discussion comment
13 years ago
I'll give you my opinions to your questions in the same order.
1. You won't have to go up to the dancers, because if you sit at a table or a chair, they will come to you, so you don't have to worry about the awkwardness of approaching a beautiful, half-naked dancer.
2. If you're sitting at a table or in a chair (not at the stage) you don't have to tip. After a stage dance, the dancers might walk around to the patrons and ask for a tip, and if you want to, only a dollar or two will do, and you can put it between their thong and their skin. They're also known as 'dollar dances' because that's the most common bill that's tipped.
3. You can say that you've never been there before so you don't know what the rates are. I would advise that you research prices on here for the club that you want to go to, as to have an expectation for what to spend. You can also ask "How much do you charge for dances?" or "what's on the menu for dances?" And yes, you tip on top of the dance fee. For couch dances, I would say $10ish is a good tip. For VIP dances, depending on the mileage, $20+
4. In my couple of experiences where dancers took me to 'the point of no return,' I just blew in my shorts. The dancers were cool with it, thought it was cute. I've gotten better at it, and when I can feel it approaching that *point* I gently push the dancer away from that area, and say "hold on," and she gets it. If she gets you close, just push her away from your crotch, she will understand.
5. As far as I'm concerned, it's crude to ask for extras in plain language. When they approach me, or sit with me, and after we begin talking about dance prices, either she will mention extras, or you can ask about extras.
6. It IS okay for you to tell them that you're new. Tell them after they begin the dance, so they can't scalp you for more $$$. When the song starts, and she takes her heels off, just tell her that you're new at it and she'll treat you well :) Often times, I don't know how the dancers like to be touched, so I'll just touch their arms, legs, back and hair until they move so that I'm touching their breasts or their ass or whatever.
Other advice, you DON'T have to buy drinks for the dancers. You can if you want to, but some clubs REALLY pressure you to buy drinks for the girls. If you're not interested in a dancer that approaches you, and if she asks if you want a dance, just tell her that you're still looking around, or if you're just not ready, ask her to come back after a while. If a dancer sits with you, and it's too loud, it's okay to ask her if she wants to move to a table, or to the bar to have better conversation. Converse with the dancers before you show interest in getting a dance. Knowing part of the woman's personality helps you two connect while she's dancing. Do what the bouncer says, if he says not hats, or no cell phones or no white T-shirts, just say 'i'll be right back' and take those things back to your vehicle. An important piece of advice is to clean up before you go to the club. Shave and shower, make yourself look nice and smell nice. Just as much as we hate stinky and trashy looking entertainers, they hate smelly and ugly PLs (pathetic losers). I'm 24 years old as well, so if you want any other advice from a like-minded guy, just message me. Happy hunting!