I was very distraught by the recent school shooting in Florida. 17 kids dead and a disturbed young man who ruined many lives, including his own. I started thinking if somehow I could be making a difference. If I spent my retirement time and money helping young people, maybe I could leave the world a better place. Then, I got a text from a past favorite who hasn’t been at the club for a few months. She told me she was returning to the club and wants to see me (or what’s in my wallet). Does contributing to young or even old strippers make the world a better place, or is there more to life than empty, meaningless sex acts? Help me here, maybe it’s time to find something better in life?
Good on you for being disturbed enough by this incident to have some self-reflection. Apparently the M.O. is to be upset then go back to your previous life activities as memory fades until the next time, and we all know unfortunately, there will be a next time.
Many of us probably went through a period in our lives when we could have gone either way if we did not have some support structure around us, some of these young men may not have that, so any help they can get to not feel so marginalized is a plus.
Sometimes just a little love or show of concern for you can keep you from evil thoughts and acting them out. Sounds corny but it's true. Boys have it tougher in many ways than we did growing up. Many ways easier too I know.
One thing for certain we cant lock up our way out of this, although we do need to bring back mental confinement. This ridiculous idea of simply medicating and release is not working.
Why not do both? Spend some time volunteering to help young people and spend some money helping young strippers.
I started working with Big Brothers a few years ago and it is the most rewarding thing I have ever done. There are a lot of kids out there that need a positive role model in their life. The time you spend helping a kid that's had a hard life will be worth more than money.
Don't get me wrong, these charities need money as well to cover expenses. But I bet if you talk to the people that run them if they would prefer you to donate time or money they would say time. Even an hour a week is a lot more valuable to a kid in need than $100 a week donated to the charity.
The time donation will also be much more spiritually rewarding as well.
Please don’t give money to the strippers who whine and cry ab being broke. These girls just throw it away, which is why don’t have any. Give the strippers who make you feel good money.
I agree with doing some volunteer work. Lots of non profits can use volunteers in the office. There’s also habitat for humanity type organizations, where you help first hand. I save donating cash for times when I’m sure it will help.
I would suggest volunteering in orgs like Boys and Girls Club or Big Brothers Big Sisters. There are young people who need solid mentors and many are lacking this. Tusclers are perfect for this working shoulder to shoulder with youth lacking good, solid role models in the home.
I believe very strongly in mentoring, I have posted about it before, and I am involved in a police sponsored boys program. In my estimation there are very few things that give me as much satisfaction. I have been doing this for a number of years now and I have seen the results, making a difference in the life of a young person is a good thing.
@Bj99 Definitely, anything that you can do is helpful and appreciated. Help is always needed, money, time, it really doesn’t matter it all is important.
I really think the biggest need now, is in helping young single dads, but there are few organizations that help them, unless they have custody. And many organization won’t help a single mom, if the dad is in the home (where he should be!.. even if he’s a loser). A girl and a boy will both be messing around and into stuff they shouldn’t be, but when she gets pregnant, everyone rallies to help her, and get her support, while he is left flapping in the wind. Then, when he is still a loser, everyone calls him a deadbeat, and he might even lose his parenting rights. Everyone says, “well, good. He was a loser.” But the issue is that it still hurts the kids. No mentor is going to replace a kid’s parent. Tho I know it does help, and life isn’t perfect.
Even if you have a single dad working for you, you can pull him aside and make sure that he knows he can take off if his kid is sick, or go to a parent teacher conference (if possible). Something like this is just as good as donating money to a youth organization.
"I believe very strongly in mentoring, I have posted about it before, and I am involved in a police sponsored boys program. In my estimation there are very few things that give me as much satisfaction."
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Many of us probably went through a period in our lives when we could have gone either way if we did not have some support structure around us, some of these young men may not have that, so any help they can get to not feel so marginalized is a plus.
Sometimes just a little love or show of concern for you can keep you from evil thoughts and acting them out. Sounds corny but it's true. Boys have it tougher in many ways than we did growing up. Many ways easier too I know.
One thing for certain we cant lock up our way out of this, although we do need to bring back mental confinement. This ridiculous idea of simply medicating and release is not working.
I started working with Big Brothers a few years ago and it is the most rewarding thing I have ever done. There are a lot of kids out there that need a positive role model in their life. The time you spend helping a kid that's had a hard life will be worth more than money.
Don't get me wrong, these charities need money as well to cover expenses. But I bet if you talk to the people that run them if they would prefer you to donate time or money they would say time. Even an hour a week is a lot more valuable to a kid in need than $100 a week donated to the charity.
The time donation will also be much more spiritually rewarding as well.
I agree with doing some volunteer work. Lots of non profits can use volunteers in the office. There’s also habitat for humanity type organizations, where you help first hand. I save donating cash for times when I’m sure it will help.
I have been waiting 2+ years to write this post.
Even if you have a single dad working for you, you can pull him aside and make sure that he knows he can take off if his kid is sick, or go to a parent teacher conference (if possible). Something like this is just as good as donating money to a youth organization.
"I believe very strongly in mentoring, I have posted about it before, and I am involved in a police sponsored boys program. In my estimation there are very few things that give me as much satisfaction."
Is VinceMichaels your mentor?