"I am not a whore."

I hear that phrase all the time. I never contradict it. They are just trying to justify to that being a stripper, or further a stripper that gives sextras, is higher on the food chain than a gutter whore.

I just nod my head in agreement and tell them that I am not a John.

Great answer shadow! A stripper recently was nearly in tears as she recounted how humiliated she felt when nude on stage and guys expected her to spread her legs for a tip (which other dancers do frequently). She said, "I want to be able to look my little daughter in the eye the next day and feel good about myself." I of course just smiled as I continued groping her during our lapdance.

I think it's a union thing. Like how you can't call yourself an apprentice or journeyman unless you have a union card. So she can't be a "whore" unless she's in the streetwalker local.

Are they having elections soon?? I'll be the steward. :)

These dancers make me laugh, they give lap dances to men for sexual gratification, even to the point of bringing some guys off, then state that they don't indulge in sexual acts because that's what whores do. Jeez. Rod, did you manage to keep a straight face after she said that?

I don't see that saying anything contradictory will make her happy. So, like the others here, I'll just nod in agreement if anything and continue to grope her.

have encountered this comment on several occasions. most of the time it is when I ask about OTC. of course, this is after spending a half an hour our sucking on her tits, playing wiht her ass and finger banging her pussy for money

If I am braking balls, I will ask, "if I had $20 million bucks sitting right here and offered it to you for an hour of sex you would say no". If they say they wouldn't do it--then I know they are liars or morons or both. If they say yes for that amount they would do it--now we are in negotiations and simply trying to come to a price agreement.

I think some girls will escort if they get a great offer,but will insist they are not prostitutes. Not worth calling them out though. Deception is what they practice on others, delusion is what they practice on themselves.

Ive got to be honest, I don't care if someone calls me a whore. I do get offended at some things but the whole "whore" "prostitute" etc words don't do a thing for me. There are going to be customers out there that think all dancers are whores, whether they perform sex acts or not. I can't change that, its just the way it is. It seems like the girls that get offended by "whore" are the ones that have a some type of inner turmoil going on related to the job. If you can't go home and sleep well at night after work, as bad as it sounds, you may need to practice some disconnection skills (as effed up as that sounds). Strip clubs are fantasy. If you're a whore, fine, if your not, that's fine to. Leave it at the door.

Everybody is a whore about something. People do things for money. I'm much more interested in whether a stripper lies (uh, pathologically), cheats, steals, does heroin, or bangs guys without protection. Whether she is a whore or not is a word game.

I've decidedmto use the words Sex Worker. It avoids the connotations. I've not had a Sex Worker use that comment with me. And like others here, if I heard it, I'd just continue on with whatever kind of sex we were having.

"Whore" is a bad name for a bad person, and dancers don't want to be called that. I would never call a stripper a whore, and I hope no stripper ever calls me a scrawny old geezer.

I am not sure that Sex Worker wouldn't offend at least some. How about Adult Entertainer?

It's the connotation, not the definition. The general mental picture of "whore" people default to usually involves either the prefix "crack" (alongside some disgusting, piggish looking monster) or someone whose sex acts are highly destructive. Additionally, since whores are for the most part illegal in the US, there is no positive affiliation here.

Threadstarter is correct, no possible reason to contradict the girl. I also definitely agree with HarryDave here in that unless you're independently wealthy, you are in the legion of us who whore ourselves out as well.

Tell someone who's an a-hole that they're an a-hole. What will they say? "Uh, yeah, I guess you're right, I'm a complete a-hole..", right?

No. People generally don't let others say bad things about them. Even if it's true. And most women spend their lives thinking OTHER girls are sluts and whores, but will never call themselves a whore. And the "look my daughter in the eye..." thing is huge with women. Although it's incredible how some women can find ways to rationalize their whore-ishness.

So no, there's no way you should even think about contradicting her. She'll never admit it. Out loud at least.

londonguy - re: "Rod, did you manage to keep a straight face after she said that?" In a word, "yes." I've heard all the stories, and I do mean all - from the car repair bills, to the loser husband/boyfriend, to the brother in trouble with the law, to her father's medical bills, and yes, to how she's not a whore/slut even though the other girls are.

I treat these comments like those of hustlers who approach me on the street with long and detailed accounts of how their car is broken down on the highway with wife/babies inside, how they got their car towed/booted, etc., and how they only need some odd amount of money (usually $17) to fix their problem. It's a scam, through-and-through meant to play on my emotions to achieve some effect they want, so I never buy into their banter. For strippers, I just enjoy the grope and grind, and ignore the rest.

Surprisingly, I've never run into this comment from a stripper. I guess it's only a matter of time?

lopaw,

You will never hear that comment, since all women are whores, ducking as I speak. :) Just a joke.

Its all about acceptance. She needs to accept being a whore, we need to accept being PL's. They are only words. She gets what she wants ($$$); we get what we want (sex) :-)

As I've traveled through life, I've noticed that people are only offended when someone points out something about them that they don't like and feel they can't change.

Call a person who is an idiot "stupid" and they'll get all sorts of fired up. They know they are dumbasses and they know they can't change it. Call a Mensa member "stupid" and they'll just smile and be entertained by you.

Call a skinny person "fat" and they'll just laugh. Call me "fat" and I'll put you in the hospital.

So if you tell a stripper who doesn't do anything extra - or one who is totally comfortable with herself and the extras she does - a "whore" and she'll just smile and make a snide comment. Call the stripper who fucks everyone she takes to the VIP, even those who were expecting just a dance - BUT hates herself for doing it - a "whore" and watch the sparks fly.

vm prepares the emergency room for Clubber's pending injuries. :)

Clubber,

If surrendering myself to hot strippers on a regular basis and allowing them to have their way with me makes me a whore.......then I am the HAPPIEST damn whore that there ever was!

Is a women who takes $20 for a quickie a whore?

Is an "escort" who takes $500 for "her time" then takes you home for a night of hot sex a whore?

Is a stripper who chats with you for hours, then meets you after "work", sleeps with you, then accepts a gift to "help out with the rent" a whore?

Is a stripper who you buy 10 dances from then decides to generously give you a quick blow job in VIP a whore?

Is an attractive women with little income you meet, take out to dinner and a Broadway show spending $500 on then sleeps with you because she likes being treated like that and wants you to do it again a whore?

Is the hot girl who dates you for a year because you're successful and have a prestigious job, while you regularly wine her, dine her and pay to get her car repaired when she needs it, even though she's not all that attracted to you physically a whore?

Is your live in girlfriend who is an artist that makes no money, so you support her and who sleeps with you regularly a whore?

Is the women you meet in a good college who gets a worthless degree in Literature with no intent of ever working but is hunting for "Mr. Right", meets you and decides to marry you because you fit her profile of a success oriented provider with the right background, major and career goals a whore?

I bet it would be hard to get to people to agree where to draw the line. Sometimes the "whore" is just more honest, less expansive and maybe less savvy variation of a very common theme.