My meeting ended much earlier than I'd planned, so I ended up at the club just after they opened at noon. I decided to have some lunch, and invited a fav to join me. I enjoy having a dancer's company while eating, and they always seem appreciative afterwards.
So, do you ever buy dancers meals?
Whenever I've offered to just provide the meal (even with my admonition that it is "just a meal"), they have always refused. It may be because they think it is not worth their time, or they have better things to do, or I'm not the skeevy asshole deadbeat boyfriend they always are atracted to.
Never has been a successful endeavor, no matter how innocent it has been.
Yep, for the ones who are treating me right, a little lunch or snack is no big deal. Sure she's playing me. As long as she's not stingy in the fucking department, I'm good.
One stripper told me she gets free appetizers at her club (just has to tip the cook $2) rather than the menu price of $9-11. She ordered one and ended up not liking it so she gave it to me. This of course won me over to buy dances from her, which is NOT something I will do again. Congratulations on her stripper shit winning my money.
It seems like a good idea, and friendly, too.
But I managed to lose a favorite by doing this. She gave me her phone number and each time I visited the club after that she'd always say 'You should call me. How come you never call?'
Well, she works at the club in the early evening, and so I thought I would take her to lunch, then visit her at the club later on. I called her and suggested the idea and she seemed happy -- I could hear in her voice that she had a smile on her face. But toward the end of the phone call, when we were finalizing the time and place, I heard a change in her voice and she sounded more distant.
I was supposed to give another follow-up call to her, but she didn't answer it or return the voice message, and never answers when I call anymore.
I always share dinner in the club with my ATF (for sure I pay the bill), though most of the time I ate some free buffet before that. I really like her small cute mouth eating the food. Most of the time, she would finish half or 2/3 of the meal and I would finish it.
And last time I told her that the food in the club was bad, and we should have some fancy food OTC, and she agreed! Looking forward to my next visit, especially the opportunity to see her in civilian life.
@Digitech: Did you finally see her again and figure out what happened? I cannot believe how capricious some dancers are, but it happens!
I've never actually bought a meal for a dancer, but I've had plenty of them mooch off of my plate enough that I think it qualifies!
Hey, Lopaw, me too! Had one dive into my food in Detroit ("I haven't eaten all day.") At least it was 1/2-price apps.
lol lopaw - been there as well. But I've also bought a few meals over time. Hell, I tip for time anyway as my way of working towards OTC, so buying a meal is actually cost effective as I'm not feeding her extra cash when she's eating on my dime.
Bought many for my ATF, all OTC. Never bought one in the club for myself or a dancer. I have had the free lunches and buffets.
Detroit clubs used to have a rule that dancers were not allowed to sit with customers while they were eating lunch or dinner, unless invited. That rule is dead. Now Detroit dancers will sit down, uninvited and whine about being hungry. Most Detroit clubs require dancers to pay for their meals. Getting a customer to pop for lunch or dinner is to the dancers benefit. Fomer ATF --day shift--always demanded dinner at the end of her shift. No OTC action, no more dinners. Dancers are pushing drinks and begging for meals to meet quotas or supplement incomes. Why not order as much as you can and take half home to the boyfriend?
lopaw:
"........ plenty of them mooch off of my plate....."
Uh, which plate?
Just give her your Cock Meat Sandwich.
I never buy food at SC. most of the hired help looks like a refugee from the local homeless shelter.
I often give the girls in the club a large tube steak to eat.
Last thing I want is a LD from a girl who's just stuffed herself with food! Heaven forbid she have a gas attack or something!
Be careful, if you follow txtittyfan's investment advice you won't even be able to afford to buy them a coffee and donut for breakfast.
I never eat the SC club, though I've heard BBF has some pretty good food. Like was mentioned previously, I don't want even a glimmer of a chance that some other custie (who knows where there hands have been) handling my food in the case of the SC buffet! ESPECIALLY the chips / popcorn / etc., that would invite some clod to stick his hand in to fill his plate! NFW!!!
I HAVE ordered in (and/or picked up) at clubs, and enjoy sitting there with my dancer of choice. I've also done the pizza / chicken wing order, and invited whomever wanted to join my dancer and I, and usually have a crowd of dancers and waitresses at my table. It can be like a party and have made a lot of "friends" that way and it really doesn't cose much to do. You appear to be a "big spender" and definitely get the attention of the dancers.
Nengneng -- Nope, I never found out what the story was.
Actually, I was moving away from the area that week and so I had been busy packing and wrapping up loose ends. I had decided that my visit to this club would be the last fun thing I did before I left. I didn't go though, since the club is a bit of a drive and I didn't want to drive out there if it was going to be awkward.
I have two guesses about why she ignored my calls -- She's an extras girl, and so she might have gotten paranoid about me calling her out of the blue one day and trying to arrange a meeting, even if it was just for lunch. I had decided to save my money and focus solely on work, so I had not seen this girl for several months at the time I called.
My other thought is that I may have seemed indecisive -- I didn't know any restaurants in the area and so I asked her if she knew a good place to eat. Women really despise indecisiveness in a man and so maybe this drove her off.
That was almost a year ago now. However, I might be in the area again in a few months and I will stop by the club and maybe try calling her again. I have nothing to lose from trying.
Here's a more fun story...
I have had two favorite dancers in my career as a strip club patron, one of whom I just wrote about.
I took the other one out to dinner once. It gave me some perspective on how much attractive women must get hit on. This dancer, in my opinion, is a '10.' She's a latina girl with big implants, about the same size as the girl in my avatar. When we walked into the restaurant I noticed so many guys looking at her. Some tried to be discreet, some just stared.
I'll admit that it made me feel like an 'alpha male' to be seen with this beautiful woman accompanying me.
Ahh, the good old days. I haven't seen this girl in a year either. I think she quit dancing, and she doesn't write back to my emails anymore. :(
@Digitech: Yep, that's one of the perks when OTCing is being seen in public with a beautiful, young girl on your arm. I love the way guys oogle her and give me a look like "what do YOU have to get a girl like THAT?". Since I'm an "older guy," I do everything I can to make it obvious I'm not with my daughter... For instance, while eating at a restaurant, we will sit closely together on the same side of the table... usually holding hands.
farmerart -
Both, if I'm lucky! ;p
Never ordered a full blown meal. Couple of clubs have a free happy hour buffet and girl can join you. Bought an appetizer here and there that I'll share, sometimes prompted by the girl. That's about it.
I've never bought a dancer a meal, but I have bought one a drink. Maybe I'm alone here, but I feel like buying a dancer a meal or drink makes one seem even more pathetic- even if it's one of your favorites.
Does anyone else feel that way?
@govikings: No! I don't feel like that at all. To me it's just being nice when you offer and/or buy a drink for a dancer. I only do so for dancers that I am interested in, so she has either worked up a thirst - or will be soon. Sharing a meal with a dancer is kind'a like a step towards being more intimate, in my opinion.
GV,
Disagree!!!
GV: Nah. In Louisville, only two clubs I've been to do not have the overpriced drink hustle going on. PT's, which is expensive for everything else, and Deja Vú, which has been lame as hell.
Buying a drink is the only way short of VIP to spend any significant time with a dancer, unless it's slow.
Here's something funny I've noticed. When I've bought a dancer a meal, lunch or dinner, in the club or OTC, it seems like she always eats exactly half the meal, then asks for a take home box for the rest to eat later. It's like she's getting two meals off you - these girls are always working the angles, lol.