One of my favs was lukewarm interested in a guy who came into the club, except he was being too needed. She kicked him to the curb, because he ended a text with "love you". Said it was creepy. I said overreaction, love you is not the same as I love you. It can be love as in I love pizza. Who's right?
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last commentI say “love ya” specifically to avoid the inference of “I love you”. One is more friendship, the other, well…
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Red Flag Creep Alert! She was right to dump him.
@PhredJohnson, I doubt that you would say "love ya" to one of your guy friends?
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I think Apollonia actually wants to drink your blood, the relationship counseling stuff is just ruse.
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She's probably more familiar with the relationship than you are. So, I'd take her word for it.
Also, I imagine that most dancers, escorts, etc., see red flags when the word 'love' starts popping up in communications that aren't solely centered around bacon or blow jobs (or both... it's none of my business...).
Context is king here.
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Some pope take “I love you” as a serious commitment statement others treat it like nothing like saying “have a good evening.”
I “dated” a stripper once who started saying that to me after knowing me for 3 weeks. I think that was the first time in my life I was flattered and creeped out at the same time.
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It all depends on the context.
Love ya can be said between males. Love y brother. I think it's awkward but I've seen it. But it doesn't convey romantic feelings at all.
Love you is friend zoned. Or can be being led on.
I love you can be platonic if she just writes ily. It depends on the context and how it's said. It can just be an exclamation. You give her a huge tip and she'll be like I love you! It's not romantic. The context makes it romantic. But it's just thrown around so much.
I think I appreciate you is more boundary setting. It's more proper to use with customers.
With Latinas. Telling them you love them in Spanish carries a lot more emotional weight than the English phrase. So they may throw love around more like an exclamation of agreement with someone or something.
It's not just with dancers. I'd never interpret I love you as romantic unless the proper context were there.
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I've had lots of regulars but have never told any of them I love them just because they might mis-interpret it as me thinking of them in potential girlfriend terms. I have had a stripper regular say she loved me. I visited her one time when she was in a really bad mood and was extremely unfriendly towards me. The next time I went to see her she was extremely friendly and said she loved me when I left. I think she was surprised I came back after the way she had treated me the previous time and was happy that I did. I've had lots of long-term regulars and when you do that there will inevitably come a day when she is in a really bad mood and mistreats you. You have to decide if you are going to overlook it and keep seeing her.
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That was cringey at the very least, even without knowing any of the specifics. Since she obviously knows him better than we do, I'm guessing she had ample reasons to put it squarely in the creepy category and pull the plug. These things don't happen in a vacuum.
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The only girls I say/text 'luv u' to know me well enough to know I'm just being playful and affectionate.
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I will play along and comment on your discussion
Google says:
‘I love you' and 'Love you' essentially means the same thing.
However 'I love you' is usually reserved for your significant other and your parents, while 'Love you' is commonly used towards friends and siblings and pets.
She has the right to refuse service to a customer, as long as he or she does not infringe upon federal or state discrimination laws.
If the regular becomes other than customer she still has the right to reject his romantic advances.
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I've had many dancers tell me "love you" in passing. Obviously, they didn't mean that they were actually in love with me (well, one did, but that's another story). Mostly, it probably meant something along the lines of "love you for not raping me and for being nice about handing over your cash just to fondle my tits."
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Oh yeah, forgot to mench, he was kinda broke-ass (at least by her standards), also a major factor.
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Give him a break it was his first text message to her!
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Cj kent i am not sure OP is talking about her refusing service to a customer in the club for saying i love you. There are plenty of creepy or other guys that dancers will deal with ITC . It sounds like this dancer was interested in this guy for dating
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It was like his hundredth text in two days (needy).
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===> "I've had lots of long-term regulars and when you do that there will inevitably come a day when she is in a really bad mood and mistreats you. You have to decide if you are going to overlook it and keep seeing her."
Well, since this thread is fizzling anyway, I'll now indulge the urge to respond to this comment from docsavage.
My tolerance for misbehavior is a bit lower than yours. It's not because I get remotely angry. In fact my normal default setting is amusement - I'm not emotionally invested enough to take anything I hear in a club very seriously. But once you let her bite your hand without consequences, it will inevitably happen again sooner or later. For me the strip club version of a rolled up newspaper to the snout is to send her away when it happens and spend on someone else for a time.
Now having a bad day is different. If she's less fun than normal because something's wrong I'm perfectly OK with that as long as it doesn't become a pattern. But even then there are limits to what I'll tolerate.
With all that said, I'm not trying to be critical - we all choose the approach that works best for us. What I posted above is just what works best for me.
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