I had a RELATIONSHIP with a STRIPPER (BIG MISTAKE)
I had a relationship with a Stripper for almost 2 years and I wish I found this website earlier after reading other peoples experience. I also need to share my experience too. Here's my story:
It was a BIG mistake, I met her at the local gentlemen club, I wasn't a regular, just went through a stage of going to a few strip clubs in a short space of time. I'm a good looking, confident guy, was out partying, having fun with lots of girls, just enjoying myself, as I'm only in my mid 20's. Forwarding on to that particular night I met her she was stunning, a few years older, managed to meet her outside the club, went of a few dates, succeeded in the bedroom department, sex was amazing, she seemed different nice, sweet, caring woman, someone you wouldn't expect working in that environment. So at this stage I was looking for a place so I decided to move in with her ANOTHER BIG mistake.
I thought I was SPECIAL and confident in trust-No way would she sleep with a customer. It was all going well but after a few months it started to change that's when all the ISSUES crept in- borderline personality disorders, anger issues, family issues, psychological issues, dual personalities, manipulation, lies, cheating, alcohol issues, drug issues. I just could not believe it, this woman was CRAZY, whole lots of DRAMA, mental issues. I was like her therapist listening to all her problems, and now she was my problem.
She was caught up in the life style of low self esteem and constant admiration. A life style of free drugs and alcohol. A life style of late nights, partying to the early hours, fast money and friends, many expensive gifts from customers. She would come home after work drunk 3, 4 times a night and a nasty drunk too. Sometimes she wouldnt come home, constant unanswered calls and then I realised I needed to get OUT!!!!! And thats what I DID!! And maybe I stayed too long but its FINALLY over!!
So my advice is to be VERY careful if you decide to get involved with a stripper. A lot of these clubs have disgusting people inside, its not just a job its a lifestyle. You would meet a women with so MANY issues, she will lie and do anything to customers to get MONEY but also she will lie and cheat to the people most close to them. If you think you start having feeling for a stripper GET ON the first train and never return because you will be on roller coaster of a ride. I'm not saying all strippers are like this, yes some pay for college etc but thats the minority. If you want to succeed in LIFE then leave the stripper behind because all she will do is drag you down
These women are damaged goods to begin with and if they stay in the industry to long they are permanently damaged and have no respect for men.
A bit of fun-yes, having a relationship-NO
So Goodluck and Takecare
It was a BIG mistake, I met her at the local gentlemen club, I wasn't a regular, just went through a stage of going to a few strip clubs in a short space of time. I'm a good looking, confident guy, was out partying, having fun with lots of girls, just enjoying myself, as I'm only in my mid 20's. Forwarding on to that particular night I met her she was stunning, a few years older, managed to meet her outside the club, went of a few dates, succeeded in the bedroom department, sex was amazing, she seemed different nice, sweet, caring woman, someone you wouldn't expect working in that environment. So at this stage I was looking for a place so I decided to move in with her ANOTHER BIG mistake.
I thought I was SPECIAL and confident in trust-No way would she sleep with a customer. It was all going well but after a few months it started to change that's when all the ISSUES crept in- borderline personality disorders, anger issues, family issues, psychological issues, dual personalities, manipulation, lies, cheating, alcohol issues, drug issues. I just could not believe it, this woman was CRAZY, whole lots of DRAMA, mental issues. I was like her therapist listening to all her problems, and now she was my problem.
She was caught up in the life style of low self esteem and constant admiration. A life style of free drugs and alcohol. A life style of late nights, partying to the early hours, fast money and friends, many expensive gifts from customers. She would come home after work drunk 3, 4 times a night and a nasty drunk too. Sometimes she wouldnt come home, constant unanswered calls and then I realised I needed to get OUT!!!!! And thats what I DID!! And maybe I stayed too long but its FINALLY over!!
So my advice is to be VERY careful if you decide to get involved with a stripper. A lot of these clubs have disgusting people inside, its not just a job its a lifestyle. You would meet a women with so MANY issues, she will lie and do anything to customers to get MONEY but also she will lie and cheat to the people most close to them. If you think you start having feeling for a stripper GET ON the first train and never return because you will be on roller coaster of a ride. I'm not saying all strippers are like this, yes some pay for college etc but thats the minority. If you want to succeed in LIFE then leave the stripper behind because all she will do is drag you down
These women are damaged goods to begin with and if they stay in the industry to long they are permanently damaged and have no respect for men.
A bit of fun-yes, having a relationship-NO
So Goodluck and Takecare
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One part that you didn't mention that usually accompanies this type of story is if you spent a lot of money to help her with her problems. Did you?
Otherwise it only caused you a lot of grief. Where I advise a lot of members in this situation is at the discovery of the drug problem. It's very likely that you'd have the ability or the patience to see her through that. I hope you left the relationship shortly after discovering the drug problem.
(Another tip for you. Your story was probably long enough to submit as an article, rather than a discussion item. Had you done so, you could have received an extra thirty days membership, unless you're already a paid member.)
Also, if one is “dating†a stripper, either get used to her doing what she does or prepare yourself to maintain her 100% financially – she may even expect for you to maintain her so she can get out of the game and be a proper GF to you; or she may just expect for you to help her out financially b/c this is how her “relationships†w/ men work and are all about.
Most of these chicks’ lives revolve around $$$ and getting it via men.
It never ends well no matter what. I usually say, "what you can sell today, you won't be able to give away tomorrow!"
Ever met an ex long term stripper? They are so worn down. By that crazy life, that they are either sick, or a weathered bitter woman. Either way, don't EVER get involved. If you must, do pay for play OTC, and then walk away.
A dancer I know now who wants to date I am keeping my distance. However I have known a few dancers who got real jobs and quit working as dancers. I would like to think I have been a positive influence but I haven't been trying to get anyone to quit. Many of these ex dancers stay friendly with me after they are no longer dancers. I haven't been keeping phone numbers though. I wouldn't have minded getting the number of one girl who still looks pretty good who stopped me to say hi to me one night. I suddenly ran into her at a club.
We will see, I'm not rushing into it, but I don't want to stereotype her, I'm looking at it with both eyes wide open!
I stayed away from drugs. Someone asked if my younger brother had a death wish. I didn't quite know what they were talking about. Well except for a couple of times. I mean going rock climbing with no gear just bare hands and then he said it got really dangerous when it started raining.
Yep, one slip and he would be dead is the message I got. That was almost as stupid an idea as when he wanted to walk out on an ice ledge at 10,000 feet elevation next to a river that was falling down a massive cliff. We did not have mountain climbing gear on but we were on glaciers over 10,000 feet up. We were only 4.000 feet from the summit. It looked a lot steeper higher up. We were careful though. We grabbed the ice when we walked past a 10,000 foot drop off. Everyone else had spiked boots but we only had walking shoes on.
I remember talking to one dancer who said she once went over 150 on a motorcycle and said that was stupid and dangerous and she wouldn't do it again. I guess if you survive, you learn. Plus my brother said those Bugs going 100 mph are really hard to scrape off. We had some really fast bugs where I used to live. lol
You're right.
No man can accept their woman getting naked in-front of other men, private dances-grinding, tits in there face etc. Also the constant phone calls at all hours of the day. She gets chatted up every night she goes to work by 20, 30 men etc and do you believe you are the special one??? TRUST will be the hardest issue to deal with.
How can you have a normal relationship when your working Mon-Fri, and she works nights including most weekends. What other job can you drink and take drugs on a daily basis.How can you have your girlfriend getting degraded everytime she goes to work?
How can you explain to your friends and family what your girlfriend does, well you can't, it would be embarrassing.
In the UK majority of strippers do not pay tax.
Stripping is a very difficult job dealing with drunken men every night, long hours, and just being viewed as a piece of meat. Lazy is when a stripper stays in the industry to long and has no career plans, not investing all that money wisely. Yes not all stripper are the stereotype-women supporting their children or paying through college I respect those women!
I'm just coming from my own experience, all the stories I was told what goes on in those clubs, and see the effects of stripping does to someones HEALTH!
I just didn't look at the whole picture and I learnt the hard way. I will retire from having a relationship with a stripper but FUN i'll continue!!!
God bless you all and takecare
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That is so frigging funny, Alucard. Trust , yes to a certain level but that is a kind of trust normally suited for strippers. Trust her that she will
Ukadventure went in too far and got burned. I'm still there holding the candle, hoping I don't drop it.
But having any kind of relationship with a stripper/dancer is absolutely retarded.
So many nuggets of gold/truth in this thread, it's like I wrote this page.