I had a relationship with a Stripper for almost 2 years and I wish I found this website earlier after reading other peoples experience. I also need to share my experience too. Here's my story:
It was a BIG mistake, I met her at the local gentlemen club, I wasn't a regular, just went through a stage of going to a few strip clubs in a short space of time. I'm a good looking, confident guy, was out partying, having fun with lots of girls, just enjoying myself, as I'm only in my mid 20's. Forwarding on to that particular night I met her she was stunning, a few years older, managed to meet her outside the club, went of a few dates, succeeded in the bedroom department, sex was amazing, she seemed different nice, sweet, caring woman, someone you wouldn't expect working in that environment. So at this stage I was looking for a place so I decided to move in with her ANOTHER BIG mistake.
I thought I was SPECIAL and confident in trust-No way would she sleep with a customer. It was all going well but after a few months it started to change that's when all the ISSUES crept in- borderline personality disorders, anger issues, family issues, psychological issues, dual personalities, manipulation, lies, cheating, alcohol issues, drug issues. I just could not believe it, this woman was CRAZY, whole lots of DRAMA, mental issues. I was like her therapist listening to all her problems, and now she was my problem.
She was caught up in the life style of low self esteem and constant admiration. A life style of free drugs and alcohol. A life style of late nights, partying to the early hours, fast money and friends, many expensive gifts from customers. She would come home after work drunk 3, 4 times a night and a nasty drunk too. Sometimes she wouldnt come home, constant unanswered calls and then I realised I needed to get OUT!!!!! And thats what I DID!! And maybe I stayed too long but its FINALLY over!!
So my advice is to be VERY careful if you decide to get involved with a stripper. A lot of these clubs have disgusting people inside, its not just a job its a lifestyle. You would meet a women with so MANY issues, she will lie and do anything to customers to get MONEY but also she will lie and cheat to the people most close to them. If you think you start having feeling for a stripper GET ON the first train and never return because you will be on roller coaster of a ride. I'm not saying all strippers are like this, yes some pay for college etc but thats the minority. If you want to succeed in LIFE then leave the stripper behind because all she will do is drag you down
These women are damaged goods to begin with and if they stay in the industry to long they are permanently damaged and have no respect for men.
A bit of fun-yes, having a relationship-NO
So Goodluck and Takecare
UK, You're new to TUSCL. Welcome aboard. Your story is fairly common. Your relationship with her started out well, but in the end it caused you a lot of grief. Maybe the "moving in with her" part would have been better if you had assessed the situation for longer than you did.
One part that you didn't mention that usually accompanies this type of story is if you spent a lot of money to help her with her problems. Did you?
Otherwise it only caused you a lot of grief. Where I advise a lot of members in this situation is at the discovery of the drug problem. It's very likely that you'd have the ability or the patience to see her through that. I hope you left the relationship shortly after discovering the drug problem.
(Another tip for you. Your story was probably long enough to submit as an article, rather than a discussion item. Had you done so, you could have received an extra thirty days membership, unless you're already a paid member.)