FWB girl turns to stripping OTC and ITC extras

jaredlucas
Arizona
Have had the good fortune of meeting a very hot lady on a sugar daddy site whereby we began dating and sometimes would have sex - sometimes not during or before our dates. She has not asked for any financial assistance, but I of course pay for all of our travel and entertainment when we get together. This went on for several months and it was amazing to be in the middle of a May - December fantasy relationship . Was feeling good!

She is gorgeous and significantly younger ( 20+ years) than me, but I foolishly began to develop feelings for her. Deluding myself into thinking that this amazing sex could go on forever, she surprised me one day by telling me that she had began dancing to help pay off her student loans. I was actually disturbed by this and it put a damper on the rest of the date. We ended the date with the equivalent of a kiss you would give your sister...no sparks at all.

Went in the club she was dancing at a few times and we would visit awhile ( no dances) before we would leave to grab a bite or drinks OTC. I would typically pay her $100 to sit with me for about an hour and not dance for anyone else while I was there. One day she suggested that instead of paying her to visit why don't we head into the VIP room. So we did, and of course, I got horned up very quickly and tried to coax a blow job out of her. We had previously had very good sex about 5-6 times before she began dancing so I was surprised that she wouldn't accommodate me - especially since she gives excellent head. Instead, I got a very "secretive" hand job underneath my untucked dress shirt.

Since then I have had her in the VIP room solo and with another girl. While solo she still only performs very careful hand jobs, no oral, FIV etc... Even though we continue having excellent uninhibited sex OTC with no extra fees. Ironically The other girl ( who I had never met) has given me excellent head both times in the VIP while we were doing threesome dances while my "girl" continues to refrain from providing any significant extras . Even so it has been amazing experience for me.

About a week ago I dropped into the club and saw my "girl" performing floor dances. Her head was in this guys crotch a long time which I found irritating to watch but she came and sat with me after she finished up. Later that evening we left to have dinner and ended up at her place. She is quite attractive and has become a top earner at the club which leads me to believe that she spends a lot of time in the VIP area.

After dinner we got on the subject of the VIP room and i asked her how many regulars she gave hand jobs to. She says I'm the only one, doesn't want anyone to think she provides takeout or does extras. She said just grinds them or hums on their dicks through pants for her other regulars . Sometimes they cum in their pants. (I'm thinking she may be refraining from extras because she is humping or has a crush on the manager) Because I continue to have regular sex with her outside the club and she wont provide any ITC extras to me I want to believe that she might be keeping it clean , but my pragmatic side comes into play

Not that it should matter, but I am inclined to test her "extras chastity" by having a friend or possibly another Tucson based TUSCL member see what kind of mileage they can get. I know i am going to get blasted by the more established members for considering this , but I'm willing to take some shots and learn from their collective wisdom. In the end she is a stripper but I'm confused by the mileage I continue to get OTC and none ITC. I may just quit visiting the club in favor of another one and continue seeing her for OTC fun

Also having begun to pay for VIP dances is starting to blurs the line when we see each other outside the club.





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londonguy
9 years ago
If it were me I'd be happy with what you have had and what you're getting. She's a free agent and I think you're being too possessive.
jackslash
9 years ago
I agree with London. What are you bitching about?
JohnSmith69
9 years ago
Even at the height of my love affair with the DS, I never even considered something so extreme. She's a slut. Accept it, enjoy it, and get over the stupid jealousy. She's not your wife, and you don't want her to be.
JohnSmith69
9 years ago
And don't ask her what she does for other guys. It's none of your business and you only force her to lie. My girls never ask me what I do with other strippers, and I never ask what they do with other customers. If you can't do this, you should not be playing with sex workers.
georgmicrodong
9 years ago
I'll chime in on the bandwagon. Unless you're willing to fully support her, and she agrees, it's none of you're business what she's doing or not doing for others. You have a right to be concerned, of course, if you're raw dogging it and you suspect she's doing the same for others, but that becomes an "if you can't stand the heat, stay out of the kitchen" scenario.

Dating (because that's what you're doing) a sex worker is not like dating other women. Learn to deal or find another woman.
crazyjoe
9 years ago
^^ true
gawker
9 years ago
I agree with JS69 with one caveat: my ATF and I frequently tell each other sex stories. Some based on reality; some total fiction. We've all shared "our first time" stories, I'm sure. There's one story she has told me that starts out, " there was a tall handsome man tipping very well while I danced. I approached him after I was off stage and we went for a lap dance. I very quickly felt his enormous dick rising up towards his navel and damned if the head sticks out above his pants. Off to VIP we went, cuz I just had to see if this guy knew how to use his God given gift".... The rest of her "story" is about fantastic sex, sucking on his 12 inch cock, and typical porn movie antics. Well, after hearing the same story several times she told me its all true. Another story of hers is she's coming out of her gym at night, meets a tall Nordic God and has sex on the hood of his Mercedes. This one is pure fiction. These are fun, harmless, and spice things up.
Anyone who gets possessive with a sex worker is setting themselves up for disappointment.
shailynn
9 years ago
I just met a stripper that I am probably meeting OTC this weekend, or at the very least next month.

I really liked her, she's smart, sincere and super cute. It also helps that she says she can't wait to get naked for me. During our many conversations this past weekend there are some gaps, I am under the impression she travels around to other high end, big spending guys. I think she is actually attracted to me because we are close in age.

Anyway I have told myself what ever she does when she's not with me is her business, not mine. When she will be with me, she's all mine. Keep it that way as well.

The only way you have any right to control what or who she does is if you're supplementing her income so much she does not have to work at all. If you can't afford to do that, then let her earn her money however she wants.

If the club is becoming too much for you then just do OTC with her. After all you're not setting a very good example since you've said you got a BJ from another girl in front of her.
jaredlucas
9 years ago
Hi Guys

All your comments are well appreciated. Ironically I hadn't accepted then fact that I am dating a "sex worker". Probably because she wasn't a stripper when we began dating. It just sort of happened.

Nevertheless I am not in a position to fully support her so I guess I'll just have to learn to deal with it or move on to a civilian.

Until recently I never had even realized extras were available inside the clubs. I'm glad I actually started drilling down thru the discussions as I am becoming wiser each time I do. Have actually been going to clubs for 20 years but never had a clue all the fun that could be had until recently.

Now that I realize I am dating an sex worker I'll asjust my expectations and maybe branch out and give some of my time to others girls as well.

Until now I only had eyes for "her" as it was she who brought the other girl into our circle.

Soldier on.


sclvr5005
9 years ago
Glad to see that your eyes are finally open. Good luck to you.
shailynn
9 years ago
You made some good realizations in your above post.

I know you're probably infatuated with her so the "branching out" is hard. Again, just see her outside the club or start roaming to build you roster. It won't take long to find someone new who is equally intriguing.
Phoenix133
9 years ago
I don't blame you for your suspecions though you never know she just might not want to get into trouble at the club. But based on what you said if that is the case then I wouldn't be surprised if once she grew comfortable she started to do more than just what she told you she has been doing.

Dating a stripper is not something for most people. For most men they may think at first its sexy but as soon as you see your girl with other guys being flirty or whatever (even if there is no sexual acts done) a guy is going to feel jealous. Thats why most clubs dont allow bf's to visit the club while their girl is working.
shailynn
9 years ago
^^^^^ boyfriends and husbands need to stay the fuck out of the club.
Cashman1234
9 years ago
I'm glad I read this discussion now - as I was going to pile on the bandwagon too. It's not for everyone - dating a sex worker. Hopefully your realizations will help you to relax and not worry about who or what she's doing away from you.

I've grown to appreciate dancers and other sex workers - and when I'm with one of them - I make sure the time together is amazing - but when we are not together - whatever she does is all good with me. Sexy girls - with loose morals - are prone to fucking as much as most guys - and there's nothing wrong with that.
jaredlucas
9 years ago
Hi everybody
All very good inputs. Thanks a ton!
As noted in my previous post I just got hit over the head that I am dating a sex worker. Somehow I never internalized this since we started dating before she started dancing.

What a lucky delusional dork. Ha ha

I think I'll start laying ground work to spank her civilian roommate soon. She is equally as hot and we all discussed a threesome over a couple of bowls last last weekend. Maybe I will be branching out sooner than I thought.
Jared
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