When I decide to get a booth in the club, paying the now obligatory $20.00 tip, I have found over the years that dancers take it as an invitation to gang up, sit down, uninvited, and try to get me to give them tips, buy drinks or meals and, generally, host a party for all of the dancers they invite over. Call me a wussy PL, but I have never wanted to be rude and tell uninvited dancers to just get lost, but it seems that a gentle hint has no effect. "This is a private party," "We would like to be alone," "I'll ask you to join us a little later," "I'm only buying dances from Crystal," never seem to work. They just sit there taking up space and demanding a tip. Years ago dancers would not sit in a booth when another dancer was already there and would never sit in a booth while the customer was eating. Now, it's standard for the dancer to sit down, uninvited, and ask the customer to buy a meal.
Any thoughts on how to handle this. Maybe I should just grow a pair and, if the hint doesn't work, say "Bitch, get lost!"
Yeah, it's balancing act, as you ideally want to maintain good relations with most dancers. But, bottom line is it's your money, and you should always be in control of how you spend your money. May want to identify the few dancers who take the liberty of inviting their friends over, and tell them directly you don't like that.
I experience something similar with my ATF at one of the upscale NYC clubs. She likes to invite one or two of her close friends to join us in the VIP section of the main floor. I'm sure my ATF gets lots of kudos from them for sharing the wealth. Recently, when my ATF had to go onstage, another dancer came by. Tried to shoo her away, but she said she wasn't leaving. When my ATF returned, you could feel the tension in the air. After about five minutes my ATF and I got up and went to the stage to rain a few bucks on one of her friends. When we returned to the VIP section, the interloper was gone.