Mr Winkle's thread raised a question about being faithful to your S/O.
But perhaps we need to back-up and define the parameters. How do you define cheating?
Some say only vaginal intercourse is cheating. On the other extreme some feel talking with someone on Facebook might be cheating. I think it obviously falls somewhere in between.
Flirting, texting, masturbation, porn? Going to a strip club? Getting a dance? A handjob?
Where's the line in the sand?
If you usually jack off with your right hand is it cheating if you use your left hand?
Simple, if you have to lie about it to your SO, it's cheating.
After an affair many years ago, my s/o said do what you want to do, but don't rub my nose in it. Since then I've rubbed MY nose in it whenever I could.
It ain't cheating if you never promised not to...
What ilbbi said. Not that I've (n)ever done anything that I've needed to lie about. We've all got flaws right?
yup....what ilbbaicnl said .
I like all the answers
If I had to hide it or it was emotional I consider it cheating. Paying for it, no.
IMHO a person of either gender has crossed the line of Cheating/Infidelity when in their mind & heart they decide that their Spouse/S.O. is NOT fulfilling some or all of their physical sexual needs/desires and their emotional needs/desires. And then the person goes out to find another person[s] to meet those needs & desires and has the person[s] meet those needs/desires in some manner.
Part of where the line in the sand is drawn is where the Spouse/S.O. decides the line belongs & also where Society decides where the line is drawn. [this relates to marriage, as there are divorce laws]
IMHO it is wrong to betray the trust placed in you by your Spouse/S.O. and to screw around. IMHO don't marry if you need to screw around constantly or divorce. Don't enter into a committed serious relationship if you need to constantly screw around. My 99¢ worth. I'm sure there will be a lot of flack against my opinion about Cheating/Infidelity.
Given that you're not in any relationship and regularly engage in activity with some who might be for money I can't understand why anymore might question your viewpoint.
ilbbaicn +1
If there's emotional involvement it's cheating. Fulfilling a physical need, no.
Saying that you're just fulfilling a physical need/paying for it = not cheating is faulty logic. If you can't be honest about it to your S/O it's probably because you know they'd be upset about it. Think of it this way: if your S/O was getting her physical needs fulfilled by someone else you'd probably be upset about it on one level or another.
"Fulfilling a physical need, no."
WRONG imo.
If I end up drinking whiskey and writing depressing songs, that means you cheated on me.
Here is the best possible explanation.
Hold on, let me call Bill Clinton and ask him.
It’s not “cheating†– it’s just that you have too much love to give for just one person :)
If it wasn't for cheating, music would suck.
I disagree Duo. If I found out a GF while 800 miles away met a stranger who she would never see again, who she didn't care about, and they groped and grinded on each other I wouldn't care. Nor would I really care for her to come tell me about it.
You guys can make all the jokes & excuses you want.
I stand by my POV on this issue & believe that if you BETRAY the trust placed in you physically\emotionally then you have "CHEATED" and are totally WRONG!
As far as the physical act of cheating I used to think that any exchange of bodily fluids constituted cheating. But I had to rethink that the last time I got a thru the pants HJ. So now my definition of physical cheating is if you come. Then in my mind its cheating. I know others will disagree but there it is.
I have a question related to this subject -
How about the antics of the RickyBoyDugan who is on the record as saying he "generally" will participate in BBFS when it is offered. All this despite the fact that he is married, his wife is completely in the dark and the RickyBoy is conpletely aware of the increased risk it puts his wife at for STDs and cervical cancer as caused by HPV.
@jestie - maybe alutard's mother cheated on his father or vice-versa so it's not just akin to him speculating how many angels can dance on the head of a pin?
Let's see so far in this thread I've attacked 3 members without provokation. But that's just the kind of cheesedick coward that I am. It's all I have to do since I obviously have no life and live to post stupidity on this forum.
What's the definition of the word "I"
Do you do a thorough background check on the women you pay to make sure they're single Alucard?
Any act with a person other that your s/o without your s/o knowledge is considered cheating INMO
"Simple, if you have to lie about it to your SO, it's cheating."
So, I'm in the supermarket, I double back and to aisle 3 again to get another look at the tits on that 20-year old. My SO asks me why I went back to aisle 3, and to spare her feelings, I lie. Cheating?
"their Spouse/S.O. is NOT fulfilling some or all of their physical sexual needs/desires and their emotional needs/desires"
My SO has a shitty sense of humor. It fulfills an emotional need of mine to hang out with my male friends and act stupid. Cheating?
"Any act with a person other that your s/o without your s/o knowledge is considered cheating"
I gave the cashier money for a pack of gum. My SO doesn't know. Cheating?
" - "their Spouse/S.O. is NOT fulfilling some or all of their physical sexual needs/desires and their emotional needs/desires"
My SO has a shitty sense of humor. It fulfills an emotional need of mine to hang out with my male friends and act stupid. Cheating?"
If you are physical with a dancer, yes.
Notice he didn't answer my question.
It isn't cheating until you get caught!
@jestie: alutard never backs his position with facts or logic or responds to challenges to do so. Not will he respond to people who to anyone who points out problems with opinions. In alutard's "mind" people should take his opinions as holy utterances and just not question. Alutard feels responding would impair the self-evident nature of his utterances and he would not drag them down to such a level.
Responding would also show that alutard was not supremely confident in their self-evidentiary nature, so alutard, instead, elects to just not respond, show that confidence, and know that his confidence in his own beliefs will quickly spread to any doubters.
It's not cheating if you pay for it.