The Direct Approach

22 comments

• Dougster

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  12 years ago

  I kind of this did this accidentally a couple of times. One time I told a girl at a Deja Vu that I was looking for a girl to go home with that night. She said "Oh, I don't that but most of the girls here will. I'll go ask for you. Who do you like?" Another time I was told a stripper that what I really need was an escort that night (in tone a thought she would take as joking). She says "Oh, I have a friend who does that. Want me to call her?" Never put two and two together and thought to try this approach seriously, though. I like to see how sharp my instincts are, but it sounds like fun, maybe try it sometime for entertainment. Good discovery and thanks for sharing!
• ThatOtherGuy

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  12 years ago

  The direct approach seems pretty good. The only hazards I can think of are: 1.)If Dancer A hates one or more of the other dancers in the club. So Dancer A might purposely not point out those dancers to you out of spite. 2.)(and I would hope this would be uncommon) If the club is very strict, or even zero tolerance, about extras, Dancer A might rat you out to management. I would think that the perceived possibility of getting in trouble with law enforcement would outweigh the money made from one customer.
• gsv

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  12 years ago

  Very interesting. It seems like it would be awkward to ask such a thing, and they're probably going to label you a bit differently. But you know what, who really cares. At the end of the day, you get what you want. If I was a regular at a club, I probably wouldn't want to be known as the guy who seeks this out so directly all the time - but, if I was relatively new I don't see the harm in trying this out.
• deogol

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  12 years ago

  Your a cop sniffing around for trouble. She gladly points out competition on the floor cheating the rules (and law). Hopes for police lights later in the evening. Either way, I suppose it works for you.
• lopaw

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  12 years ago

  gsv brings up a good point - this approach might be good in a club that you aren't a regular in. Seems like it would be an option for travelers or business people visiting random clubs with no intention of going back again anytime soon. But I wouldn't do it in a club where the dancers all knew me.
• drzoidberg

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  12 years ago

  I will have to try that. My last trip to DeJa Vu COI I wasted money. This should save me some $$$. Thanks for the tip.
• Alucard

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  12 years ago

  Isn't Rocket Science!! Lopaw has a point though.
• randy77

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  12 years ago

  lopaw - Why's that? wouldn't it make more sense to do it some place where people are comfortable with you, rather than, "I don't know this person from Joe Shithead. He may be trouble." Dougster - thought the direct approach was your motto.
• gsv

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  12 years ago

  I guess that's another way to look at it - but on the chance that the girl is disgusted by what you said, word may spread and other dancers may start to avoid you, even the dancers that do offer a bit more mileage. If you're a regular, your overall image in the club is important. Even though I'm perfectly fine with OTC and extra mileage, I'd prefer to keep those relationships as discrete as possible.
• Club_Goer_Seattle

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  12 years ago

  My experience has been with dancers I know, that they don't want to point out anything they know about their competition. I've asked some of my faves over the years, "What do you know about X dancer?" Usually I get an answer like, "I don't know what they do in the VIP. I'm paying attention to my customer when I'm back there." I've also heard stories to the contrary that dancers will tell me about other dancers who offer extras. Tucky70 and the others who do get the desired information--you may just be lucky. I like deogol's theory, though.
• Dougster

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  12 years ago

  Randy: never thought to ask one girl about others who would... I think there are lots of extensions to this, e.g. Threesomes. I wonder if a further implications is that it is better to be known as a perv as opposed to act like you are above that. Maybe once word gets out, girls who do find their way to you.
• inno123

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  12 years ago

  I also had a situation where a dancer who said she did not do outside the limits but offered to send over one who does. It seemed odd because normally one had the impression that the extras girls are highly resented by the non-extra girls but there was not a hint of resentment in her offering to send over the other girl.
• Chanel

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  12 years ago

  I will usually not give any specific information about another girl or her dances for a couple of reasons. Most want to be in control of what information givien to guys in the club and may get 'touchy' (not in the way you like) after discovering another dancer is talking about them-even if it's promotional. Also, recommending an extras girl to LE could get that person in more trouble than the person doing the dance. ("Attempting to promote" I think). So,to keep the drama to a minimum, I usually keep quiet and resist the temptaion to help out.
• Chanel

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  12 years ago

  I mean that sincerely - the helping out part that is. I've been in the business long enough to know that happy customers return to the club (and sometimes tell their friends).
• txtittyfan

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  12 years ago

  I have done the direct approach a couple of times in clubs I was new to that I knew were extras friendly, the only proble is that you may not like the girl that is sent over. The success of this approach depends on the club and the girls and how they perceive you. What works in one club, may not work in another.
• Alucard

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  12 years ago

  Simply ASK the dancer. It is not hard Thought you were in a Truce Mr Dougster.
• gatorfan

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  12 years ago

  She doesn't stickshift she just sucks dick
• mjx01

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  12 years ago

  Interesting point. One time I asked a dancer how things worked in a particular club. She starts describing the vip rooms and just flat out says some girls do etc. but I don't. Then says she can tell me who the etc. girls are if that's what I'm looking for. Never thought to use it as a research took, but then again not really my objective.
• Alucard

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  12 years ago

  I personally don't ask dancers about other dancer's services. I try to do this research before going to the Club by reading reviews and asking the reviewers questions if I need more information. Most, if not all the time I go to clubs I know are Xtras friendly. So it is usually about which sex worker provides what type of service. BUT there are times when I have to roll the dice & discover the information on my own.
• rl27

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  12 years ago

  I have never asked a dancer about another dancer, especially in regards to extras. However I have benefited several times from some not so bright dancers who have complained about a certain dancer who is so popular because she breaks the rules. That's how I found one of my current favorites.
• rl27

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  12 years ago

  I have never asked a dancer about another dancer, especially in regards to extras. However I have benefited several times from some not so bright dancers who have complained about a certain dancer who is so popular because she breaks the rules. That's how I found one of my current favorites.
• Papi_Chulo

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  12 years ago

  Interaction with dancer is business – the best approach is almost always the direct approach “Most” dancers don’t care what comes out of your mouth – most of them care what can comes out of your pockets. More often than not I will get much better service from a dancer (i.e. much closer to what I desire/expect) by being direct rather than letting her “figure it out” or her performing according to what “she” likes or feels comfortable with.