For an average man is "Retiree lifestyle" way more exciting than "adult life"?

Beat100
Also, I am talking about ordinary people it seems that if you are wealthy you can "skip" certain phases and go straight to "retiree lifestyle." Let's only focus on man and not women. Since I feel many guides are for women but few for men.

Young adult life: Say you go to college usually, most guys who go to college have to live in "ok" conditions. You have roommates and MAYBE you can get "laid" at a college party but only if you are the coolest there like if you are part of a sports team or you frat. I have also seen that life is quite uneventful where people just go drinking alone in their rooms with their few friends.

Adult life: Let's say, "Post-college" life. It seems that this is one of the roughest periods for a young man. For instance, I have friends who move to a big city, live with roommates, have to work demanding jobs in squalor conditions, and maybe go out on the weekends to try to find a date..etc. It seems most of these people are working out of NEED and not because they want to.

"Responsible" Adult life: Unfortunately, it seems that as life gets slightly more accessible for a man. Like he can buy apartments to live by themselves..etc. It is at the age when most women want to settle down. Unlike escorting, where you are "renting" the woman, it seems that if you marry her, you are "buying" the woman. Where you are responsible for her well-being(especially in the countries where you have to pay "alimony.")

It seems here a man's life no longer revolves around himself but rather the family. It seems this whole experience is getting into more and more debt. He has to support the wife financially, the children(usually people have two to three children), the house he buys/rents has to be suitable for them, which makes it more expensive, getting a car. Usually, guys like this will settle for whichever job they have or can get. Hence, you see families with too many children or families who end up divorce falling into poverty at this stage. Otherwise, this process will continue until the children become older.

Retiree lifestyle: Here is when a man can truly enjoy his life. The difference between all the previous categories and this one is WEALTH. It seems that if a man has wealth and fewer financial burdens. He can do whatever he wants. I have seen friends of mine(who are not old) who when to Thailand or Tijuana. But it seems that most guys go through all the other stages before arriving at this one.

16 comments

  • Icee Loco (asshole)
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    3 years ago
    Just live your life the best you can.
  • Icee Loco (asshole)
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    3 years ago
    And I doubt living off social security is exciting
  • GACA
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    3 years ago
    Buying her? Sound like you have some distorted view to work out. A good functioning marriage is about partnership. If you feel like you're buying your wife, then you did it waaaaay wrong.

    Ya I know, I'm one to talk.
  • shadowcat
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    3 years ago
    Wealth is great but it won't help you in retirement when health takes over. You can't do at 68 what you used to be able to do at 28 and it continues to get worse until the body gives up.
  • wallanon
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    3 years ago
    That's kinda depressing, but shadowcat is telling it like it is. For the younguns, enjoy your youth while you have it. If you want to mix some strippers in with that, why not? But don't get to the end of your vital years with too many regrets on fun you passed up. You can't get the time back and you can't buy a memory.
  • skibum609
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    3 years ago
    In June 1978 I was entering the summer prior to my last year of college. I decided that I liked 1978 me and as a result never matured beyond that date. Life is a party/vacation. Being fully retired with no job to make sure I stay in line is not in the cards.
  • rattdog
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    3 years ago
    what the last 2 gentlemen replied - there are no time machines for one to step into and warp back to missed fun times.
  • twentyfive
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    3 years ago
    ^ It is depressing , but it doesn’t have to be that way, with a reasonable amount of effort and mindfulness , utilizing diet, and exercise you can remain relatively healthy throughout your life, I know many people over the age of 68 that are not experiencing health problems and just as many that are, the one constant among the healthiest group I’ know is moderate diet and activity on a daily basis. It’s your choice, mostly as to how healthy you feel.
  • Jascoi
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    3 years ago
    eat, drink and be merry… for tomorrow we may die.
    I just hope to die with a smile on my face!
  • Jascoi
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    3 years ago
    as to retirement… it does give me more free time.
    the biggest freedom for me wasn’t retiring…
    it was splitting from the wife and her attitude!
  • skibum609
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    3 years ago
    Staying active is the key to health and longevity; that and having longevity in your family. I plan on skiing bumps next February in Colorado (at 64) and have my ski pass already and plane reservations. Keys in August. Hate golf.
  • nicespice
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    3 years ago
    Oh yeah, there are no guides whatsoever, especially not one that was written by a un-romantically attached man back in 2007 about the concept of a “mini-retirement”. And not too long after, a lot of digital nomad types absolutely loved and the early 2010s “red-pill” adopted and was all into as well.

    And if such a concept from back then existed, it couldn’t have continued on into today…

    Oh wait.
    https://www.moneyunder30.com/how-to-take…
  • nicespice
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    3 years ago
    It’s going to be horrifying when this early 2010s manosphere-fixated OP posts in a few years from now. Then the tuscl posts can be passionate warnings against feminists and social justice warriors destroying America—and Trump will save us all.
  • nicespice
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    3 years ago
    P.S. This is just simply a link to a book for old women retirees to find the best bingo halls and knitting groups. 🧶 Nothing that men looking for a retiree lifestyle would ever find interesting.
    https://www.amazon.com/4-Hour-Workweek-E…
  • mark94
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    3 years ago
    The stoic philosophy makes a lot of sense to me, especially as I age. Lead a virtuous life. Find purpose in your duties and perform them well. Focus your energies on things you can control ( which is a surprisingly small set of things ). Don’t waste effort worrying about things outside your control.
  • gammanu95
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    3 years ago
    Tomorrow is not promised. That is not to say that you should live every day like it's your last. Everything in moderation. Never stay in a job, relationship, residence, etc., if you are unhappy simply because you are afraid of change. There may be other reasons (usually family) why you are not able to make a change, but don't let fear of change be the only reason.
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