The Big Kiss Off

The second part of A, and either D or just block her number. If you live in a state that allows concealed
carry, get a permit and carry. If you live in Vermont or Alaska, just go get yourself a gun. :) Above all, be careful.

georgmicrodong, how can you block numbers from calling you?

Good luck with your situation and health condition dudester. I can not offer advice but I would guess at choice A.

Can you not do a combination of all?

Tell her she's done cause she sucks, to leave you alone or youll call her probation officer, that you've got someone better, and then change your phone number.

A gun's probably not a terible idea...

What does she respond to? You've probably learned something about that during your relationship. Build your strategy around that. Being the psycho you describe, I don't think sarcasm or disrespect is the way to go, she might really flip out on you (beyond what she has already).

Then I would take steps to "disappear" from her life, e.g. change phone numbers etc.

One thing I would definitely do is a public records search on her (assuming you have the rigbht name) to see what legal problems she's been through and what part's of the "system" might be of some help you you as this plays out. For example, has she ever been arrested/for what, is she on probation, does she have "Children's Services" issues, does she have a high risk drivers license, does she owe money to the court, to a bank, to a collection agency, etc. Knowledge is power.

Do some networking with a psychologist; find out what drives her and what's possibly coming next in this crazy wind down.

Good luck with everything, stay safe.

Dudster, I can understand how you got in this mess. Pussy fucks our brains.I know that you probably have some mixed emotions but there is only one to end it. Just so NO No NO. Yeah it is going to cause some heart burn but gotta be done.

Thanks guys

RE: a gun. If you wish to obtain/carry a gun, only do so legally! State, county, city, wherever laws vary dramatically.

Secondly, only obtain/carry the weapon if you will use it when needed. If not, don't obtain/carry one as it might become a liability.

I've carried for many years in South Florida and only had it out a couple of times (not counting the times I had it out under the counter in my restaurant) and never in sight of others, but trust me, I would use it if needed. Those that know me also know I carry, so it does cut down on some of the BS you might encounter in day to day life.

samsung1: While it's true that you can't stop someone from calling you, you can often prevent the call from going through. BellSouth/AT&T is my local phone provider, and they have a service that allows me to block certain numbers. It has some restrictions, I can't block out of area numbers, and I can't block the asshat legislator's campaign and BS calls, but if you can block a number, they never even ring your phone.

In addition, my phone itself has a limited block capability. It rings once, and then plays a message about not accepting calls.

Dudester: If you truly want to cut off all contact, do exactly that. No warnings, no "leave me alone", etc, just sever all contact and don't respond. If you're going to call her probation officer or other authorities, just do it, don't make it a threat. Monitor things, certainly, to make sure she doesn't start stalking you, but don't respond to her in any way.

If things do get to the point where the authorities get involved, i.e. a physical confrontation or criminal act on her part, be prepared to have to refute any allegations she might bring forth. Most of the time, the best explanation of such allegations is none at all. "I don't know what she's talking about. I don't know why she'd say those things." That might not work if she has proof, or can reasonably put the two of you together in the same place at the same time (as in, if you ever used a credit card at a place where you met). Think back to all of your encounters, figure out if there's anything she can use against you and then try to spin it as "helping a friend" or something like that.

Even if she *can* show you had a relationship, unless she's willing to either admit to criminal activity herself by accusing you, then likely the most she can do is embarrass you. And given your health situation, a bit of ridicule seems like it would be the least of your worries.

In your place, my first priority would be making what time I have left be the best that it can be. Keeping yourself safe from a nutjob like this would rank right up near the top for me.

"the other day I accidentally I stumbled across a thing called 'Narcisstic Personality Disorder.'"

Nearly all strippers have NPD. Many are malignant narcissists and some even have anti-social personality disorder. Just pay them to fuck, but otherwise keep the fuck away.

Someone once said "You pay strippers to make them go away!"

Before sharing any banking shit with a girl, she has to go through a lot tougher interview questions than getting laid!

Dougster, if all you want is a fuck, why not just stay home and jack off? It's free.

Tell her you will do everything she wants but its going to cost her an anal gangbang with a dozen of your TUSCL buddies first. Payable in advance. That should shut her up.

Lotion gets expensive at those levels Shadowcat.

can you guys get off from just watching porn still? I have to have something more such as a strip club to get aroused enough to get off. Maybe I need Viagra though lol

shadowcat must spend his money on whores who really don't know how to fuck if he thinks it's comparable to masturbation.

Just read your article, Dudester. You're going to have to take that bank friend down. He should be in jail.

You could try giving her the apartment recommendation, and then politely declining any further contact. Might possibly prevent future stalking, vandalism. Regarding the "better and cheaper" replacement, when do we get the details?

Dougster, No offense meant.I was just pointing out the fact that not all of us go for the fuck. Some of us actually enjoy their companionship. It has occasionally led to fuck.