I had an experience yesterday at a club and it was very “intimate”. She was so gorgeous I’d drink her spit lol. But anyway I was kissing her ass and then I licked her anus. She got mad and threatened to walk out. Luckily I apologized and said I didn’t know. Why do some women hate it when men want to adore or drown in their essence ?
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last commentWhy do men get upset when someone tries to enjoy his body by shoving something up his ass without consent?
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Was it a strip club?
Did she give you other extras or kiss you or DATY?
That sounds like she has boyfriend boundaries. I wouldnt want my ass licked, if a chica did that i would tell her i dont want it, but i wouldn’t get mad or threaten to walk out.
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It's sexual assault, no different than trying to slip a finger in.
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It’s a woman thing. If they’re comfortable enough with you they’ll let you do anything. With the right guy she’ll allow it. You just weren’t the right guy for her, but you’ll probably be the right guy for another woman.
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^ i dont think its just about comfortability. Some strippers dont provide extras. A standard lapdance you can touch the ass and tits, most will let you kiss them too, but if you try touching any holes including their mouth, thats when boundaries come into play.. some chicks dont even allow nipple touching either.
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I mean hopefully you didnt pay for an expensive VIP or something without vetting the girl
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Seems very reasonable that a stripper might not want her asshole licked.
There's a bunch of potential reasons. No judgement, but it's not my thing and so I've never researched it. But I'm gonna presume odds of STI transmission are significantly higher licking the hole vs the cheeks. She may not want to take that risk, or maybe she's got something and doesn't want to increase your exposure risk. Maybe she was worried you'd try to lick her pussy or kiss her mouth later and doesn't want to cross contaminate. There's also personal boundaries, everyone's got their line in the sand for what makes them uncomfortable.
Looking at your past discussions, you might want to consider that the problem isn't them but rather it's you.
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“…then I lick her anus.” Hilarious.
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Theres all kinds of posts on stripperweb, r/stripper where dancers talk about not doing xyz.
There might be some who dont do things with clients out of hygiene concerns or “comfortability”, but the number 1 reason dancers wont provide certain extras is being in a relationship. Of course some are in open relationships or have boyfriend pimps, but of the ones who dont offer extras, i would bet the biggest reason is a relationship.
As far as licking the anus, it has almost zero disease risk for the girl, unless she had broken skin in her asshole and in that case even the act of taking a crap would be a potential bacterial risk. Even if you have stds in your mouth, its not going to do much to an asshole.
Its possible she was worried about cross contamination but the most likely reason is just that shes a non extras dancer with relationship restrictions
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While acknowledging this is likely a troll post, a woman's butthole is generally "ask first", civvy or otherwise.
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@puddy come on man really ? You had to take it there. I’m just having fun nobody is assaulting anyone
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@Dolfan I don’t really understand what you’re getting at. It was the heat of desire. I didn’t mean any harm to the girl. I wanted to adore her and make love. How does that make me a problem and I paid her asking price I made sure she was happy.
Only thing I didn’t like is she kept trying to gently ride me when I was trying to long dick her. Saying things like “ oh you dick is too big” I’m like oh whatever
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@chunky no i only paid $250 which wasn’t so bad. Plus she was gorgeous. I wanted her to have my babies lol
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Mr Monger did you discuss anything beforehand? Did she say she would fuck for the $250 or was that for a 30 minute vip or for what
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@Dolfan for some reason is insistent that theres no such thing as dancers who avoid extras due to being in relationships, just because of his limited personal experience of dealing with some chica who happened to do otc with him despite having a boyfriend. Its unsound logic. I think its about ego. Some guys dont want to admit a no is a no and will then look for excuses like the chica was worried about disease risk or “just wasnt comfortable enough”.
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Why would the OP assume anything other than she thought it gross and didn't like it? Different perspective, but I wonder how you'd react if some guy licked your asshole.
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Thats sexual assault. In what other scenario do you try to lick a strangers ass without consent?
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@icey what are you talking about bro ? It’s a sexual setting. Yeah if it was a random women on the street then duh. But dude come on. That’s like your in a boxing match and you hit the guy and you say assault, like what ?
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@skibum not that same dude I’m not attracted to men
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Monger was she trying to avoid cumming? You said she was riding the D very carefully…
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@OP What I'm getting at is a couple of things.
In my opinion, a reasonable person should understand that a stripper may not be comfortable having a customer lick her asshole during an ITC encounter. You don't seem to understand that, or you disagree. As someone else mentioned, that particular area is still one quite a large segment of the population is uncomfortable around.
Further, again in my opinion, a reasonable person wouldn't jump from "she didn't want her asshole licked" to "she got mad because I tried to enjoy her body." And then further extend that to all women. That's a giant fucking leap. Presumably she was fine with the rest of the things you did to enjoy her body.
Moreover, combined with your previous threads, you seem to do this shit often. Your post about your attempt meet a stripper & arrange to fuck her OTC within seconds, then jumping to the conclusion that she's somehow stringing you along and cheating you is another example. You seem to have zero empathy, that's a problem when interacting with others.
And I'm reluctant to even address the dumbass who changes their name more often than their underwear, but I didn't exclude the girls relationship status from the potential reasons. It certainly could have been a factor, I accounted for that in what I called personal boundaries and didn't feel the need to specify the genesis of any boundary the girl may have. The list was also not exclusive, it's not hard to imagine quite a few other reasons I didn't mention. As far as the STI risk, if you want to believe you can't contract herpes, hepatitis, hpv, or any other number of infections by allowing someone to lick your ass, you go right on ahead believing that.
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@Dolfan aww thats a good one, you addressed my underwear habits! Lets consider the fact your so obsessed with your anonymous internet reputation you refuse to engage on political threads because you dont want to be owned for your horrid political views. Instead you spend your days writing and whining about how people interact with strippers and sex workers.
Its cool if youve come around to considering the girls relationship status as a possible factor for the boundaries, but as of 6 months or so ago, you were extremely reluctant to even consider that as a factor.
As far as the risk of the person receiving an STD from having their ass licked, yes, its extremely low, even the risk of a chick receiving something from DATY is extremely low. The asshole is already coming in contact with filth far beyond saliva… its a big risk for the person licking it, contrarily a very small risk for the person receiving it.
But dude lets face it youve got issues. You get riled up over the most random shit, to the point it defies logic. In one particular thread, there was a discussion of different ATM withdrawal limits depending on bank, and i was speculating that maybe they take into account your total bank balance and increase withdrawal limits based on that. Just my mere speculation lead you into an insane frenzy of cursing and moaning. Thats not normal, and i definitely dont think youre a safe person for strippers to see OTC nor qualified to advise anyone on how to have empathy or deal with dancers.
And to reiterate, as of 7+ months ago, you considered it near impossible for a dancer to refuse extras or have boundaries because of a relationship, thats cool if youve changed on it now
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I never once had a chick complain about me licking her asshole, whether paid or civvy. You must not be doing it right.
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"@skibum not that same dude I’m not attracted to men"
Wrong. It's exactly the same. She's not attracted to you. In fact, she's probably repulsed by you.
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