I was at the local club a few weeks ago. Once of my regulars was there and I got a bunch of dances from her. She was sitting on my lap facing me and brought out my little friend for some air (while blocking the action with her body). She was letting me feel the kitty as well, and eventually things progressed to where she was rubbing the tip of my friend perilously close to her juicy lady hole, which I wasn't really in the mood for (disease and all that).
It took me by surprise, and I put up with it for the rest of the dance before indicating that I needed a break. There's just no good way out of this situation. Either you grin and bear it (uncomfortable), or you tell her to stop it (and thus potentially alienate one of your favorite dancers).
Weigh in if you want. Tell me where I'm right (or wrong).
Just tell her to stop if you are not comfortable w/ what she is doing.
A dancer will hardly ever get upset b/c the PL is telling her to do less instead of more – it is usually the dancer that does not want to go as far as the PL.
Not wanting to have bare contact is understandable and the dancer should def understand unless she is a total dope.