Dancer's life changed and she no longer turns me on

Don't talk with her about things that turns you off. Lead the conversation to what you want. You can still be polite and friendly but never prolong a bad transaction.

NAAAASTY

Often when you get to know the personal lives and a dancer it kills the fantasy.

Sometimes, too much "knowledge" can be a boner killer.

Nothing makes me happier than a good lap dance. Makes it all the hotter if the dancer making me happy is happy herself. Makes me feel bad if she isn't. Thanks to Daddy for not being the jealous type, and supporting her being there chasing my blues away.

Being single makes a dancer more attractive to me. It's sort of like the inverse on how women are attracted to married guys.

I didn't think I would feel this way, but I do. She is obviously in love because she glows. I would think that would be a turn-on but it isn't.

You mean she has a baby AND a baby daddy to feed, clothe, house, etc.? Shit that's a recipe for a highly motivated girl. Girls in that situation usually don't dance if Daddy is bringing home the bacon, contrary to the happy but independent woman fantasies often spun by a small minority of outliers on SW and sometimes here. The decision to dance is almost always driven by economics rther than lifestyle preferences.

So that's a long winded way of saying that I'd welcome her into the world of parenthood by offering her OTC income enhancements, especially the first time that her electric bill is overdue and she can't tolerate the thought of losing power with a baby in the house. Or baby's first Christmas is coming and she wants to buy the kiddo nice stuff that she can post on FB. Or when baby daddy inevitable falls short during a dead period for her ITC and she's wondering whether she'll need to buy Great Value diapers instead of the Pampers that her baby normally wears. Or...

So while I understand that some guys need the fantasy that his favorite dancer is single, which is why so many lie about their relationship status, it is quite the opposite for me. The more I know, the better I am prepared to be of assistance during times of need. ;)

Easily half of the strippers I've been with have had children. Many of those have had live in babydaddy/boyfriends, and a few have had husbands.

My enjoyment of my time with them hasn't suffered because of it.

No. Knowing that the stripper entertaining me has a happy life does not bother me. I'll admit, I've been bothered by less than happy lives outside of the club but never by happy ones.

The more I know about a dancer, the less I am interested.

Unless she talks about her children constantly I don't care. One of my favorites danced while pregnant through three separate pregnancies, and every time came back just as sexy as when she left, and her dances just as awesome. Only difference was a bit of breast enhancement after the second and lipo after the third.

Shit, I sometimes swap stories about kids activities with my CFs. When dealing with a girl with kids and an SO who is non-extras ITC, sometimes there's no better OTC lubricant. It can make things much easier when she understands that you're both in the same boat and that you desire quiet and discretion as much as she does.

Loper: Yes there's been more than one occasion ITC where my conscience interrupts my physical enjoyment of an entertainer. Regardless, I am happy for anybody in life that is happy with their relationship-even if it put a damper on my fun. If it's a CF, I will not continue to spend at the same rate unless there is something else that at least offers some sizzle. My visits in general are more about physical friction than conversation, but there are a few entertainers that tickle the other senses that I guess still remain "somewhat" in tact.