How are you so fucked up that the only two things u live for arr your cigarettes
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And even if she is anxious I cant believe that instead of getting treated instead of just hanging out with friends after work when you are still working on a degree that you arent even close to finishing .
One post a day takes only 10 minutes .ive spent max 15 min a day posting for the most recent months ..and I havent even posted every day
Maybe ppl wonder why youre a boring loser ?
Stop calling this medicority as if the majority of people do this..only fucking bums do this .
Yes there are ppl who cohabit when they are her age but just bc u cohabitat doesnt imply that you spend the majority of the time with each other.
No one fucking hangs out with their boyfriend right after fucking work and hanga out with him whenever they arent working or sleeping .
It doesn't mean they're not ambitious
@icey I love how u respond to all my threads especially when I ask questions thx a lot <3 lmao
My name is a red herring in case someone I know IRL sees my posts. They would never suspect it’s me. Never.
The thing with people like that is you most likely won't get through to them coz of their illness and you may just push them away. They need professional help.
So while I didnt hangout with ppl when I was anxious , I would just sit in my room and think about the past which I (mistakenly ) as I thought I had no future at one point no matter how hard I would try ...
. While she might be hanging out with him as a coping mechanism for her adhd, I feel like how we dealt with things speaks volumes about out personalities ...
When I felt like my hard work at the moment would not amount to anything which prevented me from even trying , at least I wasnt content with not doing anything ,unlike her who just goes out all the time and seems to.actually be okay with not progressing in life and therefore letting life run her .
@DC when you're trying to obtain your degree which she is trying for....u don't obtain that by spending all your free moments with your boy friend..I mean I go to class for 6 hrs a day including travel time .if I did what she did that would be equivalent to me watching t.v. all the time except like the night before every test..umm I'm sorry that's not ok..
While this assumes that living life aimlessly is bad and while it also asusmes that hanging out with boyfriend can't be considered an aim..it assumes this because its true.
If all you do is spend time with ur bf..you are sacrificing money as she only works part time. ..While she goes to class ..class is almost useless if the only thing u do is study nite before test and literally spend every other with boy friend...she is sacrificing her success.
Also..why is it bad if she wants to.spend every moment with her boyfriend ? Because no healthy relationship ship involves constantly being around each other.
I would like to spend more time on this thread than I already have so I.will do that if time allows..bcuz I def need to.respond to dc lmao..I mean I think.some of what he said was rite but not all of it..also.I dont think the logic was applied properly as It could be..but hopefully I'll have time to.respond to that ..
Thanks again!! Gnite ppl
Everyone has their struggles and demons, some can deal with them some can't. It doesn't make them lesser human beings.
I don't see the boyfriend as much of a problem either though. Other than that maybe he should be pushing her to study more.
She's living her life how she wants to and she's not interfering in your life, so why do you care?
Are you jealous because you are working your ass off and she's relaxing more than you?
Are you jealous because she's getting laid every day and you aren't and are horny?
Are you jealous because you want her to be spending more time with you and not with him?
I think if you studied a little bit less and had a little bit more sex, you'd be a lot happier, less frustrated, and wouldn't give a shit what your friend does with her time.
Anyway, wasn't asking you your opinion. I was asking Nicole. Nicole, why does it bother you so much? It shouldn't.
i care because she is my fucking sister..not because i am trying to regulate her life, but rather because like dc said..living in the middle is respectable, and that is true. however, i dont think she is living in the middle which is why i am concerned. i think she i living it below it because...
-so she works 15 hrs a wk max i think, maybe 20. at ten dollars an hour, that isn't enough to survive at this age, she should be working towards a salary that will allow her to sustain herself ..yes im 23 and still in school but i only have one class i need to take before i get my bachelors from a top school so im fine lol..also i am holding off on graduation for at least a year. i am literally taking extra courses at UT for certain reasons..but i can do this because i can basically graduate at any time to support myself but im choosing to stay longer.
-she's 22 and working a minimum wage, part time. she only has 2 yrs left to get her bachelors ..so that what she is doing would be ok if she was actually working on her bachelor's and passing her classes. however, she was getting her bachelor's but literally withdrew from all her classes (she was failing or couldnt handle it) during the semester she was working like 20-30 hrs a wk and hanging out with her boyfriend full time lmao...she also said this was when she began experiencing intense concentration problem which interfered with her academics
-while the concentration problem rather than her hanging with her boyfriend could have resulted in her not being able to do classes, and maybe she hung out with her bf bc she realized she couldnt do school at the moment, she is only putting herself into more trouble by choosing to hangout with him instead of devoting more time to getting well so she can live her life normally.
-she says she wants to go back to school and finish her math degree, but needs to get better first. instead of getting better she just hangs with a fucking boy all day .
--IN CONCLUSION, i dont have have a problem with her hanging with some dude all day. THE PROBLEM IS THAT INSTEAD OF GETTING HER LIFE TOGETHER SHE SPENDS TIME WITH HIM.
You have to realize the meds aren't always the best thing and change people, so does the illness. Maybe in her head, she can't change.
How respectful of you. Why don’t you copy and paste what you said in this thread —> https://www.tuscl.net/app/discussion.php…
she didnt respond tho. just thought i'd let you know.
i went through a similar thing ..honestly like this year during the school year. what has been making me change tho is my goal. i realized if i live like that any longer i wont be able to achieve my dreams..my dream literally has saved me many times haha. hopefully she will find her purpose , regardless of whatever age that will be.
basically it makes me mad that she even receives happiness from hanging out with them...i feel like you should receive happiness from progress and if u cant progress than u should receive happiness from like good hobbies and good friends..i dont think hes the kind of guy that can be a good friend and i dont like who she has gone drinking in clubs because youre stressed
because ive felt trapped too..feeling like you cant make it etc..i never dranked or smoked or indulged myself in a dude long term and seriously as a solution tho because i knew even i took it to be "happy' that happiness doesnt mean anything if my circumstances are the same so what would be the point..make me mad not that she smokes and drinks and hangs out with him 24/7 but that those things actually make her happy when her life is not yet together.
and i can understand not working on a solution..FOR YEARS, i did not work towards solving my problems and remained stuck. NOT BECAUSE I WANTED TO, but because i didn't think a solution was available. im sure this might be her case..and if it is, all im saying is that even when i remained stuck in life, i did not resort to things that gave me false happiness, which is something she is doing 24/7 despite needing to put her life together first..
so yeah, im gonna be mad at someone who wants to look towards someone who gets happy from music making pot smoking friends when things arent right
im not mad her for hanging out with her bf, im pissed that a person can actually receive happiness from that when their life is not how they want it to be.
She probably just can't fathom doing anything to get better so she keeps doing what she's used to. Not necessarily coz she likes it.
But then people with ADHD can lead productive lives. I know a girl who was bad, but got through college and is a school teacher now. A guy who repairs air conditioning units... so I don't want to place all of the blame on the ADHD.
I once had a neighbor kinda like your sister. This middle aged woman who was hooked on ADHD meds, lived off social security disability and had her boyfriend there. All they did was pop pills and smoke weed. She eventually got too fat to leave her apartment and the fire dept had to help them move...
But I think you're right, like an MRI of her head could help a lot, see what's there if anything. She should at least be thankful for the offer.
Not everyone can dow hat you did though. But I don't think any of it is about happiness.