Couples at strip clubs

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beekers
Maryland
I was at a club Saturday night. A dancer sat with me to chat, and said on Saturday nights they have a dinner special for couples, so there would probably be several couples to come later. I asked her if she liked dancing for couples (or the female of a couple). She said she didn't like it much because women tend to be more grabby than men, especially on the kitty. She surmised that perhaps they felt it was okay since they have one themselves.

She also said some of the women will wear very short skirts and no panties, and want some contact there during a dance. Apparently all this is supposed to get the male excited so they can go home and cap off the evening.

Well, surely enough, several couples did drift in. Some women were dressed hot, others not. There was one older couple who took a table near me. The female was pretty much facing away from me, but after a while I noticed she had her legs completely spread and whatever skirt she had on was about up to her hips. Because of where I was sitting I couldn't see if she was flashing, and I thought if the beaver looked anything like her head, I didn't want to see it anyway!

Does anyone have any female/couple experiences to share? I'd love to hear from any dancers on the board.

Happy clubbing!

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James1557
7 years ago
I have sometimes taken a sugar baby to clubs. She always wears a short dress with no underwear. Most dancers seem to be fine with it.
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Subraman
7 years ago
It's very common for me to bring strippers to the strip club (a different club than the one they work) during OTCs. On the whole, this is usually a great time. Any stripper who isn't anti-couple will gravitate towards us, since my OTC stripper will be the hottest female customer in the house, and from there there's often a lot two things I really love: 1. sensuality -- lots of flirting and complimenting and bedroom eyes each way and light petting, which really gets my gears going, and 2. some stripper commiserating, venting, story-telling, and gossip, which I fucking love, and get a front-row seat for. I usually buy a lap dance for my OTC stripper, but honestly, that doesn't do nearly as much for me as the extreme sensuality going on at the table.

The worst thing I can say is that once in a while, we seem to be mostly ignored, I assume for the standard reasons (many strippers don't like couples or female customers at all)
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lopaw
7 years ago
It's funny but as a solo female clubber I have no trouble getting a lot of attention from strippers, tho I don't dress slutty coz it's not my thang. But on the rare times that I club with a male friend (in a club where they don't know me) I often run into the "couples syndrome" where dancers don't approach. I can really commiserate with couples for that reason. I have spoken with a lot of dancers why they don't like couples and it is for the very reasons that the OP listed - the female in the couple is too grabby and is often commando, which isn't viewed upon favorably.Couples are viewed as wanting to use strippers as foreplay (often roughly) or looking for a 3some to take home for the night so they are often pariahs in a stripclub.
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Subraman
7 years ago
lopaw, I wonder if "solo female clubber", and perhaps one who is identifiably lesbian (not sure if you are), is a completely different category in the strippers' minds, than "bi curious female in a couple or group", "gay in front of men" type women, "prove to my BF how open-minded and wild I am" type women, etc. Wouldn't surprise me that a true female PL isn't treated the same as women in couples, bachelorette parties, etc.
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Eve
7 years ago
I don't wear panties, but that's not specifically for clubbing. I just hate panties. I go out clubbing with my boyfriend or a guy friend all the time when I myself am not working. I don't mind going to clubs because I like girls as much as the next fat 40 year old virgin sitting two tables away from me. I've never had a poor interaction with another dancer other than the general 'stay away from couples' vibe here and there, but more than half the time I go out to strip clubs, I make something happen.

Now when I'M the one wearing the platform heels, I'm very couples friendly. Unless it's just PAINFULLY obvious that the female of the pair just isn't going to enjoy herself and was obviously dragged in by her boyfriend or group of friends, then in that case, I may avoid them - because a poor attitude can be contagious and I don't need anyone, female or male, to try and break my happy mood. They very rarely come in to my bar, but once or twice, we've had a female or two girlfriends come in solely for the sake of openly trash talking the girls they see on stage. I don't know if it's because they're trying to look like a 'bad bitch' in front of their guy friends or boyfriends, but 100% of the time, it makes it very awkward or embarrassing to the rest of their party.

I can vouch for lopaw when it comes to how couples actually interact when giving them a dance.
I'd say about 25% of the time, a lone girl or couple gets a dance on me simply for the good fun of it and to have something to cheer about when they leave.
50% of the time, I dance for couples where the guy wants me to attempt to get his girlfriend super aroused or get off completely.
And then the last 25% are the couples that may or may not spend money on dances, but have asked me to play a part in a threesome they're attempting to score by the end of the night. Of course, I decline these because I'm not into the one-night stand thing or casual hookups with someone I've only talked to for less than 5 minutes.
So in my experience, more than half the time, couples are looking to get really dirty.

When I go clubbing, it's all primarily for good fun. It's not a requirement for the dancer to spread my legs and eat my soul out during a dance to determine if I have a good time or not... but hell. I won't complain if that's where the breeze takes us.
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Eve
7 years ago
I don't know where Lopaw generally ventures to monger, but in my town, almost every club requires female guests to have a male escort or at least one other girlfriend. They get very wary of girl customers that try to come in by themselves and just generally don't allow them in. So even if I wanted to get some eye candy on my own, I couldn't.
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theDirkDiggler
7 years ago
^ Yes. Clubs are very wary of prostitutes trying to pick up horny men, often for much less that it would cost to take one of the strippers out.

I notice that female patrons are often more bold with contact on the stage, and often get away with more. Almost as they think they're like another dancer touching another dancer and that the security will let it go. I did see one instance early in my SCing days where you weren't allowed to touch the girls at all on stage, and one homely chubby girl just grabbed a dancer's butt with both hands and the dancer snapped and the girl got thrown out, swearing how bad the club was that you couldn't touch, smh.

Does a female's touch even feel that much different or safer than a male PL's? What about dancers that are purely hetero or even strictly dickly, if they exist? It would be unreasonable to expect them to cater to women or even be comfortable with contact from them.
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lopaw
7 years ago
@Subraman - yes I identify as lesbian and although most dancers assume that I am bi I do get treated as any other PL walking thru the door. Most realize that since I am alone I must be there to buy dances. It's a totally different dynamic than when I am with either a male companion or in a mixed group of people.

@EveH - I monger in the LA/OC here in the SoCal area (as well as Vegas, Hawaii & Seattle) and have never had an issue entering a club. It's illegal to deny entrance to a woman simple because she IS a woman and a few lawsuits have been filed (and they have been won about this issue.) It continues in areas simply because no one has called them on it.....yet. :)

@ theDirkDiggler - I have been told many times from dancers that they generally prefer dancing for polite respectful women. And dancers will often use girl customers as stage props since it can help to sell dances to guys who like girl/girl interaction. It's good business.
No dancer has to cater to ANYONE. Each dancer decides for herself who she wants to dance for. Some love to dance for women, some don't. Plenty don;t dance for AA guys, or fat guys, or Indian guys, etc etc. The list goes on. As far as "strictly dickly" dancers go....I lost count of the number of straight dancers that have danced for me and some of them were so good I didn't believe that they weren't at least bisexual. But afterwards they told me they were staright. Do you really think that every straight dancer is sexually attracted to all of her male customers? Lol if you do I got some beachfront property in Arizona that I'd like to sell to you, lol.
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rane1234
7 years ago
Lesbians and swingers freaks need their own club. Just fukk up the atmosphere.
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lopaw
7 years ago
^^^you don't like it? Then don't go. Doubt you'd be missed.
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Book Guy
7 years ago
I wonder what would be my own chances, as a single male patron attending a strip club, of getting picked up by the bored housewife who is half of a couple attending a strip club, maybe because she got dragged there by her unappealing husband despite not really wanting to attend a strip club, and now she's horned up, pissed off, and wants to get even. Just thinking out loud...
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theDirkDiggler
7 years ago
^ No, i'm not attracted to every woman that has touched me (masseuse, health care professional, and yes even dancer), but there is no way i would be comfortable with any man touching me in a sensual or sensitive way. I know there are plenty of men like me, but i don't know if there are may women that feel the same respectively or why they would work at a strip club if they felt the female customer was a big part of their income. It usually isn't though. Most of the clubs i go to, the females (almost always in couples, except for the Admiral Theatre in Chicago) "usually" don't spend big money on the dancers and mostly just on the stage. Heck, i would argue that most men don't spend big money either. It's just a small percentage of PLs, and most of them aren't women. Just my observation.
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theDirkDiggler
7 years ago
Having said, that i don't mind the presence of attractive female customers at the SC. Especially if they get pulled on stage or have their clothes removed by the dancers or even wilder stuff...
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rane1234
7 years ago
Sthu lowpaw no one was talking to you woman
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Jascoi
7 years ago
this is getting even more interesting... rane123... keep digging. only a few more feet.
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rane1234
7 years ago
Retarded caveman in the mix now...i take all comers, no homo
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Papi_Chulo
7 years ago
"... they very rarely come in to my bar, but once or twice, we've had a female or two girlfriends come in solely for the sake of openly trash talking the girls they see on stage. I don't know if it's because they're trying to look like a 'bad bitch' in front of their guy friends or boyfriends, but 100% of the time, it makes it very awkward or embarrassing to the rest of their party ..."

To me that comes across as jealousy and hatin' on the female custy's part.
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Papi_Chulo
7 years ago
My understanding about dancers not wanting to approach couples is b/c the female can often be finicky - i.e. most women can get more easily offended than most men thus it seems dancers have to tread more carefully w/ the female - e.g. there is not much a dancer can do that will offend a male-custy and many dancers do about anything to get a custy interested, i.e. they'll just come-up to the guy, sit on his lap, put her arms around-him and maybe kiss him on the cheek, or more (show him her tits and put his hands on her tits), all part of the hustle for many dancers - one can see this not going-over very-well if the guy's S.O. is there at least w/ many a female custy, thus dancers feel they gotta tone-it-down if not work harder and/or not be able to employ "all the tools in their hustle" to close a sale; kinda like walking on glass kinda-thing - not saying it's always this way but probably more common w/ women that are their b/c the guy wants them to be and/or women not used to the SC-environment (not experienced SCers); and it's not always easy to tell what kinda female custy she is.
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SirLapdancealot
7 years ago
My wife and I go from time to time, but she doesn't like women so she dresses nice to go out but she would never allow a dancer to feel her up. And in my experience strippers are more forward with her than they are with me by myself. And with her there I pretty much get only air dance teases. My thought is that the strippers don't want to piss off a female by groping on her man, so they go for her instead.
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