Years ago I had a female coworker who was soon to be married ask me what happens at the bachelor party. I did not know he fiance or the guys he hung around with so I honestly could say I didn't know what was planned for her dude and also that bachelor parties can range from PG to X-rated entertainment. Five years later they were divorced.
My view may be odd - and I might be in the minority. I’ve been to a variety of bachelor parties (including my own), and I’ve seen a lot of shit go down.
If a bachelor party involves going to a strip club, that may be a good thing. In many cases, the dancers have a setup for bachelor parties - that involves playfully embarrassing the bachelor. Sure, they grind on the guy (sometimes on stage) - they might draw stupid stuff on him too. Thats stupid shit, and it doesn’t involve any fucking or sex.
In certain cases, I’ve seen bachelors who were too drunk to do anything. So they can’t perform - and it’s likely they won’t remember anything. That’s not good for the bachelor - and his friends need to keep him safe.
The strip club is a controlled environment - and that’s important - as there’s lots of alcohol consumed at these parties. But, once money is low, the fun stops.
I’ve been to bachelor parties at houses and in hotels - and in other filthy spots - and they are not controlled at all. That is more dangerous in my view. That is when the groomsmen and best man must be reasonable and decent dudes - to avoid just getting an escort - and then possibly causing issues for many of the guys invited (including the bachelor).
Yes, women find it disrespectful and awful to have a stripper at a bachelor party, but if the bachelor is very drunk and a dancer grinds on him in front of a crowd of drunken fools, and then they go home and sleep it off, its not so bad!
After listening to Lilly I now realize how despicable and disgraceful I am after allowing a stripper to squat my face at the last bachelor party I attended
My sincere apology to all the women who've sat there before, I'm ashamed of myself
I'm in more than a little agreement with those cited in the article. If the men who are leaving with escorts are, in fact, in exclusive relationships, then they are being pretty shitty to their partners.
That said, I'm not convinced that the bachelor being pulled on stage and mistreated by strippers all by itself necessarily rises to the level of cheating. It might, of course, depending on the limits set by the members of the relationship, but it's not a universal thing.
Why would I want my bachelor party at a strip club? I'm faithful in relationships, and getting a girl grinding on me on stage and sticking titties in my face is tame compared to what I've done in strip clubs over the years.
If I get married, my bachelor party is going to be whitewater rafting or something like that.
This woman is going to be shocked when she discovers that men like sex, even if it is not with her (maybe I should say, especially if it is not with her).
I certainly hope that she can live up to the high standards that she expects of her fiance. Should we assume that she is a virgin and has never looked lustfully at a man (or woman) other than her husband?
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If a bachelor party involves going to a strip club, that may be a good thing. In many cases, the dancers have a setup for bachelor parties - that involves playfully embarrassing the bachelor. Sure, they grind on the guy (sometimes on stage) - they might draw stupid stuff on him too. Thats stupid shit, and it doesn’t involve any fucking or sex.
In certain cases, I’ve seen bachelors who were too drunk to do anything. So they can’t perform - and it’s likely they won’t remember anything. That’s not good for the bachelor - and his friends need to keep him safe.
The strip club is a controlled environment - and that’s important - as there’s lots of alcohol consumed at these parties. But, once money is low, the fun stops.
I’ve been to bachelor parties at houses and in hotels - and in other filthy spots - and they are not controlled at all. That is more dangerous in my view. That is when the groomsmen and best man must be reasonable and decent dudes - to avoid just getting an escort - and then possibly causing issues for many of the guys invited (including the bachelor).
Yes, women find it disrespectful and awful to have a stripper at a bachelor party, but if the bachelor is very drunk and a dancer grinds on him in front of a crowd of drunken fools, and then they go home and sleep it off, its not so bad!
My sincere apology to all the women who've sat there before, I'm ashamed of myself
God help the dude that marries that fucking prude
That said, I'm not convinced that the bachelor being pulled on stage and mistreated by strippers all by itself necessarily rises to the level of cheating. It might, of course, depending on the limits set by the members of the relationship, but it's not a universal thing.
If I get married, my bachelor party is going to be whitewater rafting or something like that.
I certainly hope that she can live up to the high standards that she expects of her fiance. Should we assume that she is a virgin and has never looked lustfully at a man (or woman) other than her husband?
SJG