Love you = I love you?
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Keep it in my pants when I do OTC. If I were a stripper it would stand for I like big bucks and I can not lie.
One of my favs was lukewarm interested in a guy who came into the club, except he was being too needed. She kicked him to the curb, because he ended a text with "love you". Said it was creepy. I said overreaction, love you is not the same as I love you. It can be love as in I love pizza. Who's right?
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@PhredJohnson, I doubt that you would say "love ya" to one of your guy friends?
Also, I imagine that most dancers, escorts, etc., see red flags when the word 'love' starts popping up in communications that aren't solely centered around bacon or blow jobs (or both... it's none of my business...).
Context is king here.
I “dated” a stripper once who started saying that to me after knowing me for 3 weeks. I think that was the first time in my life I was flattered and creeped out at the same time.
Love ya can be said between males. Love y brother. I think it's awkward but I've seen it. But it doesn't convey romantic feelings at all.
Love you is friend zoned. Or can be being led on.
I love you can be platonic if she just writes ily. It depends on the context and how it's said. It can just be an exclamation. You give her a huge tip and she'll be like I love you! It's not romantic. The context makes it romantic. But it's just thrown around so much.
I think I appreciate you is more boundary setting. It's more proper to use with customers.
With Latinas. Telling them you love them in Spanish carries a lot more emotional weight than the English phrase. So they may throw love around more like an exclamation of agreement with someone or something.
It's not just with dancers. I'd never interpret I love you as romantic unless the proper context were there.
I will play along and comment on your discussion
Google says:
‘I love you' and 'Love you' essentially means the same thing.
However 'I love you' is usually reserved for your significant other and your parents, while 'Love you' is commonly used towards friends and siblings and pets.
She has the right to refuse service to a customer, as long as he or she does not infringe upon federal or state discrimination laws.
If the regular becomes other than customer she still has the right to reject his romantic advances.
Well, since this thread is fizzling anyway, I'll now indulge the urge to respond to this comment from docsavage.
My tolerance for misbehavior is a bit lower than yours. It's not because I get remotely angry. In fact my normal default setting is amusement - I'm not emotionally invested enough to take anything I hear in a club very seriously. But once you let her bite your hand without consequences, it will inevitably happen again sooner or later. For me the strip club version of a rolled up newspaper to the snout is to send her away when it happens and spend on someone else for a time.
Now having a bad day is different. If she's less fun than normal because something's wrong I'm perfectly OK with that as long as it doesn't become a pattern. But even then there are limits to what I'll tolerate.
With all that said, I'm not trying to be critical - we all choose the approach that works best for us. What I posted above is just what works best for me.