Have had the good fortune of meeting a very hot lady on a sugar daddy site whereby we began dating and sometimes would have sex - sometimes not during or before our dates. She has not asked for any financial assistance, but I of course pay for all of our travel and entertainment when we get together. This went on for several months and it was amazing to be in the middle of a May - December fantasy relationship . Was feeling good!
She is gorgeous and significantly younger ( 20+ years) than me, but I foolishly began to develop feelings for her. Deluding myself into thinking that this amazing sex could go on forever, she surprised me one day by telling me that she had began dancing to help pay off her student loans. I was actually disturbed by this and it put a damper on the rest of the date. We ended the date with the equivalent of a kiss you would give your sister...no sparks at all.
Went in the club she was dancing at a few times and we would visit awhile ( no dances) before we would leave to grab a bite or drinks OTC. I would typically pay her $100 to sit with me for about an hour and not dance for anyone else while I was there. One day she suggested that instead of paying her to visit why don't we head into the VIP room. So we did, and of course, I got horned up very quickly and tried to coax a blow job out of her. We had previously had very good sex about 5-6 times before she began dancing so I was surprised that she wouldn't accommodate me - especially since she gives excellent head. Instead, I got a very "secretive" hand job underneath my untucked dress shirt.
Since then I have had her in the VIP room solo and with another girl. While solo she still only performs very careful hand jobs, no oral, FIV etc... Even though we continue having excellent uninhibited sex OTC with no extra fees. Ironically The other girl ( who I had never met) has given me excellent head both times in the VIP while we were doing threesome dances while my "girl" continues to refrain from providing any significant extras . Even so it has been amazing experience for me.
About a week ago I dropped into the club and saw my "girl" performing floor dances. Her head was in this guys crotch a long time which I found irritating to watch but she came and sat with me after she finished up. Later that evening we left to have dinner and ended up at her place. She is quite attractive and has become a top earner at the club which leads me to believe that she spends a lot of time in the VIP area.
After dinner we got on the subject of the VIP room and i asked her how many regulars she gave hand jobs to. She says I'm the only one, doesn't want anyone to think she provides takeout or does extras. She said just grinds them or hums on their dicks through pants for her other regulars . Sometimes they cum in their pants. (I'm thinking she may be refraining from extras because she is humping or has a crush on the manager) Because I continue to have regular sex with her outside the club and she wont provide any ITC extras to me I want to believe that she might be keeping it clean , but my pragmatic side comes into play
Not that it should matter, but I am inclined to test her "extras chastity" by having a friend or possibly another Tucson based TUSCL member see what kind of mileage they can get. I know i am going to get blasted by the more established members for considering this , but I'm willing to take some shots and learn from their collective wisdom. In the end she is a stripper but I'm confused by the mileage I continue to get OTC and none ITC. I may just quit visiting the club in favor of another one and continue seeing her for OTC fun
Also having begun to pay for VIP dances is starting to blurs the line when we see each other outside the club.
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If it were me I'd be happy with what you have had and what you're getting. She's a free agent and I think you're being too possessive.