I'm the type of PL who enjoys a good friendly conversation, although that isn't what I am looking for at my local club/s. I like to get a drink or three, tip on stage a couple times, maybe more, and then wait for a dancer of my type (fit and pretty, great ass and legs) to approach me for a dance.
If I get approached by somebody who isn't my type, but is decent in conversation, I'll tip them and/or offer them a drink from the bar. I will try to let them know politely earlier in the 10-15 minutes that my intentions are to not get a dance today. Point is, I'm a decent enough PL, imo.
I don't tip everyone who approaches, generally I believe in them earning it with a dance in the back or on the stage. I don't mind them joining me if they ask. The other day I had a weird experience.
Dancer informs me that they would like a tip after spending 8 minutes chatting me up. During said 8 minutes, she asked what if I like VIPs, I said seldom so, I'm more of a regular dance or two type of guy. I invited to buy here a beverage, which she declined.
How was I supposed to respond to her demand? I told her I tip when I want to, and don't tip on command. She got a bit upset by that, and responded with, "Do you think I LIKE sitting here talking to you?" "How do you think I make money here?"
At this point I was incredulous, and wanted to tell her to take a hike. Instead I took a deep breath, and excused myself to the bathroom, telling her, if you're still here when I get back, then we'll see whether or not I WANT to give you one.
When I went back she was still there. I decided to play along with her self imposed rules, simply to just keep the peace. I said: I was thinking about what you said, and I do want to give you a tip: $5. She thanked me, and we talked for a short time longer. I gave her another $5. She asked me was I ready for a dance, and I politely declined. She left.
Looking back, I can't tell why I caved in- but I think sometimes people are just miserable, and you have to chalk it up to a lesson learned. She must have learned that complaining and whining to her possible customers paid off- and I only reinforced that by my actions. I want to learn by it too, though. Was there anything redeeming by her gracing me with her presence during that 15 minutes(of a DEAD day-shift). She did save me money declining my drink. She also taught me about herself. She's blunt and feels entitled to tips for conversating. I suppose it helped me appreciate the job more- and how the good ones never let you know how much they really hate on customers.
So guys, if you're ever put into this position, i don't think it's worth it to stand on your high horse and make a point that conversations are a chance for the girl to sell a dance and make money, not tip-worthy in and of itself. Instead, pull out at least 5 bucks and say thanks, even if, no especially if, they do so in an insulting manner. You won't feel better sinking to their level. Don't let a rotten fish spoil the bunch.
TheC
