So me (M22) and my ex-girlfriend (F23) broke up last month but me and my best friend have 4 tickets to the Antagonist Tour by Carti in December as we were gonna go with both of our girls. Well since we broke up, I have moved to a strip club capital of the US and I have been going to this one place I absolutely love for a while. I have gotten dances from this one beautiful lady about my age a few times and really vibe with her. I was thinking about seeing if she would interested in being my date for the night and go to the concert with me. No sex: purely concert, food/drinks, and a vibe for the night. Anyone got an idea on what something like this may cost (not counting what I spend on her during the night such as food, drinks, tix, etc.) Atlanta cost of living. I’d say all in all 6-7 hours(5p-1a) not counting her get ready time. Also assume she is a fan of the artists performing.
Thanks! (Also I know I could just take any other girl out that is a fan but I wanted to hangout with this girl OTC anyway, even if not for sex)
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last commentI don't have any idea what price it would be for her time (assume you'd replace her income for that shift at least, with a weekend being higher). In terms of your expectations, be REALLY clear and clinical communicating what your expectations of her will be, so she KNOWS what she is walking into....and don't stray from it. Good luck, you're playing with fire......based on what you wrote, you're "catching feelings" for a dancer (which we all do at some point)....
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Could be anywhere from free to $10,000+, depending on how much you two are actually, mutually vibing. But if it's free (or she asks for much less than what she feels her time is really worth), you'll be getting the real her. Which may not be someone you feel any vibe with, and may be someone you feel the urge to flee from. The other two members of the foursome might not be too happy with you. You shouldn't be confident, from paid time with her in the club, that you know what she's really like.
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Do you really want to expose your friend and his girlfriend to this scenario?
I suspect the friend's GF may be a bit judgey. Think long and hard about this.
How much will it cost? Only way to know is I ask her. But, I would simply ask if she would like to join you and your friends. She won't be shy about disclosing expected compensation.
I wouldn't be willing to pay to have her join me, unless she plans to engage in some extra fun afterward. Sell the extra ticket on StubHub, and avoid aggravation:
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what could possibly go wrong?
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A likely situation is the stripper agrees to go with you, and then the day of the concert, she cancels on you at the last minute. Women in general are flaky, and strippers even more so. If you are set on paying her for her company, I'd say $300-350 for six to seven hours would be fair.
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There's a saying - "Don't Shit Where You Eat!" What happens if she agrees, goes, has a drink and then gets a little tipsy. Say's she's a stripper and more. Do you really want to expose this to your friends who may not be into strip clubs? Especially your buddy's GF who may tell her BF I don't want to associate myself with him and have him choose between you and her. Could be bad for your buddy as well.
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The double date aspect of this is what’s insane. You’re trying to do too much too soon. If you want to try to socialize with her OTC, start with that. If you’re just offering her a meal and it won’t take her away from work, she may not charge anything and chalk it up to customer relations. It will give you a good sense of what she’s like when not ITC, in case you want to introduce her to friends. Still seems crazy, especially if she expects to be paid for the socializing and your friend’s date is a civilian. Respectfully, given the recency of the breakup, this sounds like you may be attempting to cobble together a rebound “relationship” of sorts
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Nothing wrong with using strippers as your rebound crutch - I kind of think that’s what they’re here for. But others have made valid points about the potential issues of the double date. If this wasn’t a double date and If she’s a fan of this artist (sorry I’ve never heard of), then I’d say go ahead and ask her if she wanted to go - as a civilian date, and you’d just pick up the all the costs, but not pay her for her company. But honestly if I was paying for OTC, I wouldn’t be wasting time at a concert. I’d sell the extra ticket on stub hub or find a legit civilian girl to go with you (like one of your ex’s friends) and have a great time.
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I take them on dates often. Only after I have established some trust that they will show up. Find a dancer that wants to go to this show. It will be more fun. the ticket can be a tip for the fun you had with her in the club
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^ That's right DOUGSTER, live in the moment just like you have by trolling tuscl for 20 years as davids txtittyfag phatboi phatboy mypoorlifechoices iceyloco icee icie icey or what ever multiple troll names you've used over the years lulz
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"Pour lye onto your hand, watch the skin bubble and burn, wash it away with vinegar. Look at it next time you ask this question and remember it was still a better idea then dating a stripper"
-- Bullwinkle (October 9, 2014)
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Objectively it's not clear that strippers are worse to date on average than humans in general. The real problem is that, because of how stripping works, you can think you're in a dating situation when you're not. A date that costs 3-4 figures and/or includes friends should not be a first date. First dates should be lunch, or getting a drink or coffee. And they don't happen in strip clubs.
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