Wives in the club
I recently started going to clubs with my husband (we are expanding our horizons). I find that the girls don't seem to know what to do! The first place we went to was a little nothing bikini place with hardly anybody there on a Saturday night. The girls knew exactly how to treat me. They introduced themselves to me first, then my husband.
On another night however, we went to Thee Dollhouse, supposedly an upscale place with couples night (not the night we were there), and we had a heck of a time getting any girls to come close to us - we couldn't even order drinks and had to get them from the bar. It completely stunned me that when we decided to try the tip rail, the girl would not come anywhere near us. I actually got one to come over after I complained to her in the ladies room about the lack of attention. Strange. I'd think the girls would just be interested in making money. Not afraid of me (I am good-looking, but over 40 - how can I be intimidating to them?). We have now gotten the same reaction in other clubs. I'm not sure what we have to do to get the cute ones to come by...
On another night however, we went to Thee Dollhouse, supposedly an upscale place with couples night (not the night we were there), and we had a heck of a time getting any girls to come close to us - we couldn't even order drinks and had to get them from the bar. It completely stunned me that when we decided to try the tip rail, the girl would not come anywhere near us. I actually got one to come over after I complained to her in the ladies room about the lack of attention. Strange. I'd think the girls would just be interested in making money. Not afraid of me (I am good-looking, but over 40 - how can I be intimidating to them?). We have now gotten the same reaction in other clubs. I'm not sure what we have to do to get the cute ones to come by...
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Sometimes the younger dancers are intimdated unless you are about their age. Sometimes they just don't like old i.e. over 35. :) Being friendly should quickly tell which were just unsure of themselves and which have other preferences. The clubs I go to seem to prefer women customers not that the men are mistreated. It just seems the dancer are more natural and more outgoing.
I suggest to keep on trying different clubs. I have seen couples like yours getting the deserved attention here, in Detroit.
I suspect lopaw has it right. The girls just don't know how to treat me. Hell, I don't really know how to treat them either. That's why I'm here. I'm hoping you nice people will help me out. I'm not sure how to act and I'm not into girls. My SO wants me to touch and, well, it hasn't happened yet. This isn't the easiest thing I've ever done!
BTW, I'm in Tampa (hope none of my friends read this!) and this is supposed to be a major place for SCs. Detroit is a bit of a drive, Prof...
Your husband is VERY lucky that you are trying to do this for him!
Yes, Tampa is one of the hot spots for clubbing. I'm a bit surprised that you are receiving this treatment (actually, lack of treatment). There's no way that MY wife would ever accompany me to a SC - nor would I ever ask her. However, a buddy of mine (and his wife) went to a club in Tampa last spring and they had a VERY good time. You didn't mention which clubs you've tried, but the club that my friend went to was Ybor Strip (I think it's now called Scarlet's of Ybor, or something like that).
They were approached by several dancers and taken back to VIP by one of them, and all three of them had a REALLY fun session.
Thank you Doug! We're actually planning on trying Ybor this week. I'll let you know how it goes. ; )
Robofan, someone else said that they might think I'm LE. Strange, I'd think only male LE would actually be able to catch them doing something illegal..esp considering what some of you guys have said about your experiences. Of course, I'm still a newbie.
I remember this old guy at Diamonds. He would come in with the hottest women. Then he would send her alone to the VIP room to get paid action from the dancers. He paid the women he brought to the club--typically women he seduced with his cash and then paid dancers to service the women. One time a dancer friend of mine made some serious cash doing this for him. I complained to her that I wanted in on the fun! She laughs and says really? I say hell YES!!! As long as he doesn't want it, then let me take his place. She laughs and says it was really a great time and the woman was so innocent. More importantly she said if I see her again getting the action from the wealthy old guy, then definitely I can join the fun on his tab. :)
Unfortunately, he was always getting different dancers for the VIP and I never could catch the right moment-My dancer friend taking the other woman to the VIP. That was one nice dancer even though she was way out of my ball park financially.
if you're not into girls, what are you taking away from the experience? Can you deal with a dancer dancing for just your hubby? Like shadowcat asked....just what are you looking for in the clubs?
If you're not into women, and are uncomfortable in letting your hubby get a lapdance, a SC might not be the best place for you two. Also - dancers learn real quick on how to read people - if you look or act nervous,edgy, or (yikes!) jealous - that will send them scurring away FAST. My advice is to always smile, and tip GENEROUSLY. Couples often have to go that "extra mile" in order to get any attention.
I asked her about that couple and she told me that she isn't in to girls at all so she very rarely will dancer for couples, and never for just a girl. She also told me that dancing for couple is tricky because it's a delicate balance of providing a good dance and not causing jealousies. She said all of the dancers have a "policy" that the female in the couple needs to be at least somewhat "in to girls", and not just there because she feels obligated her male partner and doesn't want to be there.
Maybe the younger dancers shy away because of a "mother image"?
Lopaw has a good idea, tip a waitress (generously) to help find a dancer to introduce to you. Might work.
Good idea of yours, keep your hubby with you. I think fun & games can be had for a HOT couple in a strip club. Just keep working it and eventually things will *click*! Best of luck to both of you. :-)
We talked about it, and I'll try to pick one, and he'll go get her, if necessary. Part of the problem is that we're being too nice to each other! He doesn't know where to look or what to do either. Marriage is a journey of life lessons and we just keep learning about ourselves and each other.
As for him getting dances, maybe I misspoke myself. We have had "couples" dances, and they are fun. She was on both of us at the same time and I was not jealous. One of the things I was afraid of was being jealous when doing SCs. I told hubbie and he has been very supportive and, well, cautious. I have thought about how much I would like to see him get from a dance - after all, how can he not want to get one too? I think I just don't want anything(s) in his face (you know, like having his face smashed up between someones "assets") and maybe not too much grinding? I certainly don't expect him to not get anything or to not enjoy it. That would be stupid. After all, I've been married long enough to learn a few things about men and certainly MY man. He loves ME, but he's still a man.
Some of you asked what I was looking for in the clubs. I do look to get "titillated" ;) My hubby really likes to see me getting close to a woman and I really like to see him happy and turned on. We are expanding our sexual horizons.
Lastly, um Bones, really - a mother image?? I'm not THAT old - early 40's. Hubby says I look like early 30's, maybe he's prejudiced, but I really don't look like a hag. As a matter of fact, one of the reasons I can handle SCs is because I dress to kill when going there and I feel sexy. Otherwise, I'd be really intimidated by the girls! ok, this post is long enough!
You are probably many a mens' dream hon. I would have loved to had a wife that is caring enough to go to strip clubs with me.
If I may suggest... after you two visit a club and having a good time with a certain dancer, go home, put on a stripper outfit (without him knowing first), introduce yourself as (the stage name of the actual stripper you two enjoyed at the club) and go to town on him! Do some teasing dances, allowing mild touching at first. Have him actually pay you money for dances and tips. Suggest to him that you and him go to the VIP lounge, but that it will cost him, but you will give him maximum mileage.
I used to do this with a former SO and our role playing really turned into some really HOT love making. If he's willing, have him be the stripper for a change. Good luck to both you lovebirds! Uncle Bones