Don't have a universal one. Depends on what kind of mood I think she's in, or what she's doing. A bored looking stripper/etc, gets some variation of "Don't look so enthused; people will think you like your job." Mostly it's just "Hey, how are you doing?"
If I used something that often (i.e. "Hey, baby!"), I'd be worried about it slipping out of my mouth at work, and that would raise a few eyebrows to be sure... So my club lingo/verbage is pretty ordinary dialogue.
I don't typically call women "baby," even if very familiar and intimate. "Sweetie" is alright, I suppose...
It is funny to me, however, how many Southern women use very familiar terms of endearment with strangers. Go to a restaurant in Texas, and expect to be greeted by your waitress as Sweetie, Honey, Sugar, Darlin' or something similar.
I never use any 'terms of endearment,' inside the club or in regular life.
To me, it is outdated and bit boorish. My dad does it all the time to practically every woman he meets, but they never complain. In fact, it seems to go over pretty well. So I guess it isn't as bad as I think.
No universal greeting. Probably because I don't like it when dancers call me any of the above when introducing themselves. "Hey, baby" sounds ridiculous to me if you don't know the person involved, and trite if you do.
If I need to speak a flirtatious type greeting, "hey baby" works, but I limit it to dancers I don't know. If I know them they get a hug, sometimes with a "hey". If I haven't seen them in a while, they get a "hey stranger."
But I think the "hey baby" thing can get to be too patronizing after a while.
Mine is boring, I know, but I say "Hi" LOL. It lets them get into the typical SS without getting freaked out by saying "WHORE !!!" even though depending on their approach, I can generally tell whether they are or not.
Never used to use them but have started to. In part due to all the baby, sweetie, hunny, etc. greetings directed to me. Sort of an inside joke with me the only one in on it.
I use sweetie most frequently, for unknown girls in particular. I reserve sweetheart for one girl that I've known for 5+ years who is one. Another fave, the youngest that I've got, I've christened as baby.
Once in awhile for a girl I know I'll pull out beautiful. For girls I don't know but have been trying to catch up with I sometimes use sexy.
That was big news down years ago. Someone like the Discovery Channel or National Geographic did a special on that. Bottom line, they think the lethargic snake (after eating such a large meal) was attacked by another gator.
I only use term of endearment with girls I know, even if just barely. Funny thing I call bartenders princess, I never drop that on a dancer. Dancers get called baby, sugar, sweetie, and hon are the most common. Babydoll is reserved for home use only.
I'm kinda surprised how many don't do it and/or don't like it.
Same here, with the shorter "darlin" enphasized so it doesn't sound too hokey. If my feeble old brain can remember, I will always try to use their names whenever possible. A compliment, like "you look quite fabulous tonight" always helps, whether its directed at dancers, waitresses, or shot girls.
I agree with how about the Southern Charm. I am certainly no stranger to gridget but when she phoned me last night, she greeted me with "Hi darlin'". I loved it.
Awhile back I told a dancer that I could not get a dance from her because she was using the same name as my daughter. She said you can call me anything you want. I said "how about bitch". She said "that'll work". She got the dance.
I might try the "Hello darlin'" thing next time out. I'm a damn Yankee living in Kentucky, with a Yankee rasp even I can hear when I listen to a recording, but I might still give it a shot.
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It is funny to me, however, how many Southern women use very familiar terms of endearment with strangers. Go to a restaurant in Texas, and expect to be greeted by your waitress as Sweetie, Honey, Sugar, Darlin' or something similar.
To me, it is outdated and bit boorish. My dad does it all the time to practically every woman he meets, but they never complain. In fact, it seems to go over pretty well. So I guess it isn't as bad as I think.
But then, I am old school when we all respected each other.
I think the dancers hear so much crap all day/night long that they don't really care about greetings very much.
But I think the "hey baby" thing can get to be too patronizing after a while.
1) Just curious, how is that approach working for you guys?
2) If a gator and a snake (python) had a fight, who would win?
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/4313978.stm
"Snake bursts after gobbling gator"
Well, as the song says:
Girls say, girls say
"Hey baby, hey baby, hey"
Boys say, boys say
"Hey baby, hey baby, hey"
All the boys get the girls in the back
I use sweetie most frequently, for unknown girls in particular. I reserve sweetheart for one girl that I've known for 5+ years who is one. Another fave, the youngest that I've got, I've christened as baby.
Once in awhile for a girl I know I'll pull out beautiful. For girls I don't know but have been trying to catch up with I sometimes use sexy.
Haven't had any girls object so far.
That was big news down years ago. Someone like the Discovery Channel or National Geographic did a special on that. Bottom line, they think the lethargic snake (after eating such a large meal) was attacked by another gator.
I'm kinda surprised how many don't do it and/or don't like it.
Awhile back I told a dancer that I could not get a dance from her because she was using the same name as my daughter. She said you can call me anything you want. I said "how about bitch". She said "that'll work". She got the dance.