How to get More than a Lap Dance
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The hard part I have found is the feeling out process and getting to know them part in the club. When you find the young lady whom you'd like to approach, it's always best to sit at the stage when they are dancing...don't bother with the $1's if you find the one you want to approach. I've always found the $20 bill to do the trick to get her to come sit with you when she's done - it's well worth the investment people!
Once she is done and she starts collecting, don't be afraid to ask her to come see you when she's done changing. You'll be surprised that 100% of them will say to go back to your table and wait for them. And they do every time. When she sits down, buy her a drink before she asks for one (we all know they have to hustle drinks). This is where you will get to know them. They will sure enough ask to give you a dance, tell them in a minute, you want to get to know them a little bit. Not all of them will stick around, those are the ones who are in it for a quick buck and you don't want them in the first place. The ones that do stick around you have a good chance with as long as you don't blow it. Play it cool, ask if she is a student, has kids, etc. I've found that single moms are your best bet.
You have to make them feel at ease and must have a little gift of gab. Ask for a dance. If nothing else, you will get a better dance than the average Joe. After the first dance, ask to go sit down again, they won't say no. By this time, let them know that you are interested in getting to know her outside of the club. I've found that this works better for daytime dancers more than night shift. The best times for this "date" is around 6-7 pm when they are usually done with their shift. Do not push them, if they aren't comfortable with the idea right away (and most won't be), tell them that's cool and that you are in no hurry since you are honestly waiting for the right one.
Ask when their regular shift is. You may have to invest a few bucks into her on subsequent visits. Be persistent, but don't push the idea. They will be coy and ask what you want in private, all will claim that they won't go all the way, but let them know that's what you want ultimately, they aren't dumb, they know that's what we want, so don't lie about it.
Take the time and invest into this, it will work. I have hooked up with 5 solid girls and all have been long term arrangements until the arrangement runs its course. Good luck!
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To sum it all up: show her you think she's valuable by tipping generously, but don't try and buy her.
What I've found over the years is that, although women like to be pursued, if there is no STRONG signal of genuine reciprocity -- doesn't return calls or txt messages promptly, shows lackluster initiative, etc. -- then chances are it ain't gonna work out. What confused me when I was younger was the indoctrination that when a guy pursues hard enough (w/o crossing the line to stalking) the girl may come around. That ain't so. The same applies to dancers although the signals can get mixed up in SC settings.
Also, I think most of the dancers are going to give you a good dance in the beginning to encourage you to get more dances. I think the dancer who gives a lousy dane to a non tipping customer will give an equally bad dance to the $20 stage tipper. I could be wrong on this because I have never tipped more than $2 at the stage, but I have had dances with girls who gave me every bit the same dance as the high tippers. My last comment applies only to clubs like Follies and Mons Venus, where the lap dances are open to public view.
I do tip $20s at the stage but it's to tip the dancer cause she's been good to me prior, not because I expect her to be good to me later. It's mostly for my semi-regulars and regulars. Occasionally for dancers I don't know if they've put on a good show. They come to thank me but rarely do I ask for LDs from them. This newer generation that's attached to LDs (I get my fornication mostly OTC and some ITC) is not my kind of thing. I suspect many of the lurkers out there feel the same way.
If at the end of the dance you think it is worth following up on THEN give her a twenty and ask if she can spend some time talking. If things continue to work well ask her when her hours are. Then say that you are usually free at (some time other than her usual work hours) and would love to spend (longer, quieter, more relaxed, etc.) time with her.
The more money you spend on a stripper, the less likely you are to see her outside the club, period.
I am not saying this will work 100% of the time; but unless she has her regular waiting for her, you may be the first one she comes see after she gets off stage to see “what you are all about†and if you really intend on spending a lot of $$$ on her.
Not likely IMHO. It is not all about looks. Do you Estafador, think you are heaven's gift to women in terms of looks? Something else speaks LOUDER than looks or clothes. LOL
The best way to break the ice is to reveal something about yourself that you find funny. Chances are she will, too. Once you have her laughing you have her relaxed. Your chances go up exponentially as you are no longer just a stiff(y).
Before I knew it, drama blew up in my face. She was acting really really angry at me one night for no good reason. She was acting like I was a cheating boyfriend and I wasn't cheating nor did I think of myself as being her boyfriend.
I agree with Scratch. Spending money means you are irrevocably a customer. There is nothing wrong with that.