I had a weird experience Saturday night. I hooked up with a really cute, petite hardbody Colombian stripper. We went to do a few dances in the lap dance room where she pulled off her panties and revealed a rather fresh looking C-Section scar. I’m no stranger to looking at this scar since all my children were delivered by C-Section, but this one looked particularly fresh, so I asked her how old her child was, and she said “four months” and showed me a picture of an adorable baby girl. I immediately lost interest in the lap dance and literally felt a little sick. I’m not sure what came over me, but suddenly the naked girl in my lap went from being the object of my desire, a little play thing who existed for my enjoyment, to a hardworking young mom who was doing anything she could to provide for her daughter. I don’t know her specific circumstances, or if this was the case, but I lost interest in her sexually and I felt sorry that she had to come back to stripping so soon after having a baby. She definitely noticed my lack of interest but still did her best with the lap dance. I called it after one song and gave her $100 (what I was planning to spend), and I went back into the club. She came over and sat with me a bit, asked if I was OK, and thanked me for the big tip. In 30+ years of strip clubbing this is the first time I’ve been unable to separate the humanity from the stripper and every time I think of this young lady and her daughter, a get a wave of conscience. Hopefully I get over this soon to where I can enjoy strippers again.
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A few observations.
Sounds like you were not expecting extras. There are probably exceptions, I'm not sure how many, but women with healthy self-esteem feel much more demeaned by sex work that involves penetration.
It would be silly for us to feel guilty just because we have reproductive urges. It's only fucked up when guys do shit like fuck chicks who are near passed out drunk, then claim boys can't be expected to resist such temptations.
I think the hardest issue here is power tripping. It sounds like you look for a power trip with strippers as well as sexual satisfaction. Like many, maybe most other customers. That's a natural urge, as all social primates have dominance hierarchies. But humans often have success in channeling that urge in more positive directions. For example, a guy who does woodworking on the weekends. He's admired for the quality pieces of furniture he makes. So he doesn't feel the need to be controlling with his family, or get involved in the backstabbing at work. Or to make a stripper suck up to him for 15 minutes before he'll buy a few lap dances.
Power tripping with a stripper can probably be fine, as long as it's mutually understood as role play. But I've never done this personally, so I wouldn't know how to go about it.
Not even Bill Gates has the resources to let all mothers with young kids stay home with them. Most of them have to work. PLs just need to have an adequate level of human decency. Then sex work can be a good option for them. It doesn't have to feel to them like they are selling their souls.
At least you know she takes creampies
No need to feel bad about her situation, you're helping her when you get dances from her. She's there to make money, preferably, lots of it. The more she makes, and the quicker she makes it, the more time she can spend with her daughter instead of the club.
Treat her with respect and kindness, get a bunch of dances and/or do a VIP session with her, and tip her well. You'll get what you want from her, and she'll get what she wants from you. It will be far worse for her if guys aren't spending money on her because they feel like you do.
$ 💃`🔺 it is common for stripper moms | & all situations with strippers being "a mom", whats funny is when she will bring her child @ the club even when they start walking, if she is breast feeding vs bottle, you will be sharing her boobies with the baby, hahahaha 😂
@stripperlover777. And HIV if she has it and you choose to feed that way...
Naw, it’s a normal reaction tbh. I once met a dancer who had a 6 month old or so. She told me this before we went to dance. Her first few days dancing. Said that dad wasn’t around. We did like 3 dances and I can see she was enjoying. Gave me an lfk after we were done. I felt kinda bad for her, and didn’t push for extras or gotten her contacts. Sometimes this hobby is just messy.
It sounds like strippers should not be so quick to reveal they have children. A stripper with a C section scar should perhaps say she was a surrogate for the $. Another good reason for dancers to have an account on TUSCL. They can DM with their regulars, without customers seeing their personal photos.
@ilbbaicnl so they should lie?
F no.
@sfrsox Haven't you heard, hips don't lie? Focus on what matters.
@Iknowbetter You just got hit with a pang of conscience. No shame in that. You can reason that she’s a SW but sometimes logic gives way to some feelings. And once you see the human side, it’s hard to shake.
I tend to prefer dancers who are a little older for just that reason. Though, it only takes a few months for a baby stripper to figure out if she’s going to stick it out.
What do you think you’ll do if you see her again?
@Hank Moody - Good question. I don’t know. It depends on how I feel when (if) I see her again. I would definitely hang out with her and tip her well, but if I can’t shake caring about her as a human being (yes this sounds so odd) I don’t think I’d be interested in getting dances or VIP.
@Iknowbetter So it's only a problem with this one dancer? Not real clear what's special about her. If reincarnation is real, maybe she was a blood relative in a past lifetime.
@Iknowbetter Wait and see is a good approach. Just follow your brain. Or your dick, whoever’s in control at that moment.
^Never feel bad, nor apologize for being a decent human being.
That's a sure fire way to kill my libido. It takes me out of the fantasy, the suspension of disbelief that this sexy, desirable woman wants me and me alone. Take a call from your boyfriend or baby daddy who watching your kid because he can't find the Nesquick? Well, it was fun while it lasted.
No reason to feel bad. As weird as it sounds, it's probably a good thing. There's probably a huge vulnerability just radiating from her -- with a big boost from her little one -- and your conscience is cranking up, making you feel like you're about to take advantage of her (and, by extension, her kid). Be glad and be proud you feel that way -- one human being watching out for another -- unlike so many mongers and pervs and unsuspecting guests on "To Catch a Predator."
Your games over…heard that from One monger to another years and years ago. You remind me of a 20some thing AMP girl who after 5min of getting me and her comfortable brought up her son in school and wouldn’t stop the one way conversation while she’s working my back. Conversation changed as she started working softer touches to get me to flip and F her. Turned out ok, but too much real world in there. I was torn on tip!
💃' 👄 sometimes, its exaggerated/hyped b.s. | about strippers with a kid, they are just looking for support, they like the club, they want something to talk about while they are with you, & she is horny, its better than the other girls who just wanna be a couch potatoe & not come to the strip club to support us single folks. As long as she can give me what I want with a good body, I have a conscious to have fun! I wonder if anybody has experience with escorts showing up & found she started talking about her kid or if she just got pregnant, some girls will discuss, & sometimes not until they have your money, funny 😂 this opens up the can of worms for married strippers, some strippers won't mention her husband until she has you suckered for good while or until she becomes your ATF ✓ 🤠__~~~ Strip Club Cheers $ $ $
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