For me, I pretty much have to have full two way contact in order to fully enjoy a lap dance, I can't see getting more than one dance if my hands didn't get to roam unless the dancer was insanely hot. But even then id probably get bored and frustrated after a couple songs. I haven't gotten a lap dance that didn't include full two way since I started going back to strip clubs a couple years ago so this hasn't been a problem. Probably about half the dancers have also let me suck their tits.
I haven't encountered the following scenario yet and I can't imagine any stripper doing this but it's a good hypothetical question. If you had to choose between being able to squeeze a dancers tits but not being allowed to suck and/or bury your face in them or being able to suck on them but not allowed to touch them in any other way which would you choose?
As much as I love sucking on nipples I think I'd have to go with the squeezing but no sucking. Something about being able to squeeze a dancers tits (real or fake) pretty much as hard as I want is a huge turn on. Being able to squeeze them also makes it easier for me to LDK.
Years ago a dancer once told me not to use strip clubs for sexual gratification because that is perverted. What I take that to mean is that it is not ordinary sex, not even real sex. No such thing as too much good sex, but what you are describing is not that.
So what are the good ways to use strip clubs:
Because you want to imbibe the ambiance, the dolled up hotties in high heels, intending to please, and then go find outside women to re-create that.
Because you want some sort of outside experiences with the dances.
Either way you won't need to go very often to get these, as you will be seeing girls outside.
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