This morning, my wife officially retired. This will change a lot of things, not to mention my clubbing habit which is liable to take a big hit since my wife won't be flying all over the country.
Biggest of all will be that we will be together a LOT more than we have been in all 35 years of our marriage.
Will we survive it? Any odds being offered by my TUSCL friends? ;-)
I would need a lot more information before I could take a guess on that. I will say that there is life after divorce. I did it after 27 years and strip clubbing did not play any part in it.
Yup. I've been retired playing chief cook and bottle washer for a year and a half.
Lol, I'm not expecting anything divorce worthy. But I do know there will be changes!
Good Q! I read that the rate is 16% after retirement .... which is much lower than the total rate. Good luck.
Hire a hitman
Knock Knock. I hope you know, odds are you've been sharing that pussy, If you can handle that. Then ?
Tell her she's too young to retire and that she has a lot of good years left in her.
If she's into it start taking her to the club with you.
Convince her to start volunteering somewhere - India or something
Introduce her to the joys of TUSCL and afternoon SC visits. You'll never have to go to the club by yourself again.
Papi, she's already been to Kenya....
Probably not a strip club candidate as a retired church professional;-)
It's always the quiet ones who are the kinkiest...
"... Papi, she's already been to Kenya ..."
Send her again - tell her Kenya needs her more than you do - that you are willing to sacrifice for the good of the Kenyan people
:)
Lol Corvus :) You never know, ATACdawg..... Maybe she's just a couple drinks away from "Retired Church Professionals Gone Wild"?
If you love her, this is an opportunity to rekindle the fire. She may not be as hot as a stripper at this point but it may be just as fulfilling to be with someone who as your wife is supposed to be your best friend. Just my two cents.
Good luck, I agree with rh48hr.
My condolences. I'd try to find excuses for you to travel. You'll be miserable if you have to cut way back on strippers.
Congratulations to your wife. That's a great milestone! Enjoy the extra time you are able to spend together. I hope you enjoy each other more now - and if your clubbing habit takes a hit - I hope it's replaced with something even better.
Appreciate the comments, guys, especially yours, rh48hr!
BTW, rh, how about those Penguins!!!!!!
ATAC,
We've been married 46 years today. The wife never worked other than to do the most important work a woman can do, be a mother!
Recent issues have had the same effect on us as your wife retiring has on you. Together basically 24x7. And yes, it can take a toll. One plus for you, it isn't a health issue. Best of luck to you!
ATACdawg, Now is a good opportunity to create a "new" relationship with your newly retired wife. Establish a few new things you can do together, and find ways to be apart! She will eventually find things to do that do not involve you, but it is a good idea to encourage her to seek those interests. Over the short term, it is possible for you both to see TOO much of each other, especially if she is feeling a little "lost" after her retirement. Be patient, but also proactive. Push her out of the house, and spend time away from your home as well!
This is a great opportunity to kindle a new romance with her, but that will not happen if you two are tripping over each other all day long. While you help her get busy, you can create in her mind that you, also, need to have various outside interests. One of those interests should be SCs (or a hobby or sport that covers the same times, if you haven't disclosed to her your interest in hot naked strippers)
Good luck, good hunting.
You need to start "volunteering" and "donating" your time to various causes and efforts she would not be interested in nor want to accompany you on
It's possible to be married, have a wife who is stay-at-home (or retired), and still visit clubs. Just saying.... ;)
Congratulations though. I like to see people live to and earn retirement. Best of luck to both of you.
Take up "golf" or "hiking" or any sort of hobby that gives you an excuse to get out of the house.
Pick up marathon running and tell her you need to train 4 hours at a time
(or long-distance bike-riding)
Actually, we have a 39' boat which I use more often than she does, and is closer to my favorite Baltimore club. The budget will be the bigger issue, particularly in the near term since we will be delaying her SS payments for a few months.
And Papi. I tried the hit man option, but someone seems to have hired them all.....
Knowing that you are a religious man, I'm curious to know what you think of my thesis?
SJG
Well, SJG, I've said it before. I have never gone "all the way", no oral, no vaginal sex with anyone but my wife. If my ATF were to ask, I would have a very hard time saying no. Luckily, she is now with a very nice guy. If it came down to it, I hope that I would say no. I'd hate myself in the morning either way, lol.
Yes, I understand your position. I'm not at this time challenging any aspect of it.
But look at my thread. Do you think long term strict monogamy usually requires both:
?
SJG
No. Religious support? Probably helpful depending on denomination. Desexualization? Not really. What is really important is mutual respect. I could give up the habit if necessary, for instance if it started to threaten my marriage.
SJG, we have that, and have for the last 30 years. Even though my wife desire has been wiped out by menopause, sex really wasn't, and isn't now, the most important aspect of our relationship.
And that is how I stay monogamous.
No. Religious support? Probably helpful depending on denomination. Desexualization? Not really. What is really important is mutual respect. I could give up the habit if necessary, for instance if it started to threaten my marriage.
SJG, we have that, and have for the last 30 years. Even though my wife desire has been wiped out by menopause, sex really wasn't, and isn't now, the most important aspect of our relationship.
And that is how I stay monogamous.
I must not be doing a very good job of explaining myself. JS69 asked if most guys eventually cheat.
My hypothesis is that most guys aren't going to live strict monogamy unless they have both of the two:
Now of course, some guys end relationships. Some guys end marriages. This, serial monogamy, is not cheating. It is out in the open. But it is still not monogamy.
So do you agree that most guys who live strict monogamy would not do it without conservative religious affiliation supporting them?
Do you agree that to live strict monogamy one is required to accept a large degree of desexualization, loss of the intensity and thrill, and all the other parts of sex which make porno movies great, loss of the transcended spirituality which the pagan temples of the ancient world offered, loss of the further sexual development which a guy often misses out on when he gets married, loss of the tantric intensity which makes sex into a religious experience?
SJG
Stokely Carmichael At UC Berkeley - Black Power youtube.com
I'm sorry the answers that I have given font satisfy you, but they're all you are going to get.
One thing I have never been able to understand, how could any guy spend his Sunday mornings in church. And worst of all, how could any guy spend his Sunday morning listening to a sermon?
They must be living in places without Viet Coffee.
Maybe some of our church going folks would be able to answer this?
SJG
Killing Me Softley youtube.com
Make the best of it. I'm sure it will take her sometime to wind down from working everyday, and it probably won't be easy for her either.
BUT - all of us like banging strippers but banging your wife is usually a lot cheaper.
I'm sure you two will find some new things to do.
Are you retired too?