Dancer Review of Landing Strip@RonJaxx2 - Iām with you. Something like asking a dancer what her plans might be in the future never really crossed my mind as being too personal. The way @BubbleYum described the situation though, it almost felt like they were being self-righteous āwhite knightsā trying to make her feel badly for being a dancer. Though none of that seemed to bother them when they were being inappropriate with her and hoping to āGet here out of there.ā š
Iām with you on your second point as well. Iām one of those awkward guys who has a hard time being āconfidentā around dancers let alone smooth with the conversation. Donāt get me wrong, Iām trying to improve - but sometimes thoughts like āShould I ask if I can do this or that? Or should I maybe just try and see what happens?ā runs through my mind. Iām more like you where I try to be respectful and I always ask about touching, or like in your story, I would place the money following her lead. But sometimes during dances, I feel like I should be more āassertiveā and take chances. Not in a creepy way, but maybe if Iām getting several dances and my hands have been pretty much allowed to roam, should I slowly work my way to touching her āthereā?
It seems like some guys are all about implicit consent, and might slowly make the approach of touching a girl outside her panties without asking, going for nipple licks, or kissing. etc. Of course, if the girl stops them or tells them she doesnāt allow that, theyād stop. Theyāre not being total assholes, just taking the chance to see what sheās open to. And sometimes that works out, and sometimes it doesnāt. But it isnāt something they āokādā with her first, they just go for it, hoping the girl likes their money and/or them enough to let them. Maybe if that guy had gotten to know her for five minutes, BubbleYum wouldnāt have been put off by him touching bet without asking. Ultimately though, Iād love to hear @BubbleYumās thoughts on it if she sees this. I love having her point of view to reflect on my own experiences and see where I can improve on things.