Wives in the club

Hi curiousier,

Sometimes the younger dancers are intimdated unless you are about their age. Sometimes they just don't like old i.e. over 35. :) Being friendly should quickly tell which were just unsure of themselves and which have other preferences. The clubs I go to seem to prefer women customers not that the men are mistreated. It just seems the dancer are more natural and more outgoing.

I agree with Jablake. When my friends and I take our wives to SC they form a group of 4 to 5 hot ladies that are 28-35 yo. They get close to the stage and the dancers love them and they usually do an impromptu show together. Us, the husbands get complements from the DJ and the crowd. If we get drunk enough, we do order LD for our wives, and some really get into it :) Sorry, could not resist to brag - its been a long day at work...

I suggest to keep on trying different clubs. I have seen couples like yours getting the deserved attention here, in Detroit.

In my favorite club, I have maybe seen a dozen or so couples in the past 5 years looking for menage a trois. Lots of younger ones there. Just to party. Almost all of my favorite avoid them. They know what to expect from a guy but they are unsure as to how far to go with a guy with his S/O sitting next to him or what she herself wants. They do not want trouble. So they pass.

Alot of dancers have had unpleasent experiences with female customers (as part of a couple) in the club, so many are reluctant to approach couples. The best thing is for YOU to approach any dancer that interests you, or tip a waitress and have her go get the dancer for you.

In some areas local undercover law enforcement visits clubs as couples. To be on the safe side many dancers avoid couples altogether. You may want to try having just one of you go to a club and establish a relationship with a dancer or several dancers and then go back as a couple.

Um, going in single is not going to happen. We may have been married a long time, but I'm still not too happy about some woman rubbing all over him. If I'm there, we're experiencing it together. Also, I'm not looking for a menage, just some fun. The real fun happens when we get home!

I suspect lopaw has it right. The girls just don't know how to treat me. Hell, I don't really know how to treat them either. That's why I'm here. I'm hoping you nice people will help me out. I'm not sure how to act and I'm not into girls. My SO wants me to touch and, well, it hasn't happened yet. This isn't the easiest thing I've ever done!

BTW, I'm in Tampa (hope none of my friends read this!) and this is supposed to be a major place for SCs. Detroit is a bit of a drive, Prof...

Never. It makes things too complicated in the club and at home.

Curiousier:
Your husband is VERY lucky that you are trying to do this for him!

Yes, Tampa is one of the hot spots for clubbing. I'm a bit surprised that you are receiving this treatment (actually, lack of treatment). There's no way that MY wife would ever accompany me to a SC - nor would I ever ask her. However, a buddy of mine (and his wife) went to a club in Tampa last spring and they had a VERY good time. You didn't mention which clubs you've tried, but the club that my friend went to was Ybor Strip (I think it's now called Scarlet's of Ybor, or something like that).

They were approached by several dancers and taken back to VIP by one of them, and all three of them had a REALLY fun session.

I think whether you're a couple or a group or a single, the attitude that you project has a lot to do with whether girls approach you or not. When I'm in a club where I'm not known (which I guess is all of them now) I usually try to project an attitude that I want to be left alone because I prefer not to be approached but to be the one doing the approaching. It usually works.

Bringing your wife to a strip club is like bringing the principal along when you play hookey.

Guess you're not married, Tree! (or at least not married and loving it)

Thank you Doug! We're actually planning on trying Ybor this week. I'll let you know how it goes. ; )

Robofan, someone else said that they might think I'm LE. Strange, I'd think only male LE would actually be able to catch them doing something illegal..esp considering what some of you guys have said about your experiences. Of course, I'm still a newbie.

I think LE likes to have a female officer present so that the male LE doesn't have too much fun while working on the case--theory being women aren't into paid sex, its degrading to buy it, etc. Remember female LE should be getting as much fun or pretending to as male LE.

I remember this old guy at Diamonds. He would come in with the hottest women. Then he would send her alone to the VIP room to get paid action from the dancers. He paid the women he brought to the club--typically women he seduced with his cash and then paid dancers to service the women. One time a dancer friend of mine made some serious cash doing this for him. I complained to her that I wanted in on the fun! She laughs and says really? I say hell YES!!! As long as he doesn't want it, then let me take his place. She laughs and says it was really a great time and the woman was so innocent. More importantly she said if I see her again getting the action from the wealthy old guy, then definitely I can join the fun on his tab. :)

Unfortunately, he was always getting different dancers for the VIP and I never could catch the right moment-My dancer friend taking the other woman to the VIP. That was one nice dancer even though she was way out of my ball park financially.

curiousier: You just reinforced my post. My favorites shy away from couples because they do not know what the couples want. I can't tell from your post what you want. You don't want some stripper rubbing up against your hubby. So what do you want? Just eye candy? You can get that anywhere. Even the mall.

curiousier,
if you're not into girls, what are you taking away from the experience? Can you deal with a dancer dancing for just your hubby? Like shadowcat asked....just what are you looking for in the clubs?

If you're not into women, and are uncomfortable in letting your hubby get a lapdance, a SC might not be the best place for you two. Also - dancers learn real quick on how to read people - if you look or act nervous,edgy, or (yikes!) jealous - that will send them scurring away FAST. My advice is to always smile, and tip GENEROUSLY. Couples often have to go that "extra mile" in order to get any attention.

The first time that I saw my ATF, I was very interested and when she walked towards me, I thought she was coming to my table, however she ended up at another table, one row back and about 4 tables over. The table was occupied by a couple, and it looked as though the three of them were heading back to VIP. They didn't however, and a little later, I was spending time with my soon-to-be ATF.

I asked her about that couple and she told me that she isn't in to girls at all so she very rarely will dancer for couples, and never for just a girl. She also told me that dancing for couple is tricky because it's a delicate balance of providing a good dance and not causing jealousies. She said all of the dancers have a "policy" that the female in the couple needs to be at least somewhat "in to girls", and not just there because she feels obligated her male partner and doesn't want to be there.

First off, welcome to TUSCL. Hope you enjoy it here.

Maybe the younger dancers shy away because of a "mother image"?

Lopaw has a good idea, tip a waitress (generously) to help find a dancer to introduce to you. Might work.

Good idea of yours, keep your hubby with you. I think fun & games can be had for a HOT couple in a strip club. Just keep working it and eventually things will *click*! Best of luck to both of you. :-)

Thank you all for your answers. Wow, there were a lot of questions for me. where to start? ok, well, I'm not into girls, but I am into sex and women are sexy. I have had dances that I've enjoyed, I just haven't been more than a few times and some of those were disappointing because like I said earlier, we didn't get much attention (ok, except from a couple of 1,2,or 3s. The notable exception was at a bikini club and she was very pretty, ok, sexy.).

We talked about it, and I'll try to pick one, and he'll go get her, if necessary. Part of the problem is that we're being too nice to each other! He doesn't know where to look or what to do either. Marriage is a journey of life lessons and we just keep learning about ourselves and each other.

As for him getting dances, maybe I misspoke myself. We have had "couples" dances, and they are fun. She was on both of us at the same time and I was not jealous. One of the things I was afraid of was being jealous when doing SCs. I told hubbie and he has been very supportive and, well, cautious. I have thought about how much I would like to see him get from a dance - after all, how can he not want to get one too? I think I just don't want anything(s) in his face (you know, like having his face smashed up between someones "assets") and maybe not too much grinding? I certainly don't expect him to not get anything or to not enjoy it. That would be stupid. After all, I've been married long enough to learn a few things about men and certainly MY man. He loves ME, but he's still a man.

Some of you asked what I was looking for in the clubs. I do look to get "titillated" ;) My hubby really likes to see me getting close to a woman and I really like to see him happy and turned on. We are expanding our sexual horizons.

Lastly, um Bones, really - a mother image?? I'm not THAT old - early 40's. Hubby says I look like early 30's, maybe he's prejudiced, but I really don't look like a hag. As a matter of fact, one of the reasons I can handle SCs is because I dress to kill when going there and I feel sexy. Otherwise, I'd be really intimidated by the girls! ok, this post is long enough!

curiousier - Pardon my use of 'mother image', I wasn't really referring to a mass differance in ages. I figured you were in your 40s. What I meant was basically maybe dancers wanted to give lap dances to women closer to their own age. Again, I sincerely apologize.

You are probably many a mens' dream hon. I would have loved to had a wife that is caring enough to go to strip clubs with me.

If I may suggest... after you two visit a club and having a good time with a certain dancer, go home, put on a stripper outfit (without him knowing first), introduce yourself as (the stage name of the actual stripper you two enjoyed at the club) and go to town on him! Do some teasing dances, allowing mild touching at first. Have him actually pay you money for dances and tips. Suggest to him that you and him go to the VIP lounge, but that it will cost him, but you will give him maximum mileage.

I used to do this with a former SO and our role playing really turned into some really HOT love making. If he's willing, have him be the stripper for a change. Good luck to both you lovebirds! Uncle Bones

thank you, unc. Actually, stripping for him is how this started. I suggested we go so I could learn some moves. He immediately jumped to lap dances (for me) - why was I surprised? We did actually find a place this last week. Scarlett's, as someone suggested was great. We went in the afternoon - something I learned from this website. I'll put in a review, when I can find some time!!

Curiousier: I'm glad my suggestion paid off and you had a good time. I anxiously await reading your review.

I know this thread is getting really old, but I wanted you guys to know I put in a review for Scarlett's and it should be available soon.

Hopefully, you had a good time. :)