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Dating A Stripper - Too Much Attachment! (Part 1)

Ok.. it seems like this topic has been hovering in several other topics lately... thought I'd shake the bush and see what happens.

Can you date a stripper? Is it possible? Would you want to?

For anyone on this discussion forum, I think the answers for all of those questions SHOULD be an adamant NO!

I've been in this "hobby" for far too many years, and have had way too many experiences that have taught me way too many lessons - the HARD way to EVER want to go down that path, but still, it is far too easy to plunge ahead (with the other head steering).

Why would any grown man, especially a man that has some common sense, fall for a dancer? I think when his life is lacking that "excitement" that isn't being satisfied at home, the level of vulnerability rises to the level that common sense goes out the window. When there's a beautiful, sexy girl that is doing everything she can to make you want to be with her, it's difficult to put on the brakes.

I don't know where these girls learn their tricks of manipulation, but they have it down to a science. So much so that even when you see it coming, and know it's most likely a scam, walking away is usually not the first thing on your mind.

As mentioned in other dicsussions, I have "dated" a few strippers - okay, in honesty, I think I could only call it dating with two of the girls. The rest of them, it was just OTC fun and games, even though I might have had thoughts that it was more at the time.

My ATF was the first, and it lasted for nearly three years. It was a real roller coaster ride, with the last year seeing her divorce her husband (not only because of me, but that was part of it). I was within a month of so of driving down D street, as well. I THINK that was what ended things between us. She couldn't handle the guilt and would not allow me to let her be a "home wrecker". While her and I discussed those feelings and where things were heading, she disappeared. Gone! No signs of where she went. I know (or at least I believe) she left to stop me from filing. Maybe she foresaw the problems that we would have faced - I saw them too, but was willing to work through them. I know it's what she wanted, and I know it was probably the right decision, and that is why I haven't taken the search for her to higher levels.

Close on the heels of ATF, I had another dancer "fling", but it was one of those situations that we both knew wouldn't last. Ultimately, I was able to see that this girl was NOT worth ruining my current life for (Miss ATF was, however).

In both cases, they left dancing. Otherwise, there is no way that I could handle a real relationship with a dancer. I am a jealous-type guy. Until they quit, I suffered with thoughts of other guys playing with them - of the "opportunities" that they had DAILY to "step out" OTC with guys, etc. I couldn't live with those feelings.

Why would a dancer want to date someone like me? That question alone should convince me to never get burned, but it wasn't enough. I don't have moviestar looks, but I consider myself to be a little better than avg. I don't look my age - can pass for at least 10yrs younger than I am. I have a great job, good income, good sense of humor. I treat the girls well. All of those things were the answers that I came up with, and convinced me that it was possible. After those previously mentioned girls came the biggest ROB I have ever encountered. She took me for several $Ks, but she taught me a valuable lesson.

more later....