I don't get stripper logic but thinking over this situation has kind of pissed me off. Dancer I'm attracted to comes over and tries to sell me some dances. We hash out the details, no VIP only floor dances, I offer $60, she counters with $100, we settle on $80. We got to the floor dance area in the corner of the room. We start the dance, she wants to dance for me; I just want to talk with her, nuzzle and cuddle her, and grope her body parts. She wants to rub her ass against my dick, I want her to face me the entire time.... Whatever. We find a compromised position where we're both getting what we want. She doesn't mind being touched but doesn't like attention from management when it happens.
The position the girl was in, facing away from me with all her fun bits facing out towards the club, is not a position I prefer her in. I prefer her straddling my lap and facing me. When she's facing away from me, management can see everything my hands are doing, and despite my relationship with them, I still like to keep everything discreet (I'm working on trying to give less of a fuck though). My main concern with her facing away from me is that it will make her stick out since practically every girl I dance with gets into the same position so management will want to know what is up with her; what freaky thing is she doing with me that no other girl has done?
And I'm right. She starts getting antsy thinking that management is watching her and as the second song ended, she asked me to just pay $40 instead of $80. I'm not into LDK but I was kind of pacing myself through the 4 songs. If I knew I was only going to get 2 dances, I would have been a bit more aggressive to maximize the groping. It kind of pisses me off, like I was robbed, even though I only paid $40 for 2 songs and got some good 2-way contact (hard to convince a girl for any amount of pussy play for less than $100 in Vegas).
Liwet,
Sort of hard to comment on as I wasn’t there and I’m not her. But maybe I can offer some guidance to help you in the right direction.
First, negotiation is about give and take. I agree with subraman in that win-win, rather than zero-sum is possible, for both you and her!
Second, something made her walk away from guaranteed money. dancers don’t normally do that. Think about that. She was okay with it, then something made her think it wasn’t worth it any more.
Third, she’s using defensive dancing. That’s a trick to get the club or bouncers to be the bad guy. She’s doing that for a reason.
Fourth, You got to ease into it and ease her into it. I know she’s a sex worker, and she agreed to 4-for-80, but there’s a way to touch a woman and ease into it, while working with consent, and still getting value an still getting the high mileage lappers that you want. Read how Chili Palmer, rogertex, Papi_Chulo, subraman, JS69 do it.
Fifth, she might have just been over stimulated from the shift or the week, and maybe her lady parts were tender. I dunno.
I’ll respond some more in the morning, time for bed.