Falling for a stripper: Please snap me out of it

22 comments

• rogertex

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  8 years ago

  "Am I being hustled by an all-star" Yes sir ! You are getting 100% value for your time and money. With 0% baggage. What's not to love. You only live once. Enjoy the moment.
• lopaw

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  8 years ago

  Here's my take : 2 visits, 4 VIP's and healthy tips from a guy who isn't repulsive. She's got a great thing going here. She's maxing out her potential with you. Odds are that she's got the string-em-along stripper thing working for her and she knows that you are money in the bank. Yes she could have feelings for you - it's not impossible. But it is very improbable. Enjoy the ride, fuck her brains out, but don't break the bank. Give it time and see what happens. Easiest test is of course to stop spending money on her in the club and see how she treats you.
• shailynn

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  8 years ago

  Let's bring you back down to earth, because I have been in your shoes in the past as well, and we are pretty close in age. 1. You just did 4 pricey VIPs and now she's going on a short vacay with her BF - guess who just paid for that vacay? 2. Several strippers will throw out "I love you" sounding like they really mean it to anyone. My retired ATF did the same thing to me, after 1 visit and 1 night together, 2 weeks later she's telling me she "loves me" on the phone, yeah I liked it, but it freaked me out at the same time, and eventually I figured it was a phrase to not take seriously. 3. Talking about a wife and boyfriends is crossing a line I do not like to cross. I keep those lives separate (strip club life, personal life) and feel it's easier that way. 4. TV Shows knowledge = savvy stripper!!!! I met a stripper awhile back who was full of knowledge about NCAA and NBA basketball which made me honry talking about it. After I got to know her better she said it was all a scheme for something just to talk to guys about to get more money out of them. The smart strippers will try to become knowledgeable on subjects guys like so they have something to talk about, whether it be sports, cars, guns, TV shows, etc. etc. When you have something in common to talk about, conversation flows much more smoothly which will usually open up wallets more as well. 5. There's nothing wrong with what you said so far, and only you know what you can afford on those expensive VIP trips, so I suggest you do what you feel comfortable with. If that's once a month or once a week do what works best for you. Lastly - being younger does have its advantages inside the club, although breaking the barrier is tough. I am under 40 and still have a tough time getting attention in the club. Younger strippers and usually bad at determining age and often say I look under 30, which is a bad thing because most assume I don't have a lot of money to spend so they write me off. BUT once they do discover I can spend freely, they sure like doing ITC with me over some guy in their 50s or 60s. Guys like you and I are still young enough that there is a more likely but still subtle chance of mutual attraction between a stripper and you.
• Bavarian

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  8 years ago

  "Feelings" don't belong in a strip club so forget about that. Sounds like you are having a hell of a time! Stringing along is what Nina did to the PL who spent 20-30k and did not get his willy wet.
• jackslash

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  8 years ago

  Don't listen to the professional cynics of TUSCL. This stripper loves you. Divorce the wife to whom you're happily married and make the stripper your wife. What could possibly go wrong?
• Subraman

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  8 years ago

  Okay, here's the easy part: if you are paying, it is business. Period, end of story. No one, not even a wiley vet like me, is immune to the hustle of a very talented stripper -- her acting ability is far better than your (or mine) bullshit detector. Thank our lucky stars we don't have to rely on our bullshit detectors, since we have a never-wrong litmus test: are you paying? BTW, the few times I ended up in a "real" relationship with a stripper, paying her became out of the question, and to a significant extent she pursued me. None of which doesn't mean you aren't a favored customer of hers... but in addition, it probably also means she's a talented salesperson who has profiled you correctly as being vulnerable to this kind of lovey-dovey hustle. It always cracks me up how these types of strippers throw out "I love you" so easily and quickly. C'mon, she said she loves you after what, two trips in the club? Even for a smitten regular, when you see it typed out like that, you have to realize it's ridiculous, right? Enjoy the ride if you can keep yourself under control, but the fact that you'd even question this makes me think you might be better off running... which, of course, you won't do :)
• larryfisherman

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  8 years ago

  Feelings? You paid her a lot of money, and she delivered a service. What am I missing?
• londonguy

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  8 years ago

  I couldn't have put it better than lopaw. To me she sounds like an expert and separating guys from their cash. Jackslash...that's a typically funny response from your good self :-)
• JohnSmith69

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  8 years ago

  The fact that she says she loves you after two club visits pretty much proves that it's just a ploy to keep getting your money. Cause if she really loves you, of course, it would be free. But she sounds like an awesome stripper. So keep fucking her and enjoy it. Start taking her on OTC dates. Just don't fall in love. Enjoy the shit out of the fantasy that she's your girlfriend, but always know that she's not your girlfriend. The key is to enjoy the fantasy like it's real while all the time knowing beyond a shadow of a doubt that it's not real. If you can't make those clear distinctions, then stop seeing her immediately.
• JohnSmith69

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  8 years ago

  One more thing. She does the same thing with lots of other guys that she does with you. Know this up front, accept it fully, and never be jealous. If you can't do that, then don't see her either. She's not your girlfriend in any sense of that term. She's just an extraordinary actress.
• K

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  8 years ago

  She was saying "I love you " to your wallet. Not you. Assume she really does love you. If she falls in love with you that easily, she will fall in love with someone else just as easily. If she leaves her BF for you, she will leave you for the next guy. You've spent no time in the real world building a relationship. Enjoy the fantasy in the club. Leave it there. Walk away if you can't
• Cashman1234

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  8 years ago

  You need to snap out of this quickly! It's already getting expensive - as your trips to VIP are adding up. No reason for me to go on and on. If you start having these "feelings" again - come back and read Lopaw and Shailynn comments. You've got a wife for your feelings - not a P4P dancer!!!
• a21985

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  8 years ago

  Seriously guys, thank you for all the responses. This was the first dancer that was ever good enough at reading me to the point got she me away from my usual routine I had to avoid this kind of thing. I embarrassingly blended business/fantasy with reality to her benefit, and I really needed some proverbial slaps in the face from you guys. Advice noted, wallet getting put back in my pocket.
• Timex345

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  8 years ago

  I always keep in mind that the women working in the showclubs most likely already have a boyfriend or someone they are dating outside of the club. This always helps me keep my emotions in check. I take breaks from visiting the clubs as well. This helps too. I also have seen girls being dropped off by their boyfriends so that shoots me back to reality. Nothing kills a good time at a showclub by wanting to visit with just one entertainer. I do my best to avoid spending all of my time with just one girl.
• sclvr5005

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  8 years ago

  It was as a pleasure being your therapist. TUSCL thanks you for your patronage. Please pay the receptionist on your way out.
• Subraman

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  8 years ago

  Well, I think we made some real breakthroughs this session. I see our hour is up, see you again next week
• sharkhunter

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  8 years ago

  When I was new to strip clubs, one young dancer threw out the words love you and I love you all the time. Then she got me to repeat the words back to her at her repeated request. I understood it didn't mean much to her. I ended up seeing her just for dances away from the club. Found out later she had a boyfriend she never mentioned to me which explained why she was so hands off. When he left, she was clinging to me real hard. When I told her I was moving to another state and told her goodbye, it was the first time I believed she put some real feeling into the words I love you because she was crying and saying a lot more. I wasn't in love though.
• GoVikings

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  8 years ago

  Jackslash Lololol
• Estafador

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  8 years ago

  in old people standards this is a perfect dilemna. You pay you fuck and you go. No dating required. What's the problem here? (
• dallas702

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  8 years ago

  Dude, do NOT overthink this!!!! Try to hold back enough money to pay your bills and try to keep your job. Otherwise, just enjoy the rollercoaster ride! She is stripping and fucking because she wants money to come fast and easy, NOT because she is a stable, conservative, financial genius. She may like you, she may just like your money. The only way you'll ever know the difference will be to see her OTC for a while. If she buys, or cooks, dinner then fucks you repeatedly without P4P, it is possible that she enjoys your company. If she finally kicks the loser boyfriend out so you can come stay at her place, she probably really likes you. If you see her often enough, you will be part of her next financial crises and the big fight with her loser boyfriend. You will be asked to fork over money for the electric bill, moving, fixing her car and any number of other emergencies. Whether she really likes you, or not, she will assume that if you care about her you will pay. She will eventually get mad at you and scream and yell, then (if she has busted up with her boyfriend) she will insist on making up with an entire night of steamy sex. She will likely drop off the grid for days or even weeks. She may even start texting you way too often and at awkward times (like texting you while she is giving some other PL a lap dance) If you want to see more of this stripper, you can manage it. It will be a twisting, strange journey. It will NOT all be fun. But hell, it might include some of the best sex you'll ever have.
• s88

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  8 years ago

  @a21985 What you have is a fake girlfriend, that is more expensive and rare than even full service. IME GFE (DFK/"I love you"/cuddling) costs more than full service. You will never put a ring on it but enjoy her while she lasts. My ATF has never offered prices or negotiated for extras, she just does them and hopes for whatever I give her above the SC minimum, and she takes it no questions asked. " I like to believe my particular looks, younger age, relationship status, and personality makes me naturally come off as "safe" to dancers. But I've never gotten this gotten this kind of reaction before and this girl is really getting in my head. Someone snap me out of these PL goggles I can't take off and help me understand what's going on!" Yes, you are probably dream customer, you shave, you shower and wash your dick, wear deodorant, own a washing machine, no beer belly or gang tats. Do you wear rough (blue jeans) or soft fabric pants to the SC? Strippers hate rough fabric. If she is getting in your head, it means you have a keeper stripper. I goto sleep every night dreaming about my ATF. I still know that in a couple months I will have to say goodbye forever to her since she will move back home. ATF knows Im poor and I have a budget, but Im much better than typical SC customers. I FIV her only with permission. I dont try to recruit her for "dancing at private parties" or "modeling". I let her talk about her life and not my life, etc. @Timex345 With my ATF, I've driven her to the SC once for her shift, and picked her up another time. So it might not be a BF but a customer. Some strippers have attachment problems, they have multiple BFs or guy friends or regulars due to daddy issues. I'll exploit her daddy issue and attachment issue aslong as I can OTC. My ATF told me on the 2nd time we met, I am not the only guy in her life, and she left it at that. I told her immediately after, that she isnt the only dancer I know in the club and there were others before she started working here, and she then acknowledged that she knows Im a SC customer. Aslong as both sides know there is no exclusiveness, there cant be hurt feelings.
• Virgo62

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  8 years ago

  Great comments from different perspectives, but the basic advice remains the same. Keep having fun with her only if you can afford it mentally and financially. Dropping significant sums of money, smashing her regularly, and knowing she has a boyfriend will lead to you possibly catching feelings and getting hurt. There are no receipts or guarantees in this game. When I was new to the scene, I dated several OTC, but it was just the long con. Requests for money outside of OTC for every bullshit reason you can imagine. I withheld my money, and they all went away except one. I stayed with her for 2 years, and then I discovered a ferocious opiate habit. She's in rehab now, and the fun and fantasy is over. Bottom line...Keep it in the club, or see someone else if she's pulling at your heartstrings.