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She hasn't been around since flagooner ran out of money. As soon as he gets another paper rout I'm sure she'll just happen to find a reason to come back.

K - I appreciate your thoughtful response. And in re-reading the discussion I acknowledge my contradictions, mainly because I started the post after having a few drinks, and then continued the discussion in a more sober frame of my mind. To answer your questions - she does some of the things you describe as putting her into a friend category, but not all of them, and there's definitely a line where it ends and the nature of what we're doing is very transparent. I don't have a problem with that and really think that’s how it should be. She comes across like she wouldn't do OTC with just anyone, but I've met her standards and she feels comfortable with me. While I acknowledge the benefits of cashman’s advice, I don’t think I’m going to use it in this situation. I’m comfortable with the way things are working out. I’m the one who approached her with money, and in doing so I wouldn’t expect her take on the situation to change just because of the way I think of her. And it would be really weird if it did. While I appreciate the serious responses I’ve received, I believe many readers see the situation as follows: Man offers girl money for good time. Girl gives man good time. Man really likes it and keeps offering money. Girl thinks this is great and continues to give him a good time. Man develops feelings for girl. How dare she not love him back? What a fucking whore. I have no expectations (or desire) for feelings to be reciprocated. I want the girl to have fun when she’s with me and feel like the whole thing is a pretty good deal for her. I’d also like to see her grow and move on in life, and though I acknowledge that her personal life is just that (it’s HER personal life) and it’s not my place interfere, I wonder if my continued offers enable her not to grow. I’m not concerned with being taken for a ride financially. I’m very disciplined when it comes to that. Most of the serious replies I’ve received focus just on being used financially. And while I appreciate the concern and acknowledge the relevance of such discussions, what I’m really interested in discussing are situations where the PL acknowledged the “relationship” for what it was, and how did it eventually end?

Rickyboy - I've been on TUSTL for a really long time, and I believe everyone except for you has picked up on why I would use a different sign-in for this type of discussion, so your comment about my not having reviewed any clubs strikes me as very naive . . . even for you ;) I have a very intimate relationship with my personal finances. I spend more time budgeting, forecasting, and analyzing investments than I spent with any girl from a club, and I even love this aspect of my life more than my children, dog, or ex-wife. Yes, I have affection for the girl I speak of. I honestly want the best for her. But it's nothing compared to the intimacy I share with my personal finances. I actually have gained knowledge from your replies. And I thank you for that. It's just a shame that everything you write sounds like it came from a frat boy still trying to relive his glory days at the expense of others. It forces everyone else to read between the lines in order to grasp the the true substance behind what you have to say, which in all honesty, can be pretty insightful.

I agree with two_bits, though I'm not going to be a snot about it. I'm sorry you lost your job, but if that's the case, you really should be concentrating on finding a new one and put the strip clubbing on hold for a while. That's what I'd do. Even if I were in love with the girls, I'd tell them not now and go find myself a job. Money and your own financial security should come first.

Rick - I do greatly appreciate the time you've taken to respond. Can I ask you to elaborate on what kind of damage you see (or have seen with others) happening? I'm not ever going to spend more than my budget, so it won't be financial damage. Basically, the money I spend on her would have been spent on others if not for her, so if it ends badly I may have missed out on some good (or better) times, but I won't be walking away in a different financial position because of her. Right now I'm sacrificing a bit of variety for her, but when it's over I'll be happy (or perhaps just content) to get that variety back. Other than cash, what else should I be looking out for?