Little Things Go A Long Way Proper Tips on Etiquette
avalons07
One thing that no matter what city I travel to the fact of the matter is human nature doesn't change. We are all guilty of it (myself included from time to time). However, ladies please if you see that a gentlemen has a ladies drink EMPLOY your common sense. That means that someone is sitting with him. Ask him if she will be returning. While we are all in a competitive environment to make money, we are not out to make enemies.
At the risk of sounding contrite, there are certainly times when we all have a bad day and certainly want to rip someone's head off. We have all been there. I used to do it to my stuffed toys when I was younger, however such outdated tactics no longer work EVEN in the dance world (unless it's Tuesday night in the boxing ring!) So, it's best to remove one's self from a heated situation or simply leave before it gets to that point. Remember you can always come back fresh tomorrow. Tomorrow is after all another day.
Ladies, just remember we are after all the fairer sex for a reason. What does that mean exactly? It means that while it is always nice to imbibe and have a 'few'. Moderation is key. There is a difference between tipsy and being drunk.
Also, ladies if you should ever have an issue with one of your fellow dancers take it to the back room. Never call them out in front of their peers or customers where an exchange can happen.
As for the gentlemen, we are here to ensure that you have a time that is enjoyable. However, please respect our personal boundaries while we entertain you.
Ladies, unless you DON'T want repeat business. Treat our clientele with respect. What does that mean? Simply put it means don't quote them a price just to get them in the back and then swith the price and strongarm them once you have them back there. That is unless you want to LOSE business for both YOURSELVES and the CLUB.
Do the right thing. What does that mean? It means act as a team. Together everybody achieves more. I.e. If another entertainers' customer comes in and you encounter him, just go get her. Why? Because it will come back to you tenfold. It also shows that customer that we function as a cohesive unit, we work together. Guys like that. They will stay longer. If they sense otherwise, they won't. Simply put it effects all of our bottomlines.
If at anytime, a given entertainer feels that she has been personally offended in a manner untoward her she will let you gentlemen know accordingly.
In terms of etiquette for gentlemen, for the most part the vast majority of our clientele tend to conduct themselves properly,
For those who may need some friendly reminders or whom are simply new to the strip club arena in general here are some pointers
The stage or as I like to call it tip rail is exactly that meant for tipping. It is not a place to lear, cavort, heckle, or simply just gawk. If you are up close and personal you are there for a reason and should tip accordingly.
Don't be shy. If a lady catches your eye. Don't be afraid to strike up conversation. We don't bite. Nor do we receive an hourly wage. Sometimes it's nice for the guy to strike up a conversation with us. Give her a few dollars and let her know that you would like a dance.
Gentlemen please come dressed in appropriate attire. One doesn't have to be in a three piece suite. However, shower, deoderant, and fresh breath go a long way. Remember first impressions are everything.
Gentlemen, if you have come to visit for a certain dancer, don't be afraid to let the other ladies know. Sometimes it can be distracting.
Have fun. Just be yourself and be polite, Neither gender is out to offend the opposite sex. Please guys, if you are coming to see us we want to talk to you!
Happy lapping!
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Last night I was in a club with a dancer seated next to me and we were chatting idly, not serious conversation but polite discourse. Suddenly another dancer came over,plopped herself in my lap, and began a new conversation whereupon my original companion got up and stalked off.
I reprimanded the girl in my lap and insisted that she go and apologize to the girl she had offended by "cutting in" on our conversation. While this interloper seemed genuinely surprised that I was offended by her action, she did go and apologize. I later discovered that such rude interdiction had become increasingly common at that club, not just from this one dancer but also from others.
We customers can not control everything that occurs at a club but we can help to enforce positive etiquette. The result will be less dancer drama and an improved "vib" for us all.
Agree with this part 100%. Assholes that do that destroy the vibe.
As to the rest, on the whole you seem a bit uptight avalons07. Some drama and misbehavior is part of the strip club culture where human frailties come to the fore. Within limits. But wouldn't mind visiting a Martha Stewart run titty bar now and then. :-)
If I may, I'd like to add some additional tips on proper etiquette:
1. Dancers, GET THE FUCK OUT OF THE DRESSING ROOM !!! Are you freakin' kidding me? Spending your entire shift in there, doing whatever you're doing and wasting our time. You're there to make money, you can't do that in the dressing room. How many times have I walked out of a club with my pocket full of cash that I would have gladly given that hot stripper who I saw briefly zooming thru before she headed into the dressing room for the rest of the evening.
2. Dancers, STOP SITTING ON YOUR ASS TEXTING ALL FREAKIN' SHIFT !!! How freakin' rude can you be? I'm waiting for an hour for someone to get off her ass and make her rounds so I can get a dance? That's just ridiculous. They should confiscate every freakin' cellphone from every dancer as soon as she walks in the door.
3. Dancers, don't spend all freakin' shift with a single customer. Yeah, I know he's a regular, and he's nice, and he gives you presents and stuff, but, y'know, tell him "I gotta make the rounds or I'll get in trouble", then take a spin around the club and check to see if there are any customers sitting there with a boner for you, give them some dances, and THEN you can head back to your sugar daddy.
4. Customers, DON'T HOG THE HOT CHICKS !! Geez, guys, I know she's your ATF, but have a little bit of consideration for the other guys who think she's hot.
5. Dancers, don't be so freakin' selective about who you ask for a dance. I've seen girls come out of the dressing room, look around, head for one guy out of 20, ask him for a dance, then head back to the dressing room. WTF? You're not gonna marry the guy, you're just getting a dance.
6. Dancers, I hate to break this to you, but you don't deserve a tip until you do something to deserve a tip. That's what a tip is. And it's REALLY easy to do stuff that guys love, and they will tip you all night. That's a whole 'nother thread, but trust me, it's real easy to put a guy in the palm of your hand, and it's so rare for dancers to do that, when it happens guys will go nuts. When a dancer treats me good, my pockets empty in a heartbeat. And I don't mean sex. Anyway, don't act like somehow you are entitled to tips for doing nothing out of the ordinary. 'Cuz you're not. Talk to your boss if he's not paying you enough, not us.
Well, those are the big ones. Although one other personal thing that I'd like to see, and it's not really etiquette, just something that would be cool...
Dancers, use a little bit of thought in choosing what you're going to wear. I get so freakin' tired of girls wearing the same old bikinis and stuff. Come on, show a little flair. There was one hot girl who came out in a cutoff wifebeater t-shirt, cut just under her tits, with spectacular tits, and I was mesmerized. Incredibly sexy, a little out of the ordinary, but just awesome. Yeah, I know it costs money to get outfits, etc., but just trying something new. Maybe it's just an LA thing, but it gets kinda boring after a while.
I am one of the guys who will go to a strip club and hog my favorite stripper all night and my favorite will spend hours talking to me without even looking at other customers. Tough luck. She's earning enough from me that she doesn't need other customers on the nights when I'm there and I'm there to enjoy her. Why should she leave me, let me leave and go home, and earn less than she'd earn if she stayed with me?
If you don't like me sitting with a dancer for most or all of a shift, TOO Damned bad! Come back on a night I'm not paying for her time & performance.
For those of you who think EVERY dancer must come up to see you at your seat. Tough! Get off your butt & go to her if necessary. That has worked for me, quite well at times. It is NOT a mark against your Manhood to do that. LOL
And that's bullshit anyway. Guys, you go into a club to have fun and be entertained. So let them entertain you. If they don't, walk the fuck out with your cash in hand. I guarantee you, the experience you buy from a girl who won't even get off her ass to sit at your table, well you are not going to get value in the private dance for sure. Compare that to the experiences you get from the girl who works the floor, and comes to you. Much better mileage.
Find a girl and go on a date. I promise, there are girls out there who will like you, and will go out with you even for no money. Really. And they'll talk to you, and joke with you, and it will be a lot of fun, just like with a stripper. You can go places with her, and you can even take her home and have sex with her. And if it costs any money at all it will only be the cost of a lunch or dinner or something. A lot cheaper than paying a stripper's rent every month, and less hassle than walking her dog and babysitting for her.