Am I missing something?
JohnSmith69
layin low but staying high
I wrote these observations a couple of weeks ago before my recent trip with the DS. But being with her for three days has only reinforced the sentiments expressed.
I'm at a bar in a tropical location. Older crowd, 40s-70s. Almost all couples except for me. I'm alone.
With only one possible exception out of dozens, the women here are ugly ugly ugly. If they offered to undress I'd tip them all to keep their clothes on. I could not get an erection with maybe 85% percent of these women. Maybe it's because I just fucked the DS last night, but WTF????
Why do men settle for this? Is being "alone" so abhorrent that most men are willing to settle for such incredible mediocrity? Did many of them start out beautiful and this is just what's left? I'd bet tens of thousands of dollars that most of these women aren't worth shit in bed. Even if they are willing to be sexually adventurous, which I seriously doubt, how do the men get it up regularly for this? Why are the vast vast majority of men willing to settle for a life of such a lack of sexual excitement and beauty? Why are so many older women so extremely ugly?
Yeah, some of these guys play with strippers or escorts to salvage some sense of sexual excitement like most of us do. But those habits are expensive, take know how that most don't have, and require the ability to regularly get away from the wife. We are the distinct minority. I assume that most of these men must either go through life constantly horny or, more likely, their former sex drive has mostly been sucked from them. A night in a good strip club and they could regain their normal sexuality if only for a night. But it won't happen for most of them. I guess a lot of them probably watch porn, although that's a pretty sad life if all your sexual excitement just comes from jerking off to a computer screen.
I'd much much rather be alone most nights but sometimes get to fuck incredibly hot young girls than go home every night and be limited to what I see at all of the tables around me. But in having that viewpoint I seem to be in a very small, distinct minority.
Am I missing something?
I'm at a bar in a tropical location. Older crowd, 40s-70s. Almost all couples except for me. I'm alone.
With only one possible exception out of dozens, the women here are ugly ugly ugly. If they offered to undress I'd tip them all to keep their clothes on. I could not get an erection with maybe 85% percent of these women. Maybe it's because I just fucked the DS last night, but WTF????
Why do men settle for this? Is being "alone" so abhorrent that most men are willing to settle for such incredible mediocrity? Did many of them start out beautiful and this is just what's left? I'd bet tens of thousands of dollars that most of these women aren't worth shit in bed. Even if they are willing to be sexually adventurous, which I seriously doubt, how do the men get it up regularly for this? Why are the vast vast majority of men willing to settle for a life of such a lack of sexual excitement and beauty? Why are so many older women so extremely ugly?
Yeah, some of these guys play with strippers or escorts to salvage some sense of sexual excitement like most of us do. But those habits are expensive, take know how that most don't have, and require the ability to regularly get away from the wife. We are the distinct minority. I assume that most of these men must either go through life constantly horny or, more likely, their former sex drive has mostly been sucked from them. A night in a good strip club and they could regain their normal sexuality if only for a night. But it won't happen for most of them. I guess a lot of them probably watch porn, although that's a pretty sad life if all your sexual excitement just comes from jerking off to a computer screen.
I'd much much rather be alone most nights but sometimes get to fuck incredibly hot young girls than go home every night and be limited to what I see at all of the tables around me. But in having that viewpoint I seem to be in a very small, distinct minority.
Am I missing something?
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I don't know.
However, women tend to age faster than men. Or another way of putting it would be, their physical appearance deteriorates at a quicker pace.
I often see couples hanging out there and the female going on and on about a friend of hers she doesn’t like yada yada yada – or the female in an extended dialogue about senseless shit that no male in his right mind would have any interest in – yet the dude sits there nodding and smiling and not saying a word while the cunt just goes on and on and on talking senseless shit.- probably all in hopes that she may decide to give him something at some point, if she indeed does and is interested.
To each their own – but if all I want is some pussy then fuck having to jump thru so many hoops and listen to so much shit and drama. If I wanted to have children and raise a family; then it would be different.
When I was 40 I had a six month affair with a co-worker who at age 29 was HOT (a 10 by most standards. My wife found out about it and we separated for the better part of a year. My lawyer made it very clear that if we divorced I'd be broke for the rest of my life. We reconciled and she told me that if I needed something on the side to be discrete and don't rub her nose in it. We've gotten along fine and I respect her and put her needs first. 6 years ago she was diagnosed with Alzheimers and I'm the primary caretaker. It now is difficult for me to get away and the frustration of caring for someone with dementia is trying. However if I were the patient I know she'd be there to care for me. She does have long term care insurance which will pay for her care when it's time.
About 20 years ago I started seeing escorts when traveling for work. About 6 years ago, I went off the deep end with my ATF and while having a grand time checking items off my sexual bucket list I also maintained a solid middle class life style. In many ways I've been living a double life, but due to care taking responsibilities, I've had to stop working, so free cash has dryed up. But I stil get away to sew a few oats ( last night I met a new dancer, age 22, and an 8 or 9. One lap dance, 5 minutes of negotiation, and then a half hour in VIP: HJ, BBBJ {sloppy & poorly done}, DIY, and exchange of numbers.
I'm hopeful that with familiarity will come improved skills, but the chase is fun.
Back to your point: in 2 weeks, my wife & I will drive to Florida to join all the other snowbirds for a month. While my wife has declined in appearance, mental acuity, and memory function, she still has needs and wants & I'm living up to my commitment, but on my terms.
I'm still envious of your DS.
Duh!
No, but apparently I am. Can someone please point me to the announcement that says that JohnSmith69 is the fucking arbiter of what is and is not attractive? Then also the announcement that says that JohnSmith69 is the fucking arbiter of how a woman (that he doesn't know dick about) performs in bed?
BTW, gmd, was that kinda what your "yes" meant? ;-)
"I'd bet tens of thousands of dollars that most of these women aren't worth shit in bed."
"I'm not judging or arbitrating anything."
Do you even listen to yourself?
The men and women there are probably all locals; they probably know each other do some extent, possibly even very well, and they probably no longer see each other "beautiful" or "handsome" but as friends and companions. You mentioned that this was a tropical location, so I'm guessing it wasn't the U.S.; if so, chances are the cultural expectations of beauty are much different than our media-saturated and -defined standards of beauty.
So what might be ugly to you could be a friendly face, a warm body, and a loyal personality that someone can look forward to waking up to each morning.
No.
Most women don't age well. Christie Brinkley is an exception. I would gladly date Christie, but she won't return my calls.
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PG, it was actually a very exclusive yacht club in southern Florida -- most of those people probably had a lot more money than I ever will. Nonetheless, I think your point is a valid one. In some instances, they may love these women even though whatever looks they once had are gone. I'm sure that part of my reaction is due to crap going on in my own life, but I'd also bet that shadowcat's fear of the financial consequences of divorce was a stronger motivation for many than love.
"obviously I was judging"
Oh, yeah, now it all makes sense.