BJs though. Ha ha.
Jared
She needs to learn to respect herself - and you. I feel badly for the other PL - not because of the drink thing - but because he's thinking of getting involved in business with her!
Run Forrest. Run!
Better just to take her to a motel room. But then I guess she could call room service.
Better then just to your own home, and have food available. Or just to somewhere that people don't conduct themselves that way.
Or just a different girl.
LMFAO, but only because it was not me there with her. If it had been, I'd be pissed. And she paying for the guy's drink herself would not make it okay.
SJG