Winning the Lottery . . .
Kyle1111
Some time back I posted about my belief that dancers could be happier both 1) earning less and 2) working more.
That is almost exactly like saying a gambler such as a lottery player would be happier NOT winning the lottery *in that* for most people it goes against logical expectations. Agreed?
I don't know if you've read about the study that purports to show that a good number of big money lottery winners experience extreme unhappiness *after* winning big money equal to the unhappiness of suffering a major injury or losing a loved one. The study could be an outright fraud or just poorly designed, but the findings didn't surprise me even a little. I mean a person wins 10 million dollars and that should make them as unhappy as being in a catostrophic (sp?) accident or losing a loved one. Right?
The point I'm trying to make is that appearances and certainties can be decieving. You might make a dancer happier buying 3 dances instead 2, but the reverse may be equally true even if she likes you and needs the money.
One of my father's favorite sayings was that "I know that I do NOT know." (IMPORTANT: He said that even the answer might appear obvious to even a dullard.) Well, I've done the old boy one better "I know that *you* do NOT know." ;) Ok, maybe the original is better.
If I meet 10 straight dancers who are drug addicts, then what does that teach me???
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It probably sounds stupid, but even a small tattoo is a negative. That is not to say that I haven't overlooked big tattoos, but any type "imperfection" is deflating. It is not a choice. It is the difference between being extremely satisfied and needing viagra. A friend laughed and told me that I didn't need viagra. Well with the women he has sex with yes I would and I say that seriously. It is a problem that I don't think I'd want to solve, but who knows I'd probably be a lot more satisfied if merely very attractive women were acceptable. BTW, I'm short and old and overweight . . .
Yes, a lap dance just makes me more hungry. There are a good number of options for paid sex here in Miami. Many of my friends like paid sex so if I wasn't so fussy about looks I could meet nice young women who at least had made one or more of my buddies happy campers.
I NEED almost perfect looks or I'm not interested. And, my idea of attractive may vary quite a bit from another person's. Also, for sex I would at least NEED to know the person a little. Actually, what I'm interested in purchasing is a GFE with a young perfect looking woman and sex can be excluded if that is a concern of hers. Different people have different levels of comfort. One woman might be willing to do the whole football team and another might only shake hands with the approval of her family. I want a *paid* good time without a real relationship.
The certain level of service is Sex because the lapdance will just make a guy more hungry. Here is this massage place: this beautiful lady does a good massage for only $45, then she asks you if you want full service for $100 + tip.
I don't need ordinary friends. I need hot young females who FOR $ are willing to provide a certain level of service. If a dancer does a very good job or seems very nice, then I will definitely become interested in learning more about her. Of course, she may be all business which is fine. My ATF @ Coco's was all business and my last ATF @ Angels was all business (although she did claim I was a friend).
Dancers are special (at least at the cheap clubs). Wayyyyyyyy tooooooooo nice and generous. :)
I can make friends through my church, going to adult learning school, getting a second parttime job (restaurant, etc).
Cheers.
Often a dancer will tell me she has a day job. Is this a lie? I don't believe that it always is. This one dancer invited me to visit her at her security guard job *if* I was in the area. She didn't want me making a special trip because she may or may not be there. Her hours were basically set randomly--Sounds very fishy?! Why in the world wouldn't the company give her nice stable hours? Anyway, one day I was in the neighborhood so I decided what the hell I've got nothing much to lose by visiting. Initially, it didn't appear there was security. But, I hung around. Finally, security did appear and in a NOT too happy mood. Large, fat, young, white man who seemed like the real law and order type. Once he realized I just wanted to visit a buddy he became very talkative and very friendly. He wished his buddies would pay him a visit cause the job was soooooo damn boring! He said he didn't know my friend too well but that she was always friendly to him and he basically had a lot to say about the job, the Dolphins, his lack of girlfriend, etc. One thing that seemed completely surreal was that occasionally they would both be called for the exact same shift and then whoever had gotten there first would get the right to work! What a nasty deal . . .
Another dancer invited me to a free lunch at her day job. A fast food restaurant. She said I could come anytime (because she never missed work) or I could call first on her cellphone. She was hoping to find a nice boyfriend-- with a steady job even if low income-- to move in and pay at least a portion of the expenses. Ideally she could then give up the day job or dancing whichever he preferred. She said she had nothing against hard work, but one job is enough! I never did visit her because her day job was for me a long drive.
Some dancers actually do struggle to make $$$ forget about spending it. Sometimes it is the club. Sometimes it is the dancer. I remember helping this dancer at Angels get her car started. She was afraid because she still had so many payments still to make on the car. I'm looking at the car and thinking it looks beat to death--tires, rust, interior. I was thinking she should have done herself a favor and bought an old Japanese economy car . . .
(IMPORTANT: He said that even when the answer might appear obvious to even a dullard.)