My Second Worst SC Nightmare (Help/Advice Required)
JohnBuford
Massachusetts
I had just made a very nice sale and was looking forward to rewarding myself with an afternoon at one of my favorite SC's.I ordered a Heineken,settled in at the bar and who walks in with a gym bag over her shoulder but a close friend of my daughter. Yikes.We made eye contact,both looked away and I got the hell out of there.I sat in the parking lot for 10 minutes trying to collect my thoughts.A little background:this girl is 24,a college grad (VERY good school),the club is 90 minutes from her/my hometown and while she and my daughter were very close when they were in high school (they were cheerleaders together and in the same class),they have drifted apart from each other and although not enemeies, are certainly not as close as they used to be.I hope that is enough information for you guys and gals to tell me what to do here.Do I reach out to her ? Wait for her (highly unlikely) to reach out to me ? Make believe it never happened ? Use a trusted third party to reach out to her ? From a selfish point of view,a club I love is now on a self-administered off-limits list.I am especially interested in what the dancers on this site have to say.Thanks to all in advance for your thoughts and time.
16 comments
If you're not doing anything questionable, it probably doesn't matter, especially of this is your favorite club, or there's nothing as good in your area.
You enjoy this hobby.
You are a family man.
I presume that your family is unaware of your pursuit of this hobby and I also presume that you wish your family to remain unaware. It is most likely that this girl was as shocked to see you as you were to see her. Do nothing. Do not go back to that club. Find another club.
Sage advice from farmerart, I agree whole heartedly...wait, I'm sorry, did you say she was a cheerleader? Well, to hell with it then! I recommend you go back and reach out to her, with both hands, if you know what I mean.
I know that is my worst (albeit unlikely) SC nightmare.
Best to listen to those that HAVE experienced similar events. That said, it sure doesn't mean they will work out the same.
I have met a total of three different dancers in a club that I knew BEFORE I saw them there, and one that we found out we had common friends. Of these, no bad experiences.
I've run into many people (customers and workers, male and female) in clubs that I've know before and of those, also no bad experiences. Of course that doesn't mean that will always the case!