You might try a small keychain flashlight. My led flashlight is about this size of a USB flash drive. You might have to shield it when using it, since it tends to be pretty bright.
I haven't been to that many clubs, but Scarlett's of Ybor was great. It's nude. Thee Dollhouse is pretty good, if you like pasties. Bikini bar, um, maybe Class Act. Stay away from Deja Vu. I hear the Gold Club is good, but I haven't been there personally. Good luck.
thank you, unc. Actually, stripping for him is how this started. I suggested we go so I could learn some moves. He immediately jumped to lap dances (for me) - why was I surprised? We did actually find a place this last week. Scarlett's, as someone suggested was great. We went in the afternoon - something I learned from this website. I'll put in a review, when I can find some time!!
Thank you all for your answers. Wow, there were a lot of questions for me. where to start? ok, well, I'm not into girls, but I am into sex and women are sexy. I have had dances that I've enjoyed, I just haven't been more than a few times and some of those were disappointing because like I said earlier, we didn't get much attention (ok, except from a couple of 1,2,or 3s. The notable exception was at a bikini club and she was very pretty, ok, sexy.).
We talked about it, and I'll try to pick one, and he'll go get her, if necessary. Part of the problem is that we're being too nice to each other! He doesn't know where to look or what to do either. Marriage is a journey of life lessons and we just keep learning about ourselves and each other.
As for him getting dances, maybe I misspoke myself. We have had "couples" dances, and they are fun. She was on both of us at the same time and I was not jealous. One of the things I was afraid of was being jealous when doing SCs. I told hubbie and he has been very supportive and, well, cautious. I have thought about how much I would like to see him get from a dance - after all, how can he not want to get one too? I think I just don't want anything(s) in his face (you know, like having his face smashed up between someones "assets") and maybe not too much grinding? I certainly don't expect him to not get anything or to not enjoy it. That would be stupid. After all, I've been married long enough to learn a few things about men and certainly MY man. He loves ME, but he's still a man.
Some of you asked what I was looking for in the clubs. I do look to get "titillated" ;) My hubby really likes to see me getting close to a woman and I really like to see him happy and turned on. We are expanding our sexual horizons.
Lastly, um Bones, really - a mother image?? I'm not THAT old - early 40's. Hubby says I look like early 30's, maybe he's prejudiced, but I really don't look like a hag. As a matter of fact, one of the reasons I can handle SCs is because I dress to kill when going there and I feel sexy. Otherwise, I'd be really intimidated by the girls! ok, this post is long enough!
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