Comments by CC99 (page 55)

The submissive getting turned on by their own pain isn't much better really. In that case its fucked up for you to ask somebody to do that to you without any consideration to the fact that an empathetic person is going to be emotionally wounded from hurting somebody they like.

It doesn't matter if its consensual. That person is getting turned on by hurting somebody. Causing pain to another person is creating the highest state of arousal in them. That is extremely disturbing. And I don't think any elements of domination and submission should be present in human relationships. Your relationship with your girlfriend should be like having a best friend that you have sex with.

S&M literally stands for "sadism and masochism." How is anybody okay with this? How twisted do you have to be to be turned on by somebody else's pain? Especially the pain of someone you have sex with. And how fucked up mentally do you have to be to get off on your own pain?

You choose on a subconscious level who you are attracted to. I can't stand the sight of a girl being dominated or humiliated. I have a visceral reaction of disgust and cannot watch porn that does that. That is not biological, it's a result of me having the right values and choosing to find pleasure in displays of affection while feeling disgust when I see people twisting an act of affection to become something malicious.

It is true that you're more likely to die from a car accident than homicide. But somebody growing up in a rough neighborhood is probably more likely to die from homicide.

Relationships do not need dominant and submissive partners. The most loving relationship will be an equal one where both people consider the other to be the most important thing in life and the biggest source of happiness to them.

Not really. There are black families in upper class neighborhoods too and they are treated exactly the same as white families. Its more about the fact that certain neighborhoods are objectively more dangerous.

People say nice guys are boring but that's because they don't give them a chance. Nice guys are some of the horniest dudes out there, a lot of them jack off like 4-6 times a day and can make a sex joke out of anything. The difference is that they understand that you shouldn't direct your sexual energy towards the person you're interested in when you don't know if they are willing partners yet. The "boring" analysis is so stupid. Most nice guys would have sex all night day after day if they had a girlfriend.

It seems to me that most strippers are an exception to the "nice guys finish last" rule. Might not be the case at ghetto strip clubs but in my experiences, the strippers seemed to act more sexual with me because I was nice to them. @FTS that's probably because having any kind of morals in Ancient Rome would've gotten you killed. This was a society that's estimated to have had a homicide rate between 100-150 murders per 100,000 people not including warfare deaths, democide from tyrannical emperors, political assassinations, and gladiator combat. The last thing we need is to be taking any kind of moral lessons from Ancient Rome.

East side San Jose is fine. The whole city has a pretty low crime rate. People living in high crime areas just get used to it. People in safe neighborhoods are scared of crime because we wouldn't know how to handle a situation like that if it was to arise. People who grow up in high crime areas kind of just learn how to avoid trouble or be intimidating enough that they can get out of trouble when it is forced on you, as TwentyFive said. That doesn't mean a sheltered kid from the suburbs is safe walking through a ghetto though.

Yeah I agree with Skibum. Every study and point of comparison points to the nuclear family being better than non-traditional childbearing environments and yet progressives are still trying to break them up. It's probably my biggest issue with them.

I was 16, got a job as a cashier at a clothing store.

"Next time I find my 60 year old white ass in Washington Park Illinois after midnight, I will just wear a Duke Blue Devils jersey, call everyone Bro Bro, and ride around on a bicycle. As long as I don't have any race or class prejudices, I should be fine. ." Lol, I think this is my favorite comment in this thread. Eva does strike me as somebody who is trying too hard to put on a tough guy image. He sounds exactly like a wannabe gangster to me. As for SJG, San Jose doesn't have any real ghettos. The city is incredibly safe. I looked up the crime statistics and the city of San Jose is a really safe city. With a population of nearly a million people they only have 20-30 homicides per year which is about half the national average. SJG can ride on a bicycle because his city is a very sheltered city. I've seen some people similar attitudes where I've grown up, where some kids don't think ghettos are that bad or people just have classist prejudice because the "bad neighborhoods" where I live are a complete joke.

If we're talking about the whole city of Tijuana and not just Hong Kong, then I think there's a huge difference between a US ghetto, even one in Chicago, and the city with the highest rate of homicide in the entire world where drug cartels have pitched gun battles on the streets with the police. Where in the United States would anything like this ever happen. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8MA8jf-614g https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nu7qPQQoIbA https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EcjRXcVqnOY In the first video, three completely innocent, normal people with no affiliations with drug gangs whatsoever were intentionally killed by the cartel gunmen for no reason other than they happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. Its not just a matter of "not being an idiot." That guy was just trying to put some gas in his car and the cashier was just trying to have an ordinary job.

You'd be surprised how many laws like this are still on the books. They just aren't enforced at all.

Chicago and NYC in the 1970s were absolute warzones.

^I'm confused.

@Icey one of my favorites from last year looked a lot like the girl in this photo (she's not dancing anymore). https://i.leolist.cc/162960/4531976/main/IMG_8836.JPG Can you honestly tell me a girl like that could be a "ghetto bitch?"

@TFP Lol I guess sort of but not exactly. I have a lot more of a baby face than that guy does.

Lol @Flagooner I thought you might have a little fun with Eva's response. I am the definition of somebody who should not be going into bad neighborhoods. At the same time though, I think I could find a way to not look quite so much like a sheltered white boy from the suburbs. I tend to dress very casual, not "street" but I do wear hoodies a lot and joggers, sweatpants, or cargo pants. If I wore one of my hoodies, put my hood up, kept my head down, put my hands in my pockets and walked fast I probably would actually blend in a lot better than you'd expect. As for him being safer because he is black, its a well known fact that high crime neighborhoods are hotbeds of racial tensions. If you don't belong to the race of the majority of the neighborhood, that's just one reason why they might target you. A white person going into a high crime area that's majority black has more to worry about than a black person doing the same even if they are both from middle class backgrounds just like a white person is safer walking into a trailer park than a black person is even if they're both from middle class backgrounds. Its a basic matter of anything that might draw attention to you would be a problem.

"Every encounter about risk vs benefit. I don't get anything out of lactation so won't risk the viral exposure for something I'm indifferent to." I love the way this was phrased.

@Kcmember I've been to some of the 1 type of area you mention, where it has restaurants and history and stuff like that in Petersburg. Petersburg is a pretty rough town, especially at night even in the nicer areas. Its kind of that feeling where the restaurant itself feels safe, I would be very surprised to see anything happen inside, but the parking lot can be pretty damn sketchy. I'm guessing in the latter part though, the parts the city doesn't care about, that everywhere is dangerous.

Yeah I would immediately distrust any stripper that claims Cardi B to be a role model given that she's talked shamelessly about exploiting her customers when she was a stripper and basically treating them like shit. That's why I'm not entirely sure this story is fake.

@JamesSD I was thinking that myself that the gangs wouldn't want the neighborhoods to be too dangerous because rich kids are a huge drug consuming customer base that you don't want to scare away. If they're afraid setting foot in your neighborhood might get them shot you lose out on some of your best customers.

There are certain areas of Richmond as well that businesses refuse to deliver to because too many drivers get robbed.