Troubling Tipping Trend
Let me start by saying that I’m very familiar with the tip walk you typically find in Philly clubs whose bar counter surrounds the main stage. I typically go to Cheerleaders in the late afternoon when the side stage is not in use. I have no problem with tipping every dancer who gets up on the main stage after their set. Even dancers who are very heavy or well past the point where they should have hung up their heels will get a dollar from me.
However a few trips to Cheerleaders over the last year or so have featured negative interactions with dancers circulating around the room and asking for tips even though they haven’t been on stage or already did their tip walk for their set. To be clear these interactions were with dancers who randomly walked up to me, asked my name, and then immediately offered dances. After declining their dance offers all have requested tips for less than a minute’s conversation and no physical contact. That’s standard hustle but after I’ve declined to tip several have made insulting remarks that are very unprofessional.
So I thought I’d ask my fellow Cheerleaders PLs for their opinion on who’s in the wrong here. Am I being a cheap asshole who should just give them a single and move on with my day? Or should these dancers accept me declining their tip requests with more professionalism? I’m more then happy to tip a dancer who sits with me for at least a few minutes and makes an honest attempt at conversation before making their lap dance sales pitch.
However a few trips to Cheerleaders over the last year or so have featured negative interactions with dancers circulating around the room and asking for tips even though they haven’t been on stage or already did their tip walk for their set. To be clear these interactions were with dancers who randomly walked up to me, asked my name, and then immediately offered dances. After declining their dance offers all have requested tips for less than a minute’s conversation and no physical contact. That’s standard hustle but after I’ve declined to tip several have made insulting remarks that are very unprofessional.
So I thought I’d ask my fellow Cheerleaders PLs for their opinion on who’s in the wrong here. Am I being a cheap asshole who should just give them a single and move on with my day? Or should these dancers accept me declining their tip requests with more professionalism? I’m more then happy to tip a dancer who sits with me for at least a few minutes and makes an honest attempt at conversation before making their lap dance sales pitch.
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At some point, an interaction can go on long enough that a tip is in line to compensate a dancer for her time (and, to get her to move on) but there has to be way more two way discussion than a declined offer for a dance
However, you are a bit nieve to expect professionalism from every dancer you turn down and don't tip. While the good dancers will be polite and just move on while hoping to leave you with a positive impression, others will not. There are a lot of desperate dancers who take every decline of a dance or tip as a personal rejection and feel the need to take it out on the guy. Oftentimes these dancers are the ones that should no longer be dancing, either due to their body or their mental burnout, but can't get a decent paying civvie job because of their lack of personal skills.
I'll tip, but she has to do more than offer to sell me a dance.