your opininions gentlemen please
Quick question: my cousin is a smart pretty girl who looks like reese witherspoon & wants to go to graduate school. She needs to earn some extra cash, has a low paying day job & wants to pay off some debt. She is considering stripping by night for a few months to fund her goals - is this ok - will she be safe- where is a good club in LA? Thanks
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Second, going home with strangers isn't the only threat to her safety. It's the psychological damage of fake intimacy and the temptations of easy money. It can stunt her ability to experience true intimacy and mess up her romantic life and her self esteem. Even if she keeps it all inside the club, and the dances are strictly non-contact, it can take a heavy toll. Especially if she enters into it with an unrealistic view of how simple and easy it all is, which appears to be the case here. It may still be what she wants to do, but she should be more aware of the costs beforehand.
As far as emotional damage and costs it really depends on the woman. This one size fits all mentality is great to keep things simple, but it also keeps it simple minded. An example of simple mindedness is the statement alcohol is addictive. Now, depending on your experience or that of your family you might think that statement is 100% true or near 100% bogus. Alcohol is addictive to *some* people. Cocaine is addictive to *some* people. Originally, I believe, the "experts" thought cocaine wasn't addictive the realization that it is addictive took years and then it is the all or none bs yet again.
Unless you have personally experienced either, in some way, you will ALWAYS be surprised by how different the experience can be and the effects it can have. You might think you can be prepared or have a plan on how to handle it, but the shits gonna change you, your plans and your outlooks. Good, Bad, or Indifferent you change.
I think what you want to hear is “You cousin will be fine, safe, and unaffected by the experience.†Reality is your sister will be changed, by the experience and I think, more likely than not the risk presented for negative effects is to great advise that she try it out.
There is a reason these girls make the money they do, they accept a certain amount of risk. One girl I have had the pleasure to spend time with, explained that she wouldn’t do this job if it weren’t for the money first off, and second for the occasional decent- nice- real person she meets (was it game? Could have been- but she wasn’t making money when she told me she was tired of dancing and preferred to just sit and chat with me). Lets face it, men are pigs, there are guys that go to strip clubs just to test the boundaries of socially acceptable behavior. Example, how would your cousin deal with the drunk frat boy sticking his finger up her ass while she was air dancing in front of him? It may not happen all the time, but you know this shit happens.
Good Luck to your cousin- sounds like she will make the right decision for herself.
I also agree with much of what was said previously.
(interesting topic for my first post-- haha)
Cons: She could end up prostituting once she sees how easy it is to make money with her looks and body. Also, her dancer friends could get her hooked on drugs.
Pros: If she dances at an upscale club, she is relatively safe and can make some good dough, in a short period of time.
Whatever her choice.... I wish her well.
All of the guys here have made some valid points, but I will give you some perspective as a woman and entertainer. It depends on the type of woman she is. If she is strong willed, motivated, and knows how to handle her business than there should be no problems. My advice, for her or any woman thinking of entering this business, is be true to yourself. I've met a lot of nice people and I enjoy my job. I have worked in the same club now for over 2 years, although I started dancing 4 yrs ago(with a break here and there). I have never tried drugs, never gotten caught up in the "drama" that comes along with the job nor have I had to have OTC sexual expeciences to make extra $$$. Yeah the $$ comes fast, so be smart with it. Take out what $$ you need to pay your bills and expenses then put what's left in the bank and reinvest it (CD's, IRA's, stocks or whatever). You will be surprised how fast it adds up. There will be some ups and downs though. Envy from other dancers: fuck it. Just do you and remember you are there for you and to better yourself so to hell with what others think. Its ok to have a few chatter buddies that work with you so leave it @ that; chat about random things but nothing too personal. Leave your personal affairs @ home and never get involved in anyone else's crap or the club gossip to avoid drama because it will make you lose sight of your purpose. Afterall, this is a job whether its a club or not. Some nights will be pretty crappy, but hell compared to working 40+ hr wks, its not all that bad. My motto is 'Yeah to some it's bad that I may work in a strip club, so the least I can do is do my job with integrity." Not saying that I have all of the answers, but I have followed and still do follow these guidlines when I work and I haven't had any problems with being strictly an entertainer or making (and saving) tons of $$$. STAY FOCUSED!!
Interesting thread. An outsider could easily point out that the regular CUSTOMERS of stripping are being mildly hypocritical by suggesting that a girl shouldn't go into being the PERFORMER of stripping. Oh yeah we're all so positive about what it feels like to be the guy on the lap-dance couch, but when it comes right down to it we wouldn't suggest that someone whom we know would encourage his daughter / sister / cousin into stripping, not even just for the money. Hmm ...
Now I'm REALLY worried about her.
In some clubs I heard other dancers are rude and steal from the other dancers. Of course a new dancer might not know this about a club. I doubt very many male customers would even suspect it. I heard about one club where a pretty dancer made more money than the other dancers and she found her locker stuffed full of fish. I heard about stories where dancers get their stuff stolen all the time. I tend to believe those stories may be true. I've heard more stories but I won't ramble on.
I once ran into a girl where I worked at who asked me if I thought she could make it as a stripper. I really didn't know her that well and some of the guys and girls must have talked about me visiting a strip club. I guess they didn't have much to talk about in that small town. I didn't really like being put on the spot but generally I don't recommend something that may end up becoming a moral decision in some people's minds. I still believe at least here in the south that stripping is not the most morally acceptable position. I personally don't see anything wrong with it. However many people do and they don't mind causing trouble on occasion. Some other people are just troublemakers to start with. Dealing with all these people and society in general putting down the stripping profession, I wouldn't recommend it to friends. You also have to put up with the so called analysts who may say almost all strippers suffer from problems like a lack of self esteem or else they say they were abused as a child or something else.
I did meet one girl who claimed she had a college degree and was stripping as a moonlighting job to make extra income. She seemed brighter than a normal stripper and I don't recall too many dancers telling me they have a college degree but chose to work that profession instead of their degree. I can't remember which it was now since it was a while ago. I've met hundreds of dancers and I only recall one that told me she had a college degree. Of course I don't usually go to air dance clubs. sorry if I rambled on too long here.
I heard some guys say all it takes to make a ton of money is a nice pair of tits and ass. I think they were jealous.
My guess is she was titillated by your willingness to stand mildly outside social norms by admitting at work to having attended strip clubs, and she was trying to further push the boundaries with you. "Sooo ... should I get a breast augmentation, do you think? Sooo ... how many girls here shave their pussies, do you think? Sooo ... could I be a stripper, do you think?" Get it?
One example of a male asking a female worker something that wasn't acceptable to the female several years ago would be asking her something about her crack. (between her legs). I can't remember what the one guy asked but I heard he got slapped. Nowadays, things like this might be grounds for sexual harassment if one party pressed the issue.