Oneitis
There is a condition, sometimes referred to as "oneitis", that a number of younger males succumb to that involves thinking that some girl is so special that they can only be happy with her. Usually as guys get older they realize there are a number of women they can be happy with.
While this condition often happens in romantic relationships, do you think this also applies to strip club customers? I will see someone here starting a discussion looking for some lost favorite stripper. Rather than spending effort trying to locate a girl here where the chances of finding her are small I would just pick another girl from the strip clubs here in Indianapolis. Many of my favorites have sadly left but I realize this is not a lifetime career for them and am prepared for them leaving at some point.
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last commentI think oneitis is about ego and jealousy and isn't about being happy at all. Its about wanting what you can't have or worse wanting what you think you should have. It ABSOLUTELY happens in clubs and I'm stunned how much of that is out there.
Now the "lost fav stripper" posts are goofy, its 2025 she has a IG that will show you where she is if she wants you to know. if you don't know she doesn't want you to know. I'm like A Pimp Named Slick Back, I know where all my bitches are.
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It depends on the reason behind it. If its a genuine missed connection or even just that grail. Or if its obsession or weird shit.
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"While this condition often happens in romantic relationships, do you think this also applies to strip club customers?"
Sure, but there's a lot of benefits to focusing on specific girls you enjoy. Saves money and saves time for two reasons. At many clubs it keeps girls you're not interested in at bay once they decide you're a certain girl's regular, unless they feel like going to war lol.
I'm the oneitis type. Why spend money on things I don't want? If I pick a dancer as a project I almost always get what I'm looking for unless I change my mind or run out of time. But I don't get stuck on a dancer once it's time to move on.
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It does happen in strip clubs too, but theres an important distinction to be made. Does the guy just prefer going to one dancer within the same club, but still goes to other clubs, sees other dancers, or does he focus on only one dancer period.
The online term oneitis is usually referring to guys that get overly attached to one single girl. It usually is linked to an attachment issue, and also comes along with jealousy as mentioned. Some people think its a psychological problem. Sometimes its related to a lack of options.
Sometimes the club shift is slow, not many dancers are there. Or only one or two that are your type.
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IMO it is one of the things the online dating sites are correct on. If you have oneitis it can scare the girl, or lead her to lose respect for you. Even within a relationship it can lead to a breakup
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I am shocked that even these days some people will get married after only dating one person. (Let alone fuck anybody else.) I am sad to see it when it happens. Damn. Open your horizons. Take advantage of the times you live in. Learn what the options are.
When young women do it, I assume they think their pussy stinks. And they found the one man in the world who can't smell it.
But even experience can't save us from ourselves sometimes. One brother of mine was dating two girls. One looked like Sally Fields, and had a personality to match. The other girl was a total bitch. He asked a third brother which one he should pick. And the third brother says: "What the fuck? The choice couldn't be more obvious. Sally". Of course, he married the bitch, and 20 years of misery ensued.
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I had to Google oneitis. All it means is a guy focusing romantically on one girl.
Sounds like the only ones to view that negatively are incels ans PUA types
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Lol Icey, no, its guys who are willing to kill themselves because things go badly over a girl. That is an example of oneitis
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🔺🔻 ✓ Oneitis is an unrealistic romantic obsession with another person. It's a slang term that describes a sort of psychological condition (hence the “itis”) where a person decides that their romantic interest is “the one,” despite a lack of evidence or any meaningful relationship.
📈 - - - - Basically A Selfy Way/Fantasy, But Girls Can Like It, If Da' Interaction Starts. If People @ Da' Club Can Make Da' Spark For A Flame, That Is The Initiating Value.
Remember, $Strip Clubs Have "Fantasies"/"Fantasy's" For Their SC Name, So A Broad Judgement Here Of What Can Happen, & $Strippers Like Stuff Becoming Real, Not Just SC Fantasy.
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