being a dancer myself, i have a largely different view to most of you.
i'm going to be completely honest and say right away that from what i've read in the other topics, i'm the kind of stripper that the majority of you would hate. i'm constantly using the "i'm a dancer, not a prositute" line. why? because that's exactly how it is, for me anyway. at the club i worked at, in south australia, any kind of contact is STRICTLY forbidden. if a guy was to grab my breast during a dance, i'd kick the shit out of him. but then again, i don't "grind" on laps. i don't dirty talk or nibble ears or let anyone lay so much as a finger on any part of my body. i have never met a customer OTC for anything, i don't discuss my sex life with customers. in the private lap room, i dance seductively while taking my clothes off. yeah i'll sit on his lap but i certainly don't grind or do anything that comes even remotely close to getting him off, and while i am dancing for him his hands stay down the sides of the chair at all times. i don't engage in the typical "stripper shit", and i'm usually what someone referred to in another topic is a "hit and run girl". i'm not one for conversation or befriending customers for money, i'm not one to hug & kiss my regulars, i have the attitude that i'm there to get paid to dance naked, if you would like to look at me then give me money and i will do my job.
so for me, being that i simply dance naked and nothing else, the "i'm a stripper not a prosititute" line is totally applicable. but regardless of that, there is a very fine line between stripping and prostitution. some girls would probably see grinding on your groin until you cum totally fine, but would get angry at you for trying to touch her. like someone said above, maybe it's a control thing. i don't know. i've never been in that situation. i guess where you draw that line is a totally personal thing, and varies between each person, be it dancer or customer.
the club i worked at had a pretty dodgy secretive ownership deal going on, so i'm not exactly sure what the whole story was there. but i think the owner of the premises and the manager of the girls were definitely ranked #1. followed by the assistant manager (in other words, the ex-stripper now dating the manager or owner). the bouncers and bar manager were probably next, and then i guess the girls who had been working there the longest who kinda looked after the newer girls.
ahh, ok. i'm not sure if it's an australia-wide thing but i know in the state i live in, touching, penetration of any kind, etc is really illegal. hell, in the club i worked at i saw my boss actually throw a girl's suitcase down the stairs and scream at her to "get the fuck out you dirty fucking whore" because she got busted kissing a customer in the VIP room. even opening our legs once we had our thong off was discouraged.
makes me realise how naive i am to it all... i honestly had no idea that there were clubs like that out there. i don't understand why girls would bother stripping somewhere like that and doing that kind of stuff... why not just be an escort or work in a massage place or something? i dunno... it all kinda fascinates me really
i'm only 21, so i've still got a long time before i'll be hanging up my stripper shoes.... but i've definitely given some thought as to what i'm gonna do afterwards. stripping isn't a career for me. i love it, it's great fun, but really it's just a means to an end. so i'm careful with the money i earn. i don't spend it all. by the time i finish stripping i hope to own a house with the money i've earned. while i've been stripping i've also done a whole lot of other stuff do - i'm a qualified makeup artist & hairstylist, i've done some work in radio announcing and would love to pursue that one day, and i've also studied graphic design and webdesign. so when i do quit stripping, it's not like i won't have somewhere to go. yeah i'll have to get used to not earning such huge amounts of cash, but i figure if i'm sensible while i am earning a lot, everything will work out in the end.
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