With strippers you have contact info for: ATF’s/CF’s/stripper “friends” etc, do you keep in contact with them once they retire from the dancing business?
Or maybe once they retire they remove everything that reminds them of the strip club, and that includes you?
Many strippers do, indeed, remove everyone in their life that reminds them of stripping.
I have a few ATFs where we kept in touch for years afterwards. I liked them when they were strippers, still like them and like keeping in touch with them now that they're not.
larry,
Not quite the same, but similar. Many years ago I had a favorite dancer in a club. Visited with her fairly regularly. One visit, she had disappeared. The barmaid there said she just left and no one has heard from her.
Fast forward a number of years. I went to a club far away from the above mentioned club. I sat at the bar as is my norm. I ordered a beer from the barmaid. When she returns with it, she said it was on her. I looked at her and realized it was my fave from all those years ago. Was good to see her and she became a good ally in the club, even going as far as letting me know when a new dancer came on board that she knew I'd enjoy. Sadly that eventually ended as well.
They move on to sugar dating. Once a player always a player. Money trumps all.
I met my atf in 2008 at extras club vip at. We met otc and itc then she stopped dancing when married her 3rd husband. Our otc sessions continued. She divorced him in 2015. We have continued meeting up and just recently celebrated 10 th sd anniversary. She is best of best of many I have had.
Her best friend at club stopoed dancing about same time and continues in sugar dating.
So when y atf (stripper mistress) stops dancing she will still cu and pop will come down.
Don't have personal experience - but seems some retired dancers keep somewhat in touch with certain regulars/RILs and hit them up for $$$ from time to time (old habits die hard I suppose)
I've never really made the effort, though from what I've seen most look to make a full break anyway. But even if a girl does want to keep in touch, what's the point? I wouldn't be expecting any invitations to her family events or holiday gatherings and she certainly wouldn't be getting any to mine. It stinks to lose a good long-term favorite that you've grown comfortable with, but time marches on and when she retires, the primary purpose of the "relationship" ceases to exist.
Interesting player, I hadn’t thought of the OTC aspect. I wonder with those ones that were doing OTC while they were stripping, if they continue to do OTC when they retire from stripping? Or are they just done with everything?
I’ve lost contact with most favorites. They usually don’t seem to want to remember being paid for fucking and sucking a fat, creepy pervert twice or more their age for some reason. Who’d have thought they’d be so ungrateful for all the money I’ve spent on them over the years? /s
That said, I have kept contact with more than a couple.
And of course, there’s my ATF. “Stay in contact” is such a pale description. :)
I had one leave a message on my answering machine after she retired. It had been over 3 years since I had seen her. Her message asked me to call her back so that we could get "caught up". She lived over 200 miles away from me and I had no interest seeing an over the hill stripper. So I never called her back.
I have kept in occasional contact with my ATF although I haven't seen her in 7 years. She actually graduated school and has a legitimate job. I consider her a friend.
So far my ATF will still talk to me and see me every once a while even though they no longer dance. I doubt it will last much longer though, I can tell they would rather be done with "that life."
It depends on the break the dancer makes. If she is making a complete break from the lifestyle, then I’d expect her to drop all of her club (itc/otc) contacts from her phone.
In certain cases, I’d think the dancer would simply destroy her business phone, and drop the service.
If the dancer is retiring from dancing, and still plans to meet select clients otc, then I’d expect her to possibly trim her contact list (to otc clients - and potential otc clients only).
Since some dancers get married and want a full break - I’d expect them to simply destroy their business phone.
larry-->"Interesting player, I hadn’t thought of the OTC aspect. I wonder with those ones that were doing OTC while they were stripping, if they continue to do OTC when they retire from stripping? Or are they just done with everything?"
If they are making a full break, no. Many times, the stripper herself is hedging her bets, isn't really sure she's making a clean break. Every time, I've continued to OTC in that type of situation. I once had a fave who quit the club but who I knew was terrified of trying to make it in the real world. I guess to hedge her bets, she kept OTCing with me for about 2 months, until she got a civilian job she was happy with, then she ghosted.
-->"In certain cases, I’d think the dancer would simply destroy her business phone, and drop the service. "
Exactly. Well, not "destroy her business phone" literally, but drop her google voice number. Often, her best regulars will have her real number, not her google voice number, and in those cases, I've seen them just get an entirely new "real" phone number also.
my ATF only retired about 6 months ago. She was trying to "de-whore-afy her life" though I suspect that was because she was tired of the boyfriend calling her a whore. She's a full time waitress at a breasturant now. She works a lot more and makes a lot less, though I think it's much more stable income now than before. Her boyfriend knows I use to visit her at the club and from time to time I see him where she works and he always gives me the stink eye. To which I always think that a year ago his rent, drugs, phone and shoes were probably all paid for with money I gave her.
Anyway, her and I are still really good friends. We message each other a few times a week, and I try to stop into her work for some beers at least once a week, and we catch up on gossip. One week when her boyfriend was out of town she asked me to stop by her place to hang out.
I still tip her pretty good at the restaurant, so it's probably worth her time to keep everything friendly with me, but it seems pretty genuine. She confides in me and tells me stuff that I'm pretty sure she doesn't share with other customers. Will it last 10 years from now, probably not, but it would be great if it did because we've always got along great together.
I had a former favorite...is that a term FF? I had a FF that fucking HATES me now because I tried pushing her towards OTC and she didn't want to do it, so I moved on. I think she was starting to get dependent on the money I was giving her, so when that dried up, it screwed up a housing situation she was working on. Which I felt like she knew exactly what to do to fix her money issues, she just wasn't willing to go there. I still see her a lot and I think sometimes she approaches me by mistake, when she realizes it's me, she just says, are you good, and I just nod and she walks on.
Kind of amazing how different those two endings were. I guess one was the ATF's choice, and the other was mine.
My ATF is my age so she probably isn't retiring anytime soon. I'm not sure what will happen. Regardless of whether she keeps me in her life or not, I am indifferent to it.
I've got my own life to live and if she doesn't think I'm a significant part of her life then she isn't a big part of mine either.