Real Girls Vs Strippers

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Dustyhawkins
I know I know I been posting a lot lately, literally this is my 3rd post in a row, I don't mean to be going overboard and talking too much here but I just like it the community and support how we're all into strippers and help each other out my post is gonna be pretty long but bare with me if you can read through it all

So today what I wanted to discuss is probably my biggest topic which should be a hit, which is real girls that you go out and pick up genuinely no money involved versuses strippers that you resort to and pay for their service. So about that I just wanted to talk like how it's so different, and I was also wondering if anyone here in the strip club community still approaches regular girls.

Cause for me lately I've just been at the strip clubs alot, it's been a while for me since I actually made an effort to go out and approach girls, the thing is in today's world and society it's just so fucked you know, like how everyone in this world is so weird and uptight and can get you in trouble or how people are always trying to cause a scene, like especially approaching girls or starting to talk to them today out in public or anywhere you are and run into a hot girl you wanna talk to, it's way too hard in today's world none ever talk anymore, they just ignore completely or they will talk very little but are so defensive and make you feel weird or bad for trying to talk to her.

I used to approach girls alot alot when I was younger like college ages 19, 21, 22 etc. But not anymore. That time the world was a little more calm things weren't as strict you can get away with more people would actually talk and not be so crazy or sensitive over literally nothing. That time I used to go ham like hardcore, college campus was the best place to approach girls cause there was hundreds of students and of the age range young adults late teens/early 20s as long as they're 18+ obviously then you're good. But yeah back then I used to approach a lot of girls all the time every other day all week, like 20-40 girls a day, many approaches it was fun back then they would give the time of day talk more take things slow, let you make your point hear you out

But now it's like way way different, like it's seen as very unacceptable in society like everyone looks at you like your commiting a crime for literally saying hi and being friendly and non threatening to a girl like wtf lol. That's the reason I've been at strip clubs more cause at least they're cool I know your paying for it but strip club your allowed to do that. Its a service, and it's a lot more acceptable there, it's that kind of environment since the girls are naked and it's a sexual environment. At strip clubs anything goes almost you can talk to girls laugh, fuck around, say whatever, make sex jokes they don't care. Like I also go to the strip club just to enjoy the company and social aspect and semi party scene as well like talk to girls, like I always make sexual jokes and innuendos with them like I'm so horny I busted my pants, or when she asks what can I get you to drink, I'll be like a bottle of titty milk hahaha, and she'll just laugh the bartender I obviously laugh back too and let them know that I'm being playful and just using adult humor, obviously not being super creepy and like actually meaning it

Like you know what I mean I mean some strippers may still get slightly offended but most love the jokes and sex jokes and fun and all that, like you can say lovely titties or u make me hard etc like strip club u can get away with most stuff cause like I said it's that type of place they get you, and know your just fking with them not serious. Just for the laughs I know I keep repeating myself but just wanted to make sure I'm clear so you know before criticizing me.

But yeah you can do all that in the strip clubs but regular girls fuuuuuuddggeeeeee noooooooo hahahhahaha if you say any of that your done deal, your like fked at that point hahahaha. Obviously regular girls I never ever approach like that, usually I'm cool friendly light hearted, just make conversation maturely compliment on t shirt necklace etc. Just try to make female friends also someone to kick it with it's not always about sex.

So yeah basically I was just getting everyone's take on this subject of how it's so different cause strippers require money and your set you can get any dance, vip whatever she'll love you and be cool and let you do whatever, but outside girl she doesn't care about the money, you have to actually genuinely pick her up through game, seduction all that, I mean maybe you need a little money still but it doesn't matter as much. Maybe just like 20-$35 bucks get some ice cream or small food together hahaha.

Also to add to this subject I heard before and learned that you can also pick up strippers without money too there's even like books specifically for the stripper version how to not fall into the customer trap and be seen as the different high value man. I still don't mind paying for the stripper and her service but it would be pretty fking cool to have that skill to get her actually hahaha, you'd have to be like advanced expert level for that. I think it's basically just like regular game your normal pickup except in a strip club

Cause I even see it happen all the time she will go with a guy sit on his lap for an hour without even him purchasing anything and they'll exchange numbers then part ways. Like she'll ignore one customer then go to another guy and spend all this time and actually dance on him in the open and sit on his lap in front of everyone like she's actually into him and not just his money, so it can happen.

I'm sure theres ways and it's possible you gotta know how to stand out and own up don't fall into the traps or be so easy. But like I said that's not that big of a deal to me anyway, I'm totally fine still paying for it I don't care. My main subject was from earlier about how strippers and girls you pick up outside is so different and how it seems like so risky or trouble to do it, anyone experience or in the same boat as me? Let me know thanks again guys for listening and reading my stuff, I appreciate you all, much love and best luck in the strip club world

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Call.Me.Ishmael
a year ago
You need an editor.

I go to civilian women for relationships and real connections. I go to dancers for convenience and superficial fun.

Also, I'm self aware enough to know that if I approach a smokeshow hot civilian woman in her 20s for anything except perhaps directions, it's probably not going to work out as planned (unless I wake up some morning with George Clooney's looks and bank account).
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ilbbaicnl
a year ago
One way to get strippers is to write a book about how to get strippers that a lot of guys buy. They won't get strippers, but you will, because you'll have all their money.

When it comes to sex, women have to be careful. If they say or do the "wrong" thing, they'll likely be judged harshly, with harsh consequences. So it's a guessing game what they really want in their heart of hearts. My best guess is that, on average, they are less thirsty than men. When they're attractive and also thirsty enough for NSA sex, they're in a position to be picky. Some pick gym rats, some pick psychopaths, some pick the artsy types. But it's hard to make the cut generally, just as a nice, decent looking guy.

Strippers are not all the same. What sets them apart is, on average, they are less chickenshit than people in general. Other than that, I've not noticed and clear average difference between strippers and non-strippers.
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Jascoi
a year ago
at my older age it's much easier to approach strippers than the 18 year civie girls that I like...
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Dustyhawkins
a year ago
Its much easier to approach strippers for anyone, cause they will talk and be receptive and be cool with anything. Approaching non strippers outside the club you'll get charged for harassment for saying hi.
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Dustyhawkins
a year ago
Obviously not that bad, but you get my point. Its just way harder since your a stranger to them or just another horny bastard in their eyes, the girl gets approached alot and assumes it's gonna be bad or messed up experience

Strippers are cool cause it's their job they know your gonna pay them or they'll get you somehow through time to pay them
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Hank Moody
a year ago
NFW I’m reading all that.

Based on the title of your post, I’ll respond you can have a premeditated game plan about how to compartmentalize your life into the two groups. Many guys struggle with that as the girls they get in real life don’t look like the strippers they pay and the strippers come with more baggage or don’t commit like the civvies.

Or, you can live your life as it comes, enjoying strippers but keeping your options open for civvies. You’ll likely have the same risks as above but you’ll have a different approach.

If you fuck it up, divorce is always an option.
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skibum609
a year ago
People assume, incorrectly more than half the time, that getting a divorce will make their lives better.
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ilbbaicnl
a year ago
It's like people who sell door to door, or by cold calling. Use to be considered a normal sales method, but now consider to be annoying. Whether it's your dick or Amway products, people want you to wait for them to give you some signal that they're looking to buy, before they're ready to hear your sales pitch.
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twentyfive
a year ago
TL;DR
I’ve been operating under the assumption strippers are real girls, at least the strippers I’m playing with are.
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Dustyhawkins
a year ago
Yes of course strippers are still real girls they're humans I didn't mean to make it sound like that they're way different or a different species. I just mean regular girls as in girls you pick up in public without money involved, genuine pickup actually working for it and earning the pussy hahahaha rather than just taking the easy solution and going to strip club
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rattdog
a year ago
ski,

makes sense. men lose a lot of their assets due to the way the laws are structured. staying hitched would be the safest play.

but my question is this: do women regret it eventually as they suddenly over time realize that they guy they left was most ideal to be with overall? generally speaking they're usually left with options that are usually worse off.
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twentyfive
a year ago
@OP
I’m guessing by your response to my post, you’re not well versed in sarcasm
LOL
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misterorange
a year ago
I'm not sure yet if OP is a straight-up troll or just disconnected from reality. A bit reminiscent of a certain library dweller, only less interesting.
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blahblahblah23
a year ago
I didn't read all that but I got a problem with the title. Strippers are rea girls except for the 1 in a million trans.
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Dustyhawkins
a year ago
Loool hahaha. Yeah I know u were a stripper urself right?
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Call.Me.Ishmael
a year ago
You definitely need an editor...
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Dustyhawkins
a year ago
Lol why, you get my point what I'm trying to get across. I know it's not perfect and super spaced out paragraphs. But the main jist of the story u understand
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Jascoi
a year ago
I don't regret getting a divorce (aside from the court ordered spousal support that I have to pay every month.)
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Jascoi
a year ago
I do miss her cooking but I don't miss bitchiness and 200 lb.
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Brahma2k
a year ago
Strippers are very real when ITC. Sure, it’s all an act but in reality much of life contains some level of acting. As a famous comedian said, when you meet a girl for the first time, you’re not meeting her you’re meeting her representative. You’ll meet the real her down the line.
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skibum609
a year ago
RATT - the only reason men lose their assets more in a divorce (and that is changing every day) is that they have more in their name, or at least they did back in the day. Women are now losing assets and paying alimony more and more every passing day. A woman came to see me on an initial consult. Women get much, much angrier when they have to pay. No not their time of the month, just not a 5,000 year history of their gender paying support.
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Specialj
a year ago
If you want commitment get into a monogamous relationship with someone you love, trust and are compatible with.....if you're looking for anything else go to the strip club. But the whole appeal of the club for me personally is no commitment
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jaybud999
a year ago
I have to "keep em' separated". Real life and strip club life are two different worlds for me. The club girls are like going to an amusement park for those quick thrills and jollies. Real girls require time/energy, which I enjoy giving.

To your point of sensitivities in/out of the club. The club is a place of business entertainment, with the entertainment being women who figure out what you want and cater to that fantasy/need. Then we pay them. With that transaction comes objectification, which makes it "ok" to make direct observations/compliments on the womens physical attributes. Objectification outside of the club is frowned upon, even though we ALL know we're doing it every time we see a "fine girl."
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Salty.Nutz
a year ago
Both strippers and regular girls are a waste of time. you will get "luckier" a lot faster with strippers because in reality no girl more then 7 yrs your junior would be genuinely into you. That fanstasy of dating a girl younger becomes a reality in a strip club. you would not visit a strip club if you were doing good with women outside a strip club.
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Dustyhawkins
a year ago
Yeah it's all for fun man, enjoy what you can. Like I said strippers anything goes, you can talk, touch dance say whatever, fuck around joke, they don't care. As long as you give them money. Thank you guys very much I liked your comments once again always enjoy reading.

Yeah strip club u make it whatever fantasy u want, most are down for anything hahahah
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JamesSD
a year ago
The strip club is a fantasy world where all the women are barely dressed, most are attractive, and if she has great tits or a sweet ass you can say so and she will giggle.

That said, he interest in you is only in your money. It's different than a genuine connection.
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MrTibbs
a year ago
i don't mind paying a young lady to pretend she likes me, a 50 year old fat bald guy, because they do a great job of it !! i'm living the dream lol
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skibum609
a year ago
I have a job. When I get time off I ski, golf and gamble. I am married. When I get time off I strip club. Real life vs. Time off life.
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Dustyhawkins
a year ago
Yeah it's cool man, some pretend to like you I get that for the dance and money. But some are actually genuinely interested in you maybe not romantically or sexually. But I mean once your a regular they care about you like they're your friend and everything some actually genuinely care to talk and see what's up in your life and you guys enjoy each others convo, that's not fake or pretended.

You can tell when it's fake like heyyyyy babyyyy I love thoooseeee glasses, ur cuteeee, omg ur my favoriteeeeeeee obviously there's a difference u can tell hahahahah
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JamesSD
a year ago
It's definitely interesting when you genuinely vibe with a dancer. I have one who remembers talking to me on her first shift and although she's not physically exactly what I look for and I kind of get a low mileage vibe from her, she always makes a point to come.chat with me for 5-10 minutes when she's not busy. It's definitely interesting having casual friendships at the SC.
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Dustyhawkins
a year ago
Yeah I appreciate them for always coming and making an effort to talk and follow up with me. When girls are nice and cool like that and come to me every time I go to the club and they're just nice and talk I usually tip them.
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RiskA
a year ago
Haha if you think strippers are actually your friends and care about you, try going Dutch on OTC dates or otherwise not spending on them (or supplying their drugs or whatever). You’ll get deleted from their contacts in short order.
They’re paid to be your “friend”; it’s a job and a transaction, nothing more. Accept that for happiness.
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SquareCastle
a year ago
@riskA and that’s the way it should be. Anybody who actually wants a stripper to overlap into their personal life is a complete knucklehead anyways.
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gammanu95
a year ago
Stripper girlfriends

https://youtu.be/WXBHCQYxwr0
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ilbbaicnl
a year ago
Almost all the time, your fav stripper becoming a "real girl" to you involves her leveling with you that she has an SO she's committed to. And you being encouraging and supportive of things working out with her SO, as much as you honestly can. Typically she earns more than her SO. But you're not quick to judge that, because it's not wrong. It's just not traditional. If she's much younger than you, your traditions are even more likely to be irrelevant to her.
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Dustyhawkins
a year ago
Yeaahhhh thanks everyone, guess you gotta just enjoy the time with her in the moment whenever your at the club.
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CJKent_band
a year ago
@Dustyhawkins

I will play along and comment on your discussion.

Remember All activities, sexual or not, in our capitalist society have a cost in money, time and effort.

With respect to relationship with women in general you can call them civilians and or strippers if you want ; I would refer you to Demosthenes (384 – 12 October 322 BC)
Greek statesman and orator of ancient Athens.

1. We have courtesans for the sake of pleasure.
2. Concubines for the daily health of our bodies, and
3. Wives to bear us lawful offspring and be the faithful guardians of our homes

In this list is the Greek view of woman in the classic age.

And in all ages and times.

All men want that, but only some can afford it...

In today’s world Demosthenes would say:

1. We have high end escorts, centerfolds, actresses, models, Strippers (ITC OTC) etc that provide PSE/GFE for the sake of pleasure.
2. Mistresses/Sugar Babies/; etc, for the daily health of our bodies.
3. Trophy Girlfriends/Wives to bear us lawful offspring, and be the faithful guardians of our homes.
4. Realistic Sex Dolls/Gynoids/Fembots, and Internet Porn and Instagram/Onlyfans “Models”, for kicks-and-giggles”

Remember

“In this country, you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the women.”

~ Cuban refugee Tony Montana (Al Pacino) in the movie Scarface.

If you have the money and can afford it, buy it and enjoy it, if you don’t have the money or you can’t afford it economically, mentally, morally, emotionally, physically, intellectually etc etc etc then don’t buy things you can’t afford…
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docsavage
a year ago
The girl you know in the strip club is not the real them. I knew one dancer for seven years from her second day on the job until the end of her career. When I first met her, she was quiet, subdued and kind of cold and unfriendly. Over the years she became more talkative, sexy, friendly and affectionate. I met her for lunch one day after she had retired from stripping, and she had reverted back to her original personality. Her strip club personality was just something that developed because she would make more money by becoming a male customer fantasy. I've never tried to see any of my other former regulars after that because that girl I liked in the strip club doesn't really exist anymore.
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Dustyhawkins
a year ago
Man thank you guys a lot I love this discussion I guess overall everyone is agreeing that the strippers are all fake so you gotta just enjoy it in the moment and appreciate what you can get, don't make it into something it's not like force to meet OTC or get acquaintanted, only if it really comes or if it's meant that way.

But yeah gotta just enjoy the journey there will always be nice and rude mean ones. Just spend your money or time on the good sweethearts, and I'm sure everytime you visit the club the same bitch girl will come up and say want a dance, or talk a bit and try to get you to spend but you will keep saying no, and then she'll learn over time why you are saying no to her services and it's because she was that brat with the messed up attitude. Cause if you say yes and still give her a chance she's not gonna learn she's gonna keep being a brat and screw everyone else over

If you say no and don't give her the satisfaction she will learn her fucking lesson not to be that way and change so she can make money haha haha man it's all good!!! :)
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Dustyhawkins
a year ago
You don't really need to start an altercation or explain why you're not getting a dance or why you don't purchase from her, she will figure out herself over time and correct herself to treat people better and not be fked up for no reason. U can just say something simple like I don't know man u just yelled at me or was aggressive for nothing, u just demanded a tip to a complete stranger, u didn't say thank you etc u can tell her ur reasons, or you can just stay quiet, she'll figure out eventually
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Mate27
a year ago
Yeah, like, yeah. You know like if a guy like wants to have like too much attention he’s like all yeah and like, and then like yeah he will go on and on what he likes and yeah that’s a big red flag for women. Like yeah, men need to be chill yet like they all go ape shit for attention, whether it’s like with a real girl or like a stripper. So yeah, maybe chill the fuck out and not be so needy for attention.
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Dustyhawkins
a year ago
Wasn't about needy or not. Was distinguishing the difference on rude bitch strippers vs nice sweet ones. And who to devote your attention or who deserves it more. I'm not needy I know there's hundreds of strippers hundreds of clubs different days many will keep coming. I was just saying to not spend on the ones that mistreat you or aren't appreciative of anything. Just tell them what they did wrong or avoid them and they'll learn not to act all that or like they can treat you like dust
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Mate27
a year ago
Like, yeah!
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Jdo11
a year ago
They're just there to provide a service man. Akin to a drivetrhu fast food. Just define what you want and seek it out without paying buku bucks over the standard rates.
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RiskA
a year ago
Haha OP goes around in circles more than a NASCAR race. Yeah like I know they’re whores, but like treat them like princesses man and like nothing bad happens, right? LOL. The reason there’s sharks is there’s so much chum, for sure.
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Dustyhawkins
a year ago
RiskA my man why u talking down on me hahahahaha we were friends and cool in message. I notice people comment alot but never get back to messages.
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RiskA
a year ago
I blame too much oversharing.
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