Stripper keeps bailing on meeting OTC - what to do?
Hello all,
First time poster to this site, I recently met a dancer who I am getting a great vibe from and great dances from - we have exchanged numbers and know each other's real names - I have seen her 5-6 times already.
We have talked about meeting OTC and have discussed a rate and where to meet, but she has committed to doing so and then bails last minute.
She says she is going back and forth in her head on if she wants to do this - any strategies on how to make this finally work?
Thanks in advance!
T
First time poster to this site, I recently met a dancer who I am getting a great vibe from and great dances from - we have exchanged numbers and know each other's real names - I have seen her 5-6 times already.
We have talked about meeting OTC and have discussed a rate and where to meet, but she has committed to doing so and then bails last minute.
She says she is going back and forth in her head on if she wants to do this - any strategies on how to make this finally work?
Thanks in advance!
T
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TheeOSU - Great point, one of the main reasons I want her OTC is because we've pretty much maxed out what we can do in ITC - I'm torn between seeing her at the club and pursuing this and feeling like I'm getting stringed- thoughts?
But once she needs the money and agrees to otc, you sometimes need to help it along. My suggestion may help. If it doesnt , I suggest you cut your losses and stop getting dances in the club from her entirely.
This has more to do with my wallet then me
That bears repeating. It's a stripper's job to make it feel like you have a great vibe ... you really have no idea whether you actually have a great vibe, or whether it's all smoke and mirrors, brilliantly created by her. Even the real name thing can be a calculated part of her hustle. Usually, it's the latter. And, as TheeOSU says, the smart strategy on her part, even if she has no intention of going OTC with you, is to do exactly what she's doing... flake on OTCs, tell you she's conflicted, etc.
That said, strippers can be legitimately conflicted, and flake regularly without any reason at all. I've done something in your position, that most guys here will howl at, but has worked for me multiple times... If I truly believe the girl is on the fence, but a little push will move her one way or the other, I'll make things as easy for her as I can. "We'll start off with dinner and drinks, and if you end up uncomfortable and calling it off, no worries (but with no payment). And, in the room, if you're only comfortable with BJ or even HJ (at a suitably reduced rate), I'm okay with that. All your call." I have, more than once, gotten a girl over the hump and OTCing with me, once I gave her a lot more freedom. And once they show up and get some drinks in them, they very rarely limit the sexual activity to BJ or HJ -- although you have to be prepared for that to happen.
The ability to get this girl OTC is a fantasy - that's it - I have relayed many times to her that I don't want anything personal and would prefer to keep it professional. So maybe a little nudge is in order?
"...and feeling like I'm getting stringed- thoughts?"
99% of the time you feel like you are being stringed along by a stripper, you are.
98.9% of the time you don't feel like you are being stringed along by a dancer, you are.
I am just unfamiliar of the rules in this world - I think the best course of action is to slow things down and go scarce a bit - nothing is more boring then to ask for the same thing over and over again.
I'm not looking for a partner here, just a hottie to have fun with. Period.
Of course, the critical factor here is that you need to mean it, and follow through accordingly.
Strippers are infinite; your time and money are not.
Back off, with something like "I get that you're conflicted. Think about it for a bit and I'll lay off for a while."
Then start spending a little less money. :)
Best thing a SC playa can do is set his expectations low that way he won't be disappointed.
I enjoy the wackiness that is this little hobby, just want to make sure I understand the rules of the game!
But if you're a variety hit-it -and-quit-it PL then perhaps it may be a one & done.
No serious emotions. No strings attached.
"- all I want out of this girl is pay and play, keep it casual and fun.
No serious emotions. No strings attached., "
that's what most of want, until we don't .
Could you elaborate on what you mean "until we don't" - is the pursuit of something like this not worth it? Or do guys generally become a PL?
What are the traits of a SC Playboy then?
:)
"- all I want out of this girl is pay and play, keep it casual and fun.
No serious emotions. No strings attached., "
We all tell ourselves that at the beginning...
It rarely ends that way.
See her and fuck her often enough, and you'll soon join the ranks of PL extraordinaire.
Because technically, serotonin and dopamine are the only things you *really* like.
This is true, except the phenomenons stop working when you get married.
After a long enough period of no serotonin and dopamine release the fresh flush when fucking a new pussy starts working its magic. Thus mid-life crises and PLs. :)