• articles >
• philozof

philozof

Last year I went to a gentleman's club. It was not the first time, I had already visited one with customers in the past, but this was the first time I went there alone. And since then I have gone back several times!

tuscl.net has allowed me to visit the clubs that best matched my expectations. But before I begin my journey, I asked myself following question: what were my motivations? A drink? See girls undressing? Listen to good music? Talk with someone who can talk about the city visited? Understanding these girls or patrons who visit these clubs? In fact , definitely a bit of everything. Sure, not all at the same time, the same night, but in the course of my visits, I had the pleasure of testing. A lot.

But first things first. As I said, the site tuscl.net identifies my target, and the first criterion is of course the city! Passing through a region with its own vehicle or taxi, we must determine the club that corresponds most to our expectations. And here are my criteria as those of most visitors: the dancers (quality , nude, ethnicity) and price ( entry , drinks, dances). To do this, the web site has objective criteria mentioned for most clubs. But also the atmosphere, which is a more subjective. And more particularly described in the reviews.

Indeed, after targeting a club, I'll see what other visitors think about it. I have often a better idea of the place. Of course, this opinion is subjective, and depends on many different factors than those I will find: date of visit, the dancers in the club on that evening, the visitor experience and his expectations, and even his state of mind at that specific time. But more or less objective description of the club by a writer still allows to represent the place.

And my first experience then? Before my first visit, I imagined a gentleman's club as an exclusive place in the center of a city, a dark room, with a fairly loud modern music, a lot of men sitting at low tables , hidden in a welcome dark, sipping whiskey after whiskey and watch the spectacle of a lot of strippers. Most of my ideas were not true: in fact, most of the clubs I visited were located a little away from densely populated areas, and not in Time Square or on the Strip (except in Bourbon St in New Orleans). Moreover, they were not all very "classy". I visited clubs that could scare many tourists. But I think my “bad boy” side also wanted this experience. And every club offers non-alcoholic beverages, and even some (in general nude clubs) do not offer alcohol at all.

The rooms are generally quite dark, and this is especially true during a very sunny afternoon. But once accustomed, our eyes guess well the topology of the places. OK, I hesitated a lot, but finally I came in the club. First important question: Where to sit? At the bar? At a table? Close to the stage? Personally, I rarely go to the bar, but I noticed that it was a strategic location: the ability to see the show, chat with some girls who come to say you “hello”, see who chooses the tables and which tables, etc.

Usually, I sit at a table close to the scene. This allows me to see the dancers and give them tips without going through the whole room. It also allows me to observe other tables (patrons and girls). And discuss a few words with girls before "choosing" one with whom I would spend more time. And this is where I'll start with the rules, the ones I discovered in the clubs, and sometimes on the web.

The first rule that I had not learned, but discovered live: when you 're sitting at the stage, the girls generally do not offer discussion or dances. Unspoken rule, but very generally respected.

Another rule: a gentleman's club is an “exchange place” in the first meaning of word: The club must make money to exist, dancers must earn money for food and their apartment, employees must earn money for themselves and their family. And in return, the customer must have fun. So if you have fun, agree to pay entry, drinks, and especially the tips. Otherwise, get out.

Almost always on each of my visits, I gave a tip to the person at the entrance (not always, it is true, but always in case of no-cover), to the waitress, to the dancers on the stage, to a dancer for private dances. It is also a recognition of the person and her performance. For example, to sit on stage, tipping is mandatory, even if rule is not written at the entrance. That's my opinion. But if I 'm sitting at a table, and I see a dancer on the stage which receives no tip, I always get up and go give her a few dollars, hoping that others will do the same. And 90 % of the time, just after her performance, the girl comes to thank me personally.

And what about rules for the different rooms proposed in the clubs? To date, I've never been in a VIP or champagne room, but the different prices are described in the reviews on the site, and recalled by girls. So I can not write about the benefits that are offered.

But if you want a private dance (available at most clubs), there is often a written or not written regulation that prohibits (more or less... ) contact. Rules are strict, but application more or less flexible, depending on the clubs and/or dancers. And it was also for me the discovery of the meaning of "mileage".

During my first visit, I accepted a private dance. I read on the web that it was strictly forbidden to touch a dancer. But not vice versa. In the second or third dance, the dancer took my hands, and laid them on her ass, then her breast. What an extraordinary sensation of breaking the rules. Since then, I realized that the state, the city, the club and even the girl could evolve a little regulation. By cons, during a lap dance, after a few minutes, I always ask the girl before touching or stroking gently, if she does not bother.

Anyway, I learned that one of the most important things was the respect. Respect for their work, their persons, their privacy. and it works very well, most recognize that respect and appreciate it. For example, if a girl asks you for a dance, and she is not THE one you were looking for: no need to offend. Just say no. And, for example, if she jumps on you before you could order a drink, you can explain that you want to be alone for a moment, that you do not want company right away, etc.

In this respect, we should also explain quickly to the girl that she loses her time useless if she stays with you for one hour, for then you refused to buy her a drink or a dance. Especially if the club is full.

Another rule I apply to go to a club like I would go to an appointment. That is to say not completely stuffed, dressed with some care (dancers appreciate soft clothes and accessories), and clean. It is important for your hostess, but also for you to feel comfortable.

Avoid using credit cards. Just read on this site, the number of guys who have been ripped off, or just think they have been. Personally, I did not pay undue commissions, but I got ripped off on my credit card, when paying the cover. Since then, I have never used a credit card. Another advantage: you spend what you planned to spend. And even if you drink a glass or two.

In short? Go to a club is a trivial thing to some, an offense or a sin for others. The important thing is that you set limits, have fun, and have respect with partners you meet. This is the only way to return the next day or next year.